how can i recover from the shame i feel for having anxiety disorders?

Answer 1

You say shame I no longer want you in my life because I have anxiety and I will not be ashamed of it. It is my bodies natural way of dealing with things and while it may fall short for others, it is my way.

Answer 2

Shame or embarassment? Maybe you can just take a look at the statistics. Anxiety disorders are the most prevalent mental disorders in society. In fact, a majority of people have some type of anxiety issues, so in reality, you are a part of the normal crowd. On 9-11 when the planes crashed into the twin towers, were you aprehensive about flying? Did you ever tell yourself months later that it was ok to fly because there are tons more flights that land safely than those that don't? That's taking stake in the numbers...statistics. A first time mom goes into the labor room scared to death of the pain she could experience, but then tells herself that millions of others have gone through the same thing, so she can do it too.

If that doesn't help, then join a support group of others in your community with anxiety disorders so you understand that you aren't alone, and learn how others cope. If your symptoms become embarassing moments, then seek ways to control the symptoms with therapy, counseling, or medications. If you aren't experiencing the symptoms, then you can put the simple fact that you have an anxiety disorder on the back burner.

Answer 3

SubhanAllah Who is your Lord Allah (swt). He has ninety names: Allah The Greatest Name Ar-Rahman 1 The All-Compassionate Ar-Rahim 2 The All-Merciful Al-Malik 3 The Absolute Ruler Al-Quddus 4 The Pure One As-Salam 5 The Source of Peace Al-Mu'min 6 The Inspirer of Faith Al-Muhaymin 7 The Guardian Al-'Aziz 8 The Victorious Al-Jabbar 9 The Compeller Al-Mutakabbir 10 The Greatest Al-Khaliq 11 The Creator Al-Bari' 12 The Maker of Order Al-Musawwir 13 The Shaper of Beauty Al-Ghaffar 14 The Forgiving Al-Qahhar 15 The Subduer Al-Wahhab 16 The Giver of All Ar-Razzaq 17 The Sustainer Al-Fattah 18 The Opener Al-'Alim 19 The Knower of All Al-Qabid 20 The Constrictor Al-Basit 21 The Reliever Al-Khafid 22 The Abaser Ar-Rafi' 23 The Exalter Al-Mu'izz 24 The Bestower of Honors Al-Mudhill 25 The Humiliator As-Sami 26 The Hearer of All Al-Basir 27 The Seer of All Al-Hakam 28 The Judge Al-'Adl 29 The Just Al-Latif 30 The Subtle One Al-Khabir 31 The All-Aware Al-Halim 32 The Forebearing Al-'Azim 33 The Magnificent Al-Ghafur 34 The Forgiver and Hider of Faults Ash-Shakur 35 The Rewarder of Thankfulness Al-'Ali 36 The Highest Al-Kabir 37 The Greatest Al-Hafiz 38 The Preserver Al-Muqit 39 The Nourisher Al-Hasib 40 The Accounter Al-Jalil 41 The Mighty Al-Karim 42 The Generous Ar-Raqib 43 The Watchful One Al-Mujib 44 The Responder to Prayer Al-Wasi' 45 The All-Comprehending Al-Hakim 46 The Perfectly Wise Al-Wadud 47 The Loving One Al-Majíd 48 The Majestic One Al-Ba'ith 49 The Resurrector Ash-Shahid 50 The Witness Al-h Haqq 51 The Truth Al-Wakil 52 The Trustee Al-Qawi 53 The Possessor of All Strength Al-Matin 54 The Forceful One Al-Wáli 55 The Governor Al-Hamid 56 The Praised One Al-Muhsi 57 The Appraiser Al-Mubdi 58 The Originator Al-Mu'id 59 The Restorer Al-Muhyi 60 The Giver of Life Al-Mumit 61 The Taker of Life Al-Hayy 62 The Ever Living One Al-Qayyum 63 The Self-Existing One Al-Wajid 64 The Finder Al-Májid 65 The Glorious Al-Wahid 66 The Only One Al-Ahad 67 The One As-Samad 68 The Satisfier of All Needs Al-Qadir 69 The All Powerful Al-Muqtadir 70 The Creator of All Power Al-Muqaddim 71 The Expediter Al-Mu'akhkhir 72 The Delayer Al-Awwal 73 The First Al-Akhir 74 The Last Az-Zahir 75 The Manifest One Al-Batin 76 The Hidden One Al-Walí 77 The Protecting Friend Al-Muta'ali 78 The Supreme One Al-Barr 79 The Doer of Good At-Tawwib 80 The Guide to Repentance Al-Muntaqim 81 The Avenger Al-Afu 82 The Forgiver Ar-Ra'uf 83 The Clement Malik al-Mulk 84 The Owner of All Dhul-Jalali Wal-Ikram 85 The Lord of Majesty and Bounty Al-Muqsit 86 The Equitable One Al-Jami 87 The Gatherer Al-Ghani 88 The Rich One Al-Mughni 89 The Enricher Al-Mani' 90 The Preventer of Harm Ad-Darr 91 The Creator of The Harmful An-Nafi 92 The Creator of Good An-Nur 93 The Light - Al-Hadi 94 The Guide- Al-Badi 95 The Originator Al-Baqi 96 The Everlasting One Al-Warith 97 The Inheritor of All Ar-Rashid 98 The Righteous Teacher- As-Sabur 99 The Patient One- Seriously what more can you ask for?! Allah (swt) loves forgiving.. say alhamdulilah you are alive today and make a difference. He will forgive you inshAllah amin, make a new start and forget the past.. all you can do now is pray and repent and make duaa for a better future inshAllah amin. This life is a prison but show that you can pass this prison and so you can find eternal happiness in the hereafter. You will be in my prayers inshAllah, only you can make a different.. and I will pray that you do inshAllah. May Allah help us all and forgive us for all the wrong we have done and guide us to the siraat-al mustaqeem amin.

Answer 4

I've delt with anxiety for many years now. It stopped me from doing many things that normal people did and set my life back. Because of my set back I had a lot of shame. People I knew but were not close to would ask about my life and I would lie just so I wouldn't have to admit how sad my life had become. Which just made me feel even more shameful.
I'm just now getting my life back on track thanks to therpy and meds. With that I have new understanding of my anxiety. You are not to blame for your anxiety so you have nothing to be ashamed of. Putting yourself down will not help you get better but being more positive with yourself will help. For example, if your working toward making yourself better and getting help for your anxiety then that's really super! Just coming on here and asking this question is a step in the right direction. You know you have a set back but your wanting to get better. Anxiety can be a long and rough ride to recovery but it will make you a stronger person. All though it may not seem like it your already stronger for dealing with it. Just don't give up hope. Sometimes it may feel like it will never end but as long as your struggle to get better you will find some way through it all.

Answer 5

You don't ever feel shame. You are a person and having anxiety is nothing to be ashamed of. Being a drug addict is something to be ashamed of. Do things that make you proud of yourself and make you feel good to be you. My eight year old daughter has severe anxiety disorders, it is hard to deal with from time to time, but anyone who loves you understands that it is something you have that you didn't chose to have. People have high blood pressure, cancer, MS, these are health problems just as yours. It is not a choice as I said with drugs or being abusive. Hold your head high that you are who you are and take every day one day at a time. Therapy or mild medications could help you a lot also. I am sure you have a good heart, so start with that on learning to love you for who you are and respect yourself . Once you do that, the shame will disappear. I am not sure I helped at all, but I hope someone can help you feel better about yourself.

P.S. I sure do hope that poptart made a typo "should"-Shouldn't" maybe??

Answer 6

First of all..do not feel ashamed. Anxiety disorders are common, especially these days.
Maybe you can never cure it, but you can learn to manage your anxiety, and you will cope much better. Believe in yourself and take things in small steps at a time, do not pressure yourself.
Every day, do something nice for yourself. And 'talk to yourself' in a nice way. Discuss it with your doctor, or close friend or family member, take a course on relaxation, there is plenty of help out there. Eat well, sleep well, get some exercise, enjoy and be happy.

Answer 7

Why should you feel shame for something that is completely natural and you have no control over? Our minds react to stimuli differently...you suffer from anxiety, I suffer from panic. Do I feel ashamed from what's happening? Of course not. I would try to seek out answers as to what is causing the anxiety.

You may never find the answers. But guilt and shame are not to blame. Your feelings of anxiety may have been developed well before you were born.

Answer 8

Well, I am sorry for those couple of rude answers above. I was shocked at how those people reacted to your serious question. I feel ashamed too. It is depressing, but no one else knows how people feel inside or what they think or feel or interpret things. You should not be ashamed. Just be happy that you are getting help and trying to do better each day in overcoming this. It is normal, but some people have that problem worse than others. I sure do and I know it and yes it can be shameful to me as well. I usually don't talk about it to anyone or at least don't let them know the extent of it--just refer to it as stress. Talk to your doctor and get some medicine. That is what I did. I still have manic and anxious feelings and I actually am in that state of mind right now.

Answer 9

Your shame is a choice you made. Anxiety disorders are nothing to be ashamed about. Many people hide them. Those who bring it out in the open are the ones to be admired. The public needs to be educated about mental and emotional illness and learn that its not something to be whispered about in the office gossip. It is up to those of us sufferers to make people feel comfortable talking about these issues. Let's show them we're not ashamed of our illness and encourage questions.

Answer 10

Think you bust your arm in half you have to go to the doctor to get it fixed. What is the difference of having a mental disorder, it can be a chemical disorder (Not your fault) you go to the doctor and have them fix it. Its life I have the same problem you just have to learn to know that "it is what it is" then ask yourself how you are going to manage it. Be accepting that is the first way to work on it. And remember now is not forever. I hope this all makes sense to you. Good Luck