them the problem is that he has 4 sisters and 1 brother when he was little his older brother left their house so can you imagine he was like the only boy there well and his dad so his mom and sisters did everything for him they cleaned his room, when he was done eating he wouldnt even pick up his plate!!!! The guy is a total mess he loses everything, he even forgets to flush the toilet ewwww! They got married and then they got divorced because of that. then they got married again cause he was starting to change.but it is coming back. me and my mom have talked to him we have had so many fightswith him cause of this i am tired of telling him that my mom and me are not his housekeepers so clean up your mess!!!! please help me i need advice anything is apreciated!!!!
2006-12-07 15:12:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
we always tell him nicely to put away his things he is like a lil kid and if this guy doesnt stop i am gonna go live wit my dad for real.
2006-12-07 15:29:02 · update #1
i say divorce again..u cant live wif a pig who cant clean up after his mess..
2006-12-07 15:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by jen R. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should understand a few things first. Different people have a different sense of order. What for you can be a mess for other people can only be convenient (for instance leaving the clothes that you are going to reuse the next day in a visible place instead of back into the closet). That said, there must be some middle point which can be agreed on. This is something that you should talk to your mom and him and reach a consensus of what is allowed behavior and what is not. Keep in mind that you can't force people to do things the way you do and that is probably the biggest challenge to live in a couple/family/society.
2006-12-07 15:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to love him. There are some things so ingrained in people its impossible to change them. I've done the nearly same thing , taken a mass weapon of destruction back into my life. I don't let him live with us though, we just can't cope with it. He can visit but he must take every bit of rubbish, every beer can and his toothbrush back out the door with him. Unfortunately they married...you will just have to bear with it. Maybe even give him some part of the house (preferably the garage or shed) where he can slob out if he leaves the rest of the place in an unwarzone like manner. My other half has no idea that his slobbiness is inconsiderate to other members of the household - he just don't get it!
2006-12-07 15:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well It looks like you are between a rock and a hard place... If you have a dad then tell your mom that if you have to clean up this guys messes that you are going to go live with your dad or grand parents... I would have never married a man that my child could not get along with.. You are right you shouldn't have to clean up after him...It sounds like your mom has been thinking with her rose colored heart and not her head... It sounds like she is fixing to loose a daughter... I do hope your dad is around...talk to your dad....
2006-12-07 15:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have the dazzling to experience the way your experience, yet your mom does besides. It feels like your mom is residing her existence. that is superb that she will communicate with you approximately issues that upset her, or maybe however a "massive ring" isn't significant to maximum human beings you could not replace her concepts approximately it. It feels like she's been set on it for an prolonged time. you are going to be able to on no account comprehend why your mom needs a huge ring, whether that is significant to her. That being mentioned, possibly you could advise on your mom that she could purchase herself a very good ring or piece of rings. it may well be a stunning present to herself if she offered her very own piece of rings. it ought to not be the engagement ring she needs, yet because of the fact that she will't "make" anybody get a hoop for her, she desires to do it for herself.
2016-10-17 23:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if he was trying to change, probably the easiest and nicest way to handle this is gentle reminders when he forgets to clean up messes. If he truly wants to put in the effort he'll sooner or later become better at reminding himself. This will also work because you'll see him put in the effort, and be reminded he's not doing it on purpose to hurt your feelings or take advantage.
2006-12-07 15:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go live with your dad that sounds like the best thing for you. That man will never change all men have a childish nature some more than others.
2006-12-07 16:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing much you can do. If I were you, I certainly wouldn't clean up his messes, but otherwise it 's your mom's problem. I think you might want to seriously consider living with your dad
2006-12-07 15:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless you are paying the rent, I suggest you just live with it. You are not the adult in this situation. I say stay out of the way, and wait to grow up. If he's not abusing you in any way, if he helps pay the bills, you are luckier than a lot of people.
2006-12-07 15:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by hoodoowoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there really isn't much you can do since your mom is tolerating this guy's behavior. My only advice is to stay away from him so you aren't the one stuck cleaning up his messes.
2006-12-07 15:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋