those who cut themselfs..........?

Question

i think my friend is a cutter and if they are i want to help them stop so bad. what are some signs of them being cutters and what are some conversation starters to talk to them to help them stop cutting?

Answer 1

for some people, the signs are either hard to see or arent there at all. i'm not sure about that one.
if your friend really is cutting him/herself, i think the best (but hardest) way is to be direct. 'cause its pretty drn important. try to let 'em know how it affects you.

*edit* sorry, i wrote "father" instead of "friend" the first time.

anyways, i dont cut, but i grew up with friends who did. what i did was make sure they knew i'll be there for them if they need me.

people cut for different reasons and we cant help them unless we know what those reasons are. so, listen to them. i just went straight out and asked them what's wrong.

i'll update if i get more info. if i get the opportunity, i'll talk to my friends who've cut.

goodluck

Answer 2

You will not be able to stop them from cutting. The best (and only) think you can do as a friend is to be there for them to downoad to. Cutting is an anxiety disorder that is self-destructive and addictive. The behavior if cutting is their outlet for physical pain, to avoid their emotional pain. Other people numb their pain with drugs or alcohol. Cutters inflict woulnds upon themselves. You need to be a good listener with UNCONDITIONAL POSITIVE REGARD. That doesn't mean you have to agree or validate tham in any way, You just need to be NON-JUDGEMENTAL of them and demonstrate EMPATHY for their experiences.
All people alive want to be recognized, appreciated, cared about, liked, approved of, espected, and admired. Keeping that in mind, when you talk with this friend, listen to their pain. Acknowledge it, understand how it must be for them. Then remind them of all the admirable things about them, appreciate them for the things they do, respect their need to lean on you for support, and recognize their strength. Remind them of their power to shape their destiny.
That is all you can so as a friend. You might not be able to stop their self-destructive behavior, but with your support, your encouragement, and your unconditional positive regard, with any luck, they might find a greated outlet in you, rather than cutting.
If you really want guaranteed help and results, seek professional help for them, or urge them to themselves.
Take care!

Answer 3

ask them how they are and how they are holding up and if they need to talk about something if they don't respond to that then you may need to just confront them straight up, if they answer thEn that is their choice you can't force anyone to talk about anything they don' t want people can't get help if they don't wanna help themselves first.