We have had our share of good and bad times this is true. This past week has been not so good. He thinks I have been going through to much to be my rock. I have recently had some wierd health probs but everything from the Dr says I am ok. Long story short I am now happy and not worried. But because of my worrying earlier this week he has been getting distant. Emotionally not there and it makes me even more concerned. Even though I am happy now, this wierdness is making it linger. Tonight he was tired then all of a sudden he wanted to go out and drink with his friends and not hang out. I keep feeling more and more alone and less and less sane. Now he says he isnt coming home tonight because I tried to reason with him and show him we can hang out together and fix things with us first. He left and he seems so pissed he was bug eyed and grinding his teath speechless in my face. Then he said I dont want a girlfriend right now and I am not coming home tonight. What do I do?
2006-12-07 14:59:46 · 21 answers · asked by fancy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ouch. Glad to hear your feeling better though.
Listen, give it a few days. He may be experiencing issues that were pushed to the side when your health problems came to light and may feel a bit neglected. Guys often have this uncontrollable need to fix things. Your health problems were beyond his control, understanding or capabilities to repair. The other side is that you may be his rock which has now shown vulnerability. Guys are a fickle ( I hate to admit that) and have difficulty confessing both our feelings and fears.
2006-12-07 15:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Daddy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well your in a very tight spot right now , if you think you guys can work things out , then its worth a try , but if he don't want to give it a go , then theres only one thing for it , you must each go your separate ways , us men are weird things ..well not all of us , but most are very weird when it comes to stuff like this , but it looks like he has made his mind up about it , so if things cant be saved , then save yourself a lot of hurt and let go ... BUT .. try to go your separate ways without any bad feelings if possible , that will make the separation much better for the both of you , and you will get over it faster .... hope you get to sort this out .. good luck and keep well ...
2006-12-07 15:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What can you do? Two people have to both "want in" for any relationship to work and to last. It sounds like there's only one out of two of you who want in on this one. Bid him farewell and don't regret the last seven years, you probably learned quite a bit about what you really want from a relationship / in life and the next one will be better for it. One word of advice, knock off the "less and less sane" stuff, no one is worth that kind of problem. Stay strong, even if you don't feel particularly strong.
2006-12-07 15:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say u should let it go, its hard 4 me to say that because u have invested so much time in the relationship, but I don't think its u, I think that maybe he met someone else. If u stay it wil get worse and the crying will start and the pain will start, spare yourself the agony of all of that and shed a couple of tears and love yourself for awhile.
2006-12-07 15:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by songbirdz03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave it alone for now. let him think abut what he said just play the victim . I mean there is a lot of things you could do
1. pretend you don't care
2. you can go out too why NOT?
3. Don't call him ,wait until he calls.
go to sleep right now, try not to get stress out.
He just wants an excuse to go out.
when he comes back talk to him and tell him that you could go out with your friends too. DON'T WORRY is gonna be o.k.
2006-12-07 15:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by Iram 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You read "The Proper Care of Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura and then after you are done reading it...you call him. When you're done reading it, you'll know how to make him go absolutely crazy over you (maybe it should be called "Proper Care and Feeding of Wives" instead? lol)
Your lives will change for the better dramatically.
2006-12-07 15:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Edward 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the one who CHOSE to live with the guy without benefit of marriage...Things like this happen all too often. That's why one shouldn't live with anyone they don't have plans to marry. It's too easy to just walk away from a semi permanent relationship.
2006-12-07 15:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes there is not much you can do. You two have been together for quite a while but if he isn't into the relationship anymore there is nothing you can do about it. I would definitely recommend talking to him and telling him how you feel.
2006-12-07 15:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by answergirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is expressing a strong desire to end the relationship, so if you keep trying to fix it, he may just more and more distant acting. Yes, it hurts when i guy backs off, but trying to convince him otherwise will just lead to more hurt.
2006-12-07 15:02:52 · answer #9 · answered by rivkadacat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not married after seven years.... Girl it isn't going to happen...He has never had any intention of staying with you for the long haul...He was just waiting for the right woman to come along. Maybe he has found her.
2006-12-07 15:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋