i am a 26 year old male and have suffered from depression and anxiety for as long as i can remember. these conditions are terrible for a guy to have because guys need to be strong, mentally and physically, and these conditions indicate a weak state of mind. it is especially hard in regards to dealing with women. once they find out you have problems like this, you're screwed. never getting another girlfriend, all because you were dealt the short end of the mental genetic and environmental stick.
my neurosis cripples all effort.
2006-12-07 14:59:38 · 10 answers · asked by P 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am a man who suffers with depression and and anxiety as well, and I take medication for these things. I do believe that the world has a greater expectation of men to be of stable mind. I don't think hope is lost at all though.
I would suggest that you visit the mentally ill community. Join groups in your town or any number of chats online like stepchat. I met my wife through participation in the mentally ill community, and it has been so rewarding.
I thought I'd never find love because of my depression and anxiety and that somehow I was 'less of a man.' There are a lot of wonderful people who want their fair shot at a normal life including love and relationships that can find compassion and understanding by looking within the community that is looking for all the same things you are.
So get out there, join some support groups, participate in activities within the mental health community, and you will soon find yourself connecting to the opposite sex in ways you never thought possible. There are a lot of people out there with love to give someone and are just waiting for you to find them!
2006-12-07 15:13:14 · answer #1 · answered by MthrNatures_Son 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello P, I also have depression & anxiety. And am female. I think the Pendulum swings both ways equally between the sexes. The difference is how the sexes handle the disorders.
Women run for help. Men, for the most part, run away from help.
First, men have to get past the denial. re: your post, men are big & strong! This is a stereotype that few men rise to. Same goes for the "be all" woman. It's simply impossible to be all those things, even without the disorders. Having these disorders does not indicate a weak state of mind. Our minds are fine. It's our brains that have a chemical glitch. A glitch which can be dealt with. When you ask a lady out, & she accepts, don't feel the need to tell her about these disorders on the first date...or even the 10th. The anxiety & depression are part of you but not entirely you. Let someone get to know you, for you, first! And as a relationship grows, you will know when to share this, when you feel it safe that you can. There a literally millions of people with these disorders and they have relationships. And you can too! Good Luck!
2006-12-07 15:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by Sandra Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work in the mental health field, and if you are not on medication for your depression and anxiety, run, don't walk to your doctor. Also, get into counselling of some kind and take care of yourself first before you try to take on the added stress of a relationship. If you genuinely seek and receive help, and are willing to make some changes to help yourself, most women will be willing to recognize that and at least give you a chance. However, if you're spending all your time sitting on a pity-pot and moaning about how terrible your life is and how NO-BODY understands you - that gets old to people pretty quick and they will begin to avoid you. Look for the things that give you joy in life. Depression is often the result of a chemical imbalance and can be helped with medication, but you have to be willing to let go of it. Don't let yourself get so comfortable in your misery that you'd rather be messed up than happy.
2006-12-07 15:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by nana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Males and females are "screwed" differently if they have a mental disorder.
It also varies with the type of mental disorder and the particular person's ability to cope, the degree of support they can receive from their social network and health care professionals, and essentially their ability and willpower to make change within their lives.
2006-12-07 15:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the 1960's, the scientific group viewed homosexuality a intellectual disease that wanted healing. However years of study, the scientific group might no longer uncover conclusive proof of any intellectual incapacity. In 1973, the American Psychiatric Association declassified homosexuality as a intellectual disease. Now the talk has shifted whether or not homosexuality is by way of nature (you're born with it) or nurture (you have been encouraged by way of it).
2016-09-03 10:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that yes, it most likely is more difficult for a man because of our gender roles in this society. Like you said, men are expected to be of sound mind and body, and aren't given as much leniency with things like this.
However, I wouldn't give up all hope. Many women don't buy into our generalized societal appointed gender roles, and will accept you for who you are.
Good luck.
2006-12-07 15:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by suekiemama@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think either one is better than the other. both suck. i sure know it sucks for girls. i just left my girlfriend of two years because of her disorder. and i know what your thinking. im an ***. but you dont know what its like. she has bipolar disorder, and borderline personality disorder. she has changed from what i use to know her as and just picks arguments and trys to find reasons to get mad at me and then goes back to being herself, and then back to this terrible person. it was killing me inside
no one has it better, there is no point in arguing. all you have to do is try and beat it yourself because think of it this way, at least there is a way to get over what you have. you can get by it or learn to think around it. my ex will probably be in a mental institute all her life. if you have the chance to help yourself out of something that you dont want to be in do it and be glad you have the chance to
2006-12-07 15:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by 63godtoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you read any of my last questions? I can honestly say there are many women who love men with disorders. I think women can be pretty understanding. You are still young, you will find the right person in time.
P.s. would you mind answering any of my recent questions if you have any input? That would be greatly appreciated.
2006-12-07 15:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Scunnered! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF thats whats happening to you then you need to get serious about doing something about it.
Get your head screwed on right, whatever it takes and enjoy life. You can do it. Good luck. Pops
2006-12-07 15:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by Pops 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
acually no I don't......I don't think I know a girl out there who hasn't had depression and I hear all the time that guys are a**holes and just don't understand what it is like - it is nice when someone understands
2006-12-07 15:08:59 · answer #10 · answered by Mandy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋