my ex ended our relationship a couple of weeks ago due to "his doubts". i however did not believe him because to me that was a ridculous reason. i believed that it was because he wanted to explore his other options in college. while my mind is telling me he is wrong for me, my heart still longs for him, more than he will ever know. i confronted him with this theory and he denied it to a t. i also told him i thought he ended it because he wanted to control me and to have control in our relationship. he was less than enthused. i also told him that if he really loved me, he would tell me everything. he responded but not in the way i wanted him to. i want him to tell me the truth but i feel that he's convinced himself that doubt is what really ended it. it's funny. he wasn't the guy i thought he was. he's controling and manipulative and he just can't see it. advice?
2006-12-07 14:41:44 · 10 answers · asked by thebodyelectric! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but he has broken my heart by doing this. i just feel that he has doubt is the lamest excuse i've ever heard.
2006-12-08 08:12:44 · update #1
i think you are looking too much into it. when he says he has doubts it means that hes not sure what he feels for you. hes ending it now before it crashes and burns. would you rather catch him cheating on you and break your heart?
2006-12-07 14:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing myself. i dated a guy for 3yrs and lived together for about a year and a half. We started looking at rings and houses and boom one day he automatically had a change of heart and did not want to be with me anymore. We are still friends and we will always love each other. So this is my advice to take things slow and give him some time he NEEDS to figure out what he truly and honestly wants. The last thing that you want to happen is for you to get hurt again. If it is meant to be then it will work out but if not just remember there are more fish in the sea. Just enjoy life and whatever happens, happens.
2006-12-07 22:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by sammycolt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't really sound like a guy you want to really be with. You don't want someone controlling you..you are your own person take your life back and live it as you want it to be. The heart will heal in time. If he wants to explore his options then that alone should tell you something about him and how he feels about you. Remember you can never make someone fall or stay in love with you if they aren't willing to be.
Good luck.
2006-12-07 22:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im in a relationship and im also having doubts with my b/f.. its hard because i want to control him but i know that i cant and it would be hard for him.. plus im always feeling uneasy when hes out with his friends.. now im thinking of breaking up with him because idont trust him anymore.. (well thats because of some painful past experiences with him) having doubts is not a ridiculous reason.. he may have doubts with you thats why he just wants to explore other choices.. its all connected. im sorry.
2006-12-07 22:48:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'll say give it another shot to talk to him!!
If he still says the same then go ahead with your life.
Pray and keep your head up. Who knows, maybe the Lord has something bigger and better for you.
Everything happens for a reason, just continue to pray and most definitely keep your head up through out!!
2006-12-07 22:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by TT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over.
You are a valueable person and there is someone that will treat you right. Don't settle for someone who does not want a relationship that he (or she) is willing to work with honesty and communication.
2006-12-07 22:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by rfriend306 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He broke it off with you ,,,, Use your head not your heart ,,,, You won't be sorry ,,,,, There are plenty of other fish in the pond ,,,, go fishing ,,,
2006-12-07 22:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on from him, you will never be able to find something better if you got something bad for you blocking your path
2006-12-07 22:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself lucky to be rid of him!
2006-12-07 22:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by persnicady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont put up with teh crap he does!
2006-12-07 22:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋