I was raped a year ago. I'm in a relationship now, and I love him alot. But since last year, anything sexual always seems to put a stop to everything, and I'm back at the same place I was after it first happened. My boyfriend and every time we start getting into, I get shaky, and scared, and have to stop. My boyfriend is really supportive about it, but how can I get past it?
2006-12-07 14:33:12 · 8 answers · asked by motoprincess16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have u tried support groups 4 this kind of thing..it can REALLY help the situation ur in..good luck hun
2006-12-07 14:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by × 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you talk with someone like a counselor or something after the incident? If not, you might want to go and see someone about your anxiety. It's very good to hear that your boyfriend is supportive. When you try again, take time to look around at your surroundings and get a feel for where you are really at and who you are with, try and relax and let yourself gradually become comfortable in the situation, when the time is right, it will happen. I hope this helps!
2006-12-07 14:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you have to go through this. Please try to understand you will never get past this but you can learn to peacefully co exist with it. Although I can't know what you are going through I understand it. I have been raped too (more than once) and it took me a long time and a lot of professional help to understand that this is something that doesn't go away and you don't "get over it" What you might want to try is more or continued professional help and focus on peacefully co existing with what has happened to you. It won't be easy but you can do it. Please don't stop trying. Hope this helps and Good Luck.
2006-12-07 14:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by tpbthigb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear abt that. go seek professional help and most importantly seek God's help.
least thing u can do and make it step by step.
-forget abt what happened. its a step by step series.
-cleanse ur heart with all the hurt ur keeping, forgiving and forgetting is one of the solution.
-and best is pray alot.
goodluck and God bless
2006-12-07 14:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by totallylost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been there and id like to know too. a lot of people say i should go to counseling, but personally i dont want to talk about it. good luck and let me know if you come up with anything helpful!
2006-12-07 14:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by kd baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know..
your past gave you a terrible traumatic experience..
maybe when you started to make love with ur boy, you feel that you making out with the raper.
tell yourself, his my boyfrend,not the raper..
2006-12-07 14:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by miss whatever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can get support or tell him so he knows why other wise he prolly thinks you dont like him
2006-12-07 14:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by The Eternal Warrior? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek professional help
2006-12-07 14:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by stinkypinky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋