I don't know what to do, what is my best route?

Question

Well me and my ex-b/f have been broke up for a while, but we still act like we go together but here is the catch....he has told me who all he has talked to on the side and everything but i still tell him i only talk to him and have not been with no one else. I really want to get back with him and I wanna let him know that I really want to have a future with him and get married. So i am thinking about telling him the truth about everything I have did since we have been broke up also even changing my number to show him i am serious. All my friends say a man will never forgive his girl when she admits she has been with someone else. We have a child together and we have been on and off for 5 years , he has always been with other girls when we are not together, and this is my first time being with one other person and it really was not much (just vulnerable, hurt,and lonely. Should i tell him or leave the past behind and just tell him how i want him back.

Answer 1

It seems like you have strong feelings for the man. I believe that you can work things out by talking to one another, honestly like two adults, especially since now you have a kid together; it's no longer about he likes me, I like him and all that high school crap, it's the major league, so to speak. I think you should be honest with him and try and get back with him, without being scared of what he may think of you,because I think that you say those things out of low self esteem, and low confidence in yourself. You need to realize your capabilities as a woman and as a mother, and not let that thing- once you've been with another man, your guy can never forgive you BS. Why is that OK for a guy to be with women but a woman should be considered a slut if she went out with other guys? Do you see the hypocrisy here? In short, I believe that you should remain true to your feelings and true to yourself. You guys have history together, and obviously you guys did something that you broke up all the time- you'll need to work on that, and try and examine why you got back together all those times- was it for the physical part alone, or also because you truly love that man, and vice versa?
What ever you do- be true to yourself, and mindful of your child- you are all that he has.

Good Luck

Answer 2

Hmm this is a tricky one. Well, all I can say is this. Some men have a tendency to cheat and to tread the waters thinking that it's "A OK" to do so. They are not worried about anybody else's feelings except their own. In this case, however, I'm sure your ex had his best interest in mind while he was with those other girls. While I commend him for telling you about his "dirt", I can't help but think maybe a motive was behind his telling. I'm not saying that he wasn't sincere, but at the same time a lot of guys do play mind games. Was he telling you about his flings to wipe the slate clean and start over with you? or Was he telling you about his flings hoping to have you u come clean about being with someone else, just so he could have something to hang over your head and to throw up in your face? My thing is this, follow your heart. If you feel that he deserves to know the truth, then tell him. If you feel like you can let this one slide, then don't tell him. This is ultimately your decision. If you guys have been a part for some time now, what you guys did really shouldn't matter to each other. But that's just me though.......

Answer 3

If he loves you, he will look past the previous people you have been with. If he has been with other women then its not fair for him to upset with you. Do you want to get back with him because you are lonely or because you really love him. Just be true to yourself and honest. If you lie or deny it will always come back somehow, someway..You already know the right choice, so go ahead with it. Everything will be OK. Good luck to you

Answer 4

If he does that, hun, You shouldn't be with that dude ANYmore!!!!!!! I mean, you have a KID with him.