I logged onto my boyfriends e-mail to grab a newsletter I had subscribed him to... and he had a conversation with a girl around 3:00 today and went to meet her up at a park. Around that time we usually chat on Y! Messenger while doing other things. He called and told me around 3:30 that his internet wasn't working, and he'd be working on it for a bit.
Anyway... back to me.. I went through his e-mail, which I know is so bad, but in it, he asked the girl if she loved him, she said yes, and he asked her if she wanted him to come meet her up at the park, she said yes, and he said he's on his way.
I don't know what happened. I don't know what to do. My head is spinning and I feel terrible for looking through his things. I need a little help, so anyone, please, assist?
2006-12-07 14:00:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know what happened though... do I just assume the worst?
2006-12-07 14:04:24 · update #1
Well you have already looked so now what are you going to do? if he ask her if she loved him he has been with her a while..who cares what he thinks confront him..He is a cheater and he deserves to be nabbed. sorry rat.
2006-12-07 14:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first up i am a guy.(duh!sorry) if he is asking the chick if she loves him ,then he has had an ongoing thing with her behind yourback. so you need to think about it ,BUT DO NOT BRING HER UP UNLESS YOU JUST HAVE TO!!!!!!ok one thing is do not let him know that you read his e-mails, but you need to drop him like a bad fish! breaking up is not hard to do if you do it first!
sit down and make out a list of all the stuff that he does that annoys you(even a little) then pack up your courage and tell him off about everything on your list(exaggerate it all just abit though!!) and tell him that you have had all of him that you can handle and that you are through(do not even try the just friends ****, just slam him hard) then call of your friends and tell them that you broke up with him,then call all of his friends and tell them the same. first strike is alot easier to recover from if you make it ,than if you are hit. it will hurt because you still care for him,but he is trying to make other plans behind your back so you need to drop him really, REALLY HARD(IN PUBLIC WOULD BE BETTER, BUT IF YOU THINK THAT YOU MIGHT CRY THEN DO IT IN PRIVATE!) JUST STICK TO YOUR GAME PLAN AND BURN HIM FAST AND FURIOUSLY AS YOU CAN. be mean about too! tear him a new one ,because he already has a back-up plan in place with the other girl so you need to trash his self image as much as possible before he drops you and destroys your self image. just remember he is cheating on you as we speak. if only in his mind right now. how long will it take for him to take that next step with her(if he has not already jumped her up in the park?) i wish you luck and happy hunting!
ps remember not to call him on the whole e-mail thing as he will call you a snoop and spread the rumor that you are controlling and snoopy ok! got get him girl!
2006-12-07 14:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by luckydog7997 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I do know what it's like to feel that way. Looks like leaving the relationship is the best for you. If you think he could be violent, make sure you don't confront him. Just stop seeing him. if he won't leave you alone, call police. get a protective order.
Good Luck to you. hang in there.
2006-12-07 14:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by naturegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him darl. i did the same thing and yes you feel bad cause it shows you dont trust him., but arent you glad you did look? he is cheating on you so ditch him. he doesnt want to commit to you but hangs on to you as a back up. thats just plain sad. go find a desent guy out there not these players. good luck
2006-12-07 14:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he gave you his e-mail password, then there's nothing wrong with you reading it.. he obviously doesn't care if you find out what he was doing..
if you somehow obtained his password without him knowing, then that is a serious violation of privacy rights, and could potentially be illegal.
bottom line, you found out he is cheating. and this is a reality you have to deal with.
you should probably break up with him, (unless you don't mind him cheating on you).
2006-12-07 14:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i thnk the best thing is to forget about this guy. no one deserves to be treated like that. no offense but your boyfriend is acting like some kind of player. IT"S NOT YOU!!! your not a bad girlfriend, you odviously made time for him, while he was making time for other girls. get rid of him. sorry if this upset you. good luck
2006-12-07 14:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by rdog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple. dump him. Even if nothing happened, he still asked if she loved him ect. You don't have to explain how you know that he's been seeing someone. You could stay with him, but he will probely cheat on you if he hasn't already. You've already cought him in a lie.
2006-12-07 14:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it... tell him that u no it was wrong to look at his emails but if he is cheating and thats what it apears to be then that is also wrong... if he doesnt understand that what he is doing is wrong then u need to leave him and find a guy who will treat u with the love and respect u deserve =) good luck
2006-12-07 14:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by becstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no honey u felt something was a stray and u investigated him sorry behind and he got caught. see now u got to get him back and make it good. dont feel bad, its better than u feelin like a fool lettin him do this behind ya back...now u know he is a snake
2006-12-07 14:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of assistance do you need? You have clear cut proof. Now it's time to make a decision.
2006-12-07 14:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by ubiquitous_mr_lovegrove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋