Ok...here's the story, my friend, and it is my friend, im not covering anything ok..., has a guy friend, they already went out once and it didnt work, but they are still friends. Yesterday, the guy confessed that he still loves her, and that if she doesnt answer him, hes not gonna be friends with her again "all or nothing". My friend told him that she isnt ready for a relationship and she thinks that having a bf right no is too much drama. She asked me what to do, and I told her that "if u you still want to be friends with him, you have to answer him", then she answered "I still wanna be friends but I dont want a bf right now...i dont wanna lose him too..."
What should I tell her?
2006-12-07 13:54:14 · 5 answers · asked by sHeLbY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Am I getting it right?She went out with him once, as in one time or,once upon a time.If its the first ,believe me its not love just hot hormones finding their ground!So stay out of it and don't fret!
If its"once upon a time",she should definitely tell him she isn't up for a relationship at the present.But she has to decide.
If she can't,well,she is too immature for a relationship ,and may be a bit of a control freak in the making.
About this all or nothin' stuff,that just a insecure immature boy talking,sounds like another control freak in the making.He's the one loosing out ,as its she who has said, she doesn't want a relationship just now.He is flipping his chances.
Think you should stay right out of it,she has to be the one who decides what she wants.You could end up getting "s23t "if you give the wrong advice or too much advice! It happens!
When ya' all get a bit older you will realise you don't have to have "something going on" to be friends and go out with a guy.
It is possible to just be friends.But I guess just not yet!
Hope it all works out before Christmas.
2006-12-07 14:20:44 · answer #1 · answered by sistablu...Maat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most relationships begin by having a friendship first. If he can't be your friend, how can he love you? Things sometimes just don't work out as bf/gf, but friendships can be beautiful. If he doesn't want to be your friend....let him go.
2006-12-07 13:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by panther 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All or nothing tends to get people nothing. If I didn't want to date and someone told me it was either date them or they were out of my life, I'd say goodbye.
If that person cared about her, he'd be okay with being friends...but he cares more about himself and what he wants, and isn't willing to compromise. What a silly fool...he might could have had her back, down the road.
2006-12-07 13:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is totally obvious. That guy doesnt truly love you friend...if he did he would wait. Trust me, no one wants a boyfriend or even a friend like that who would push you into doing things and make you choose between their friendship and other things. Its simple.....tell her to not even be friends with him.....its NOT worth it.
2006-12-07 14:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that if the guy is like that, he isnt really a good friend, a good friend would not force you to be his gf or f. You should just not answer to him.
2006-12-07 14:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by inna2507 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋