Should I call child protective services?

Question

This might turn out to be a little long with details... My husbands sister in law (my husbands brothers wife) Is neglecting her 3 year old daughter. My husbands brother is a hard worker and is at work for most the day and usually the childs mother watches her until recently she got a job because shes SO money hungry and I actually think she cares more about herself and money than her own daughter. I some times think she has mental problems because she also isn't too bright but I'm not sure. Once she started her job she lets her mother watch the child and her brother who has been in and out of jail. Her mother is elderly and chain smokes as well as her brother. When the child comes home she is FILTHY with dry snot all over her nose and sticky black stuff all over her face. She has really lost a lot of weight since she started staying there also. She also used to have a lot of energy but now seems tired all the time. I also see her wear the same dirty clothes shes been wearing for a week

I pretty much know for a fact that she isn't fed while she is there and also doesn't take a shower the whole day. I'm really worried about her because I love her so much. The childs mother really doesn't take care of her either...I've seen her feeding the child cookies and just throwing them on the ground for her to eat. Is this reasonable cause to report her to CPS? and also can I remain anonymous? It really breaks my heart to see a child being treated like this...she is one of the most loveable and caring kids I know. PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

TALK 2 your husband.....THEN have him talk to his brother.....If you feel like the child better off without themcall, cuz thats whats going to happen then call CPS, cuz the child will be in foster care....BE Careful!!!!

Answer 2

You can remain anonamous and report this, but many times this action does not get the desired results and some times the situation becomes worse with the solution, if they even do anything. If they do investigate and find reason to remove the child, the facilities where they take them are substandard and sometimes can be quite horrifying. It is very traumatic for the child and once a child gets into the system it really never gets out. Please talk to the father of the child, or have your husband talk to him. You said that he is really a hard worker, sounds like he would be the person to talk to, being that he must be a fairly responsible person. This situation needs to be resolved, but not worsened. Although the CPS has good intentions, they don't have adequate solutions. Unless it is a matter of life or death, I would first check for any other solution possible. The CPS should be your last choice if all else fails, not your first. I have had a lot of experience in such matters and really hope that you will consider my advice seriously. Thanks.

Answer 3

What you are discribing here is abuse and neglect in the worst way. The mother is neglecting the child and the grandmother is abusing and neglecting it as well. Have you talked to your brother-in-law he is the childs father and should know that something is not right? No matter what you need to step in and take up for this child as it seems no one else is going to. You can call the hotline and make a report and stay anonimous. I can't believe no one else has noticed the weight loss and hasn't done anything about it so you must at the rate it is going you won't have a happy loving child for long she will become withdrawn and untrusting of all adults.

Answer 4

What does the child's father say about what is happening to his daughter? If he stands by and does nothing he is as guilty and the mother of neglect. If what you say is true, then I think you should call CPS. I don't understand why some people have kids just to mistreat or neglect them, it sickens me. You have to do what is in the best interest of the child. If both of her parents aren't going to protect her, then you need to step up to the plate and do it. And yes, you can place an anonymous call. Good luck, I hope everything works out okay for your niece.

Answer 5

I don't think that should be the first thing you do, you need to say something to your brother i mean he is the child's parent as well, and if you call you will not only be hurting your sister in law but your brother as well, if it's that bothersome to you why haven't you said anything to the child's mother, you are her Aunt, it is your right, you need to express your concerns to the party's involved with this child. Give them the opportunity to change the way this child is being cared for and if you see no attempt to make things better for your niece and things are not getting better than do what you feel is the right thing to do. Just keep in mind they should be very strong accusations against your sister in law and your brother and there needs to be evidence of neglect for CPS to step in. My advise to you would to be to talk to your brother he is letting this happen just as much as the mother is, he knows how this baby is being cared for and he has the power to change it.

Answer 6

First off...what about Dad..he has to notice. Try talking with him about your concerns for the child but also for them. A person will be more apt to listen if they don't feel like one person is being singled out. Explain the seriousness of the situation and what could happen if the authorities become involved and then show you are concerned by offering and then giving of your time to help them come to some kind solution. If the response is a bad one calmly explain what your course of action has to be as nicely as possible but don't take verbal abuse yourself..then do as you say. The child can't defend or protect herself and when adults around her turn their heads the other way they are abusers themselves. Good luck as it's not an easy road but the it is the right one. My hat is off to you.

Answer 7

I would call cps on her she is being and unfit mother, maybe this will open her eyes no child deserves to go through anything like that. It makes me mad the child didnt ask for that nonsense. You should really try getting the child yourself since you are in the family, it would be better for the child to stay in the family also. Best of luck sweetie. I hope everything turns out for the best.

Answer 8

I have to warn you that Child Protective Services (CPS) is not what you think it is. Despite the name, the primary motivation of CPS is the federal funding stream and they will destroy children and families for the bottom line. CPS is notorious for kidnapping children under pretense and color of law and they place these children in a severely broken and dangerous foster care system. The foster care system has been described as broken beyond repair by the Pew Commission. Children's Rights Inc. has filed class action suits in at least a dozen states because of the state's failure to protect children in their custody. The family and juvenile courts do not protect people's civil rights as mandated by the Constitution and they often collude with CPS. The corruption in this multi-billion dollar per year profit making child protection racket is incredible.

But please don't just take my word for it, I urge you to study the information on the LIFE (Liberty Independence & Family Equality) website (URL given below in Source), especially the links under "Supporting Documentation" and be sure to click on the first link in that section called "Children Protected to Death by CPS".

So while I understand that this 3 year old child may be neglected, please take into consideration that she may be destroyed forever at the hands of CPS.

Answer 9

Talk to the little girl's mom and tell her how you feel. Be careful with your words though so you're not trying to sound as if you're trying to raise her kid. If that doesn't work, call the child protective services b/c that's NOT a good environment for a kid to stay in.

Answer 10

Report this immediately the child is at risk dont hold back just do it, the child cant defend itself