how should I tell the guy i'm seeing how kinky I am?

Question

We've done it a bit, but I really want to try some different things, like pic and costumes. How should I bring this up?

Answer 1

I agree. Don't tell him show him. Although depending on how long you have been "seeing" him, maybe it not best to go all out at once. I would suggest maybe just arranging or him to come over and be ready in costume to greet him at the door, so that he can see the fun wild side of you and it will open up avenues where it can be talked about later.

Answer 2

I think the important thing is to guess how conservative or open he is about the physical part of your relationship. If he seems shy, traditional, or close minded , you should just sit down and have an open and honest discussion about the things you'd like to do or try. Make sure to not be pushy and it's not going to be a make or break thing for your relationship in general... ask him if he's open to trying ____ and go from there. If there are things he just isn't comfy with, then those you might have to give up on... but if you can find things that he does like, or at least he doesn't mind doing (even if doesn't do anything for him) then you have a foundation to work with.

If he's more open minded and likely to take it the right way, you can surprise him with a costume, or suggestion right out of the blue.

Answer 3

The question sister is not how should you bring it up, but would he want to know this. Many men say they want a woman who is a Tigress in bed, but in reality they really want a mouse. You have to fish him out first, find out if he likes the things you like, is he repulsed by certain acts. Will his opinion of you change if he discovered that side of you? As humans we can only process new information in stages, so please don't throw all the kink on the man all at once. Introduce different things in stages according to the degree of trust and the depth of the relationship. If this is a new relationship, go real real slow. Girl, just plain out ask him what he's up for. Good luck.

Answer 4

Actions speak louder than words! You don't have to say anything, maybe you could just surprise him... Or even if you wanted to bring it up, you could bring it up over phone/ or just in conversation. if you live alone, invite him over and when he gets there you would of had everything set up, your costume, music candles, camera set up, whips etc. I'm sure he would absolutely love it. You go girl :)

Answer 5

If you guys drink,feed him a couple drinks and see where it goes.Trust me,if my girl wanted to try something,I would probably be more inclined to go along if I had a couple in me.Dont misunderstand me I dont mean get him drunk,just a little buzz.I dont know about him but for me that is the time to make a new suggestion.GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

if you think he wont freek out...dont tell him just do it and see how he reacts. but if you wanna play on the safe side bring up sex in general then sneek in a question about role play and pics. if he gets squirmy then maybe hes not interested. i got my man to do alot more than even he thought he would ever do.....

Answer 7

Yeah I say just show him, he might be into it too, and it doesn't sound very weird. Lots of people are into costumes.

Answer 8

You can drop hints, or take him into a costume store, or show him

Answer 9

Throw him down on the kitchen floor, stick your tongue down his throat and and when he's gasping for air... just say.. "Hey, how have you been?".. and then while you're straddling him, don't let him get up until you've told him all about it. He'll love it!

Answer 10

Just show up in the costume! :)