update to my question, can i get pregnant with marina?

Question

hi there, i ended up going to the dr and i am now 10 weeks pregnant with my 6th baby,i fell pregnant with the marina in, my gyn has since taken it out and baby and myself are fine.anyway i just want other peoples opinions on my problem.this is my 6th baby i really dont want this baby as thats why i had the marina fitted so this situation wouldnt happen, anyway im against abortion this baby has the right to live but im not sure if i can mentally/financially afford to bring up another child, what would others do if they were in this situation, and also are there other large families out there and how do they cope ?

Answer 1

You mean Mirena?

I have heard of other women getting pregnant with the Mirena IUD in. However, most of those were linked to improper fitting or shifting of the device. You should ask your doctor if that's what happened, and if so, never use any IUDs for birth control again. You'll have to use pills or patches or something else after the baby's born.

I think if I was in your situation I would have to decide whether I really didn't WANT the baby, or I really couldn't HAVE the baby. It is up to you whether to keep it or not, but you do have other kids and they will know something is going on. If you do choose adoption I would suggest making it an open adoption. Since you have five other kids I am assuming at least some are old enough to realize that you're having a baby and they will want to know their sibling. So if you go that route use an agency that does open adoptions and choose parents who will want to have contact.

If you decide to keep it, which might be easier on your other kids, there are lots of things out there to help. With that many, and financial troubles, I'm sure you'd qualify for food stamps, Medicaid, Section 8 housing vouchers, SOMETHING. Get whatever you qualify for. It will help some.

A lot of large families also rely on churches for help, and if you are religious that is an option. You might get a discount on their after-school program, free sitting on weekends, a few meals at church dinners, presents at Christmas, things like that.

You do have a big decision to make and if you need help with that call Planned Parenthood. Their number is 1-800-230-PLAN. You can get an appointment with a counselor who can talk to you about both options and recommend help for either one. Like a good adoption agency, help applying for aid, etc.

All the large families I know have trouble coping, but somehow they do it, and their kids seem okay for having so many siblings. But money problems are a separate problem and if supporting 5 kids is a big burden, six will be very hard. If you or the other parent (if there is one) can get a second job or a better-paying one that might help. But then you won't qualify for as much aid, so you still might have trouble.

This will sound weird, but if you decide to keep the baby and can somehow get the money to move, you could move somewhere with a better job market. Like the areas around New Orleans for example. Employers there are desperate for workers but there aren't enough people to fill the jobs. So you get paid more. I know people sweeping floors at fast food places who get paid double minimum wage. There are similar situations all over the place. If there's a place with a good job market nearby that's an option.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I have a heart condition that was caused by pregnancy that I have to have surgery for and all docs are telling me to get my tubes tied after just one child. I desperatly want more kids, but it might kill me. There are a lot of people in my situation who arent lucky enough to even have one. You should really sit down and talk to your husband and family. They will understand better than any of us on here. If you keep the child, just make it with what you got and do your best and just remember, they will all eventually be 18! lol If you decide against that then there are a bunch of people out there that can't have kids and would love and give that child everything. I think either way is a good decision. You just have to decide what is best for you and the baby. Oh, and I have a marina in that i am now going to make an appointment to have checked tomorrow! lol

Answer 3

You can always adopt out. My mom has eight kids and she loves each and everyone of us!!! She hasn't always had the best house but there has been love and health in our family. Having the best of everything isn't my mom's goal. It takes her and my dad working to support my younger brothers and sisters, I am 26. I have three brothers and sisters still at home. It seems like no matter how many kids that you just to own a home and a car you have to have two people working to be able to make the bills. I hope that this works out for you!! Please consider adoption for couples that desperately want kids but can't have them.

Answer 4

if you didn't want any more you should of had your tubes tied. less Chance of getting a bun in the oven that way. always adoption is an option if abortion isn't one. other than that congrats on your 6th child.

Answer 5

lol wow. tension could make your era come later. im sorry for her melancholy. i take those varieties of pills too. you may tell her to objective hypnotherapy, melancholy pills dont take the melancholy away, they simply take the sting off and that they dont quit the suicidal innovations the two. yet besides, they are probably ingredient outcomes from the pills, if she isn't pregnant then i advise visit plannedparenthood and take the shot, its fairly basic. btw purely take a pregancy attempt lol

Answer 6

You handle it the same way you handled your first one! With love and care.You have to deal with it when it happens..All you can do is prepare and have a positive outlook for its arrival...But I gotta tell ya 6 kids is alot..I would suggest Tubal litigation after this one!

Answer 7

Maybe you should adopt it out, there are so many people out there that can not have babies. But then that is so unfair ? ? When they get older they will ask why they were the only one adopted out.