my 11 year old daughter, Liz just came running down the stairs and she told me she just had her period! she is very nervous. what should we do?
2006-12-07 13:14:33 · 21 answers · asked by Kelsey 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If you haven't done already, now is the time to sit down and explain in simple terms what it's all about.
How every month, a girl releases an egg and her body prepares itself in case it becomes a baby (more about that in a minute) and that if there is no baby, the lining comes out in the form of a period.
As for the making-babies bit. Explain that the daddy has a seed and the mummy has an egg and that sometimes they have a special, close, cuddle and the daddy puts the seed in the mummy.
Obviously if that's too basic, then give a bit more detail.
But it's always best to go in with the basics and then only elaborate if they ask questions.
Try not to get freaked though - your daughter needs to feel that this is all perfectly natural
Good luck!
2006-12-07 13:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by teegee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her don't be nervous, it's completely normal, and it means she's now a woman! Since she's still 11 she might be young enough to consider this a big deal and something good - if so make it that way!
Tell her (of course if you're the mom not the dad) you go through it too, and if you start cycling together soon, let her know you're going through it together. It can become a mother-daughter kind of thing ...
If you're the dad I would say let her know you consider her to be a woman now, that will give any girl a little more confidence that they're not just a little girl anymore.
Go with her to the store and get her pads, explain how they work, etc, but GO WITH HER. That way she'll feel included and also learn about getting the right kind. Get the thin kind, the real thick ones feel like diapers.
And tell her she's not alone, a lot of girls get their first period at 11 or 12, I got mine when I was 11 - so while it may seem early it's actually more and more common.
2006-12-07 13:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by T'Vral 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a big hug! Try to not make her feel funny about it. Take her out to the store and let her help choose some feminine products just for her. Buy her some new underwear. Treat her to dinner or ice cream and have a mother daughter talk about what it means to be a woman.
2006-12-07 13:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by Tanya C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are very happy for her and that you will answer any question she has with honesty. Ha I was 10 yrs old when I started and my mother did not give me any encouraging words it was like oh well here is your pad that you put on every month. My mothers step mom told me about the birds and the bees about 6 months before I started.
2006-12-09 06:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by He is in control 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her like you would have wanted someone to talk to you at her age. She probably already had some type of sex ed talk at school but just explain to her that this is what women go through to be able to be moms later in life. If she hasn't had any in school and you haven't had the "sex talk" yet then make sure to explain why our bodies go through this and how babies are made - and definitely cover the part about waiting til marriage and she's in love and when she does decide to have sex to use a condom.
Let her know some of the thigs she could expect though - cramps, bloating, fatique, etc... And just be sure she knows you are there if she needs anything. Explain about pads and tampons and how to use them and make sure she has a purse that she can carry to school with her to keep them. make sure she understands about hygeine as well and that she has to make sure to be showering daily.
2006-12-07 13:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by Rae T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay calm first of all! Make this a special time for her. She is becoming a woman! Explain everything to her and let her ask questions. I would take her to the store and together pick out some pads. Let her enjoy this time... :-)
2006-12-08 01:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by zaniest1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 11 year old just started hers a few weeks ago. Stay calm, and BE HONEST. There's a great book out there called, "The car and keeping of you" by the american girl library.
Get it!
www.sanemommy.com
2006-12-07 13:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all...relax...You being the adult needs to deal with this in a positive way...just assure her it is part of her growing up and she doesn't need to be afraid...I would make sure she understands all the workings of a female body...If she is old enough to be having a cycle....she is old enough for a sex education talk...and there is no one better than her mother to see she gets the proper information. I am sure they have good information at the library if you need help. Good luck.
2006-12-07 13:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get her a pad and show her how to use it. Then tell her about the birds and the bees. Explain to her why she has a period and that every woman has it and there is nothing to worry about.
2006-12-07 14:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by teddybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Get her some pads (lol), but you knew that already.
2) Take the time to explain to her about what's happening. Take out a medical book and show her. Kids like honesty; they like it when they can come to talk to about things no matter what. :-)
2006-12-07 13:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋