So here are the facts:
I've been dating my bf for 4 months. We're in school together (same classes, etc), so we see each other everyday. We also live 2 minutes apart in the dorms. We spend a ton of time together and never get bored or run out of things to say. He told me early on that he was in love with me, and that I'm one of 2 people who have ever been important to him. Here's the odd thing: he used to be in seminary (i.e. to become a priest). He's 23 and I'm his second gf. Well, he dated his ex for 3 years, and he recently found out she's dating again. He told me that he's kind of jealous and needs to see her over winter break to make sure his feelings are only jealousy. We go to school in VA, but his family lives in MN (that's where she is, too). At first, I was really upset, but I can sort of understand. Since he told me this, our relationship has continued to be amazing. He told me I'm the best person he's ever met. Do you think I have cause to worry?
2006-12-07 13:11:44 · 12 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, he was man enough to be up front with you so, pleae be grateful. :-> Most guys wouldn't have done that. But, I honestly feel as if that's the right thing to do, before you two continue to pursue your relationship, the thoughts must be clear. Please tell him to find out now and not next year!!! You all have great communication skills so please keep it up. Give him a li' time to get himself together, you deserve to know before you involve more feelings!!
2006-12-07 13:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by TT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, no need to worry. I went out with a girl i loved for 1 and a half years. She broke with me because she found another guy. It took me about 2 weeks to get over her lies and break up. Just give the guy some time. 3 years is a long time to be with someone. That person could have easily grown on them. If they are good friends with that person after the break up, then you can imagine that they would want to protect that special person if they find someone else and that someone else may not be such a good person. Get the idea? So i suggest you dont worry much about your boyfriend. If he means he loves you, then he means it. What exactly worries you? That he will cheat on you with his ex? Just remember that it takes 2 people to cheat. If one doesn't comply, then the whole deal is most likely off.
2006-12-07 21:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by Regenerit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship is based on trust and if you can feel trust in him I see no reason to worry, though, apparently he was extremely close to her too. Don't worry, if you ask me I think everything will still be amazing if not even better after he goes there. Sometimes it only proves to someone how much More they need and love you. Good Luck! I don't want to pry or seem over-interested, but maybe you could let me know how things turned out :) Hope the best!
2006-12-07 21:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he never got over his 1st girlfriends and if you know about this, first loves will ALWAYS be remembered. In his case however, it seems that is more than just a memory for him, he seems to actually want to meet this girl again.
You should be somewhat concern. If he loves YOU and he is with you NOW then what does it matter who his ex is dating unless he is still in love with her. You better have a good, long, and honest talk with him before you continue with this relationship.
2006-12-07 21:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by nowhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to deal with this very carefully, somehow you need to make sure he doesn't still have anything towards that girl. But dont turn this into a reason for your relationship to start going down.
If he really loves you, he shouldn't care about his ex gf if she's dating or in love or whatever, help him out to get rid of her. Good Luck.
Also you can do this: if it happens when you are together and you see that girl, try to do something to make her feel bad, this way you're doing something for him...then you talk to him about this: You can say: ''Honey, I guess you don't have to worry about her anymore, she knows very well that you are in love with someone who loves and appreciates you. That's enough for her''.
2006-12-07 21:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by Deebs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just because he sounds like a really stand-up guy. He was honest enough to tell you he would be seeing her while he was going to be home and I think that's great. He didn't have to tell you since you would never know. It might be good for him to see her and get over her. It sounds like he really cares about you and this might give him a chance to realize how much he cares about you. When he sees her he might realize he's thinking of you and not her. Just trust him and have faith in him. I can't imagine he would throw away four months for nothing. I think you'll be fine.
2006-12-07 21:18:33 · answer #6 · answered by #1 Buckeye Fan!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if my boyfriend told me that he had to see his x because she is dating again and I have to see her to see if I am only feeling jealousy or I really like her and want to get back together again!! I would flip it because it just shows that I am second best and if it is jealousy then he will then come back to me!! Your not second best and if he does go make sure you tell him if he is having feelings for her then it is going to be hard when he comes back!!
2006-12-07 21:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by pqr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you have anything to worry about. He is trying to give himself to you 100% and make sure that he is only jealous because that was his love once. It doesnt mean he wants to be with her. He just wants to clear things up, so i dont think you have anything to worry about, at least he came to you and told you instead of running off behind your back. Hang in there girl. Good luck sweetie.
2006-12-07 21:19:41 · answer #8 · answered by munchkin0430 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's always that chance nothings a 100%, but he's been up front and honest with you about it all.He didn't have to tell you and you probably would have never found out.I think everything will be alright,if it was me I'd take the chance if you don't you'll always wonder.Best of Luck!!!
2006-12-07 21:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by country girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes going to see if he doesnt have any other feelings besides jelousy for his ex girlfriend who lives in a completley different state over winter break instead of speading it with you...yes i do think you should worry....if he really cares about you he wouldnt question his old relationship!!
hope this helps and sorry for sounding rude
i didnt mean too
2006-12-07 21:19:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋