her mom (my daughter) is bi-polar and dad in jail. My boyfriend/husband died suddenly 6 mo.'s ago. I have an opportunity to go back east (my home state) to stay for one year just to collect my thoughts and move on. The little one will be cared for by her half sister and her little family. They really want her and are young ,have no major problems, no drugs, or alcahol. M problem is that the baby and I have become very attached, and she looks so sad when being picked up to go with them. I'm assured that she has fun once she gets there, but will she think that I have deserted her ? The sister just got tempory custody of her until the parents work things out whichI do NOT see happening. I hope that my grandaughter won't be as lost as I.
2006-12-07 13:10:57 · 10 answers · asked by gerbare 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Can't your granddaughter go for a short time as she has grown so attached to you and you to her, Try weekend breaks first to give you both a chance, I think this would be much easier for the both of you. It sounds like your granddaughter is loved, above all else that is important! It's also good that no matter what she will remain with family. Your granddaughter is young enough that she won't think you deserted her, Just make sure to stay apart of her life, a year is a long time to be apart for either of you.
2006-12-07 13:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Rocky C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that you have done a wonderful job caring for your granddaughter and that she has formed a strong attachment to you. Luckily children are resilient and she will easily keep the bond that she has forged with you while creating a new one with her half-sister. I had the opportunity to observe this type of interaction first-hand when I worked as a nanny to a family with a two-year old. The child would always cry and act so sad when her mother was leaving but then would cheer-up immediately after she left. But when the mother came back, the little girl would be thrilled to see her.
So, basically, don't worry and keep visiting her and enjoying her company.
2006-12-07 14:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly not! She will completely understand. She will be very well off with them. They can go out and do more than you might be able to. You have already raised your children, you shouldn't start over! If they love her as much as you say they do, she will be fine and in a great environment. She is still young and she will always look sad when you leave. But, after you are gone for a couple minutes, she is just the way she was before you left. She will be fine. If they really want her and are doing better in their lifes than the biological parents, they deserve a chance.
2006-12-07 13:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by txaggie2514 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one since I too am a grandmother and have been for several yrs in which my daughter and her children have been living with me for sometime now. As to your situation if it was me I think it might be better for the little one to go with her half sister. But it's a decision you will have to make yourself. I'm also close to my grandchildren and I know that when they leave I'm going to be lost cause we are all so close.But the question is how are you with this decision? You can always see her when you want so make it a plan to have her on the weekends.This will be a treat for you and for her as well. I wish you all the luck on your decision.
2006-12-07 13:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by shuggabhugga05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that if this were me there is no way that I would part with my grand-daughter. No matter what I was going through she would be everything to me. What if she goes to stay somewhere and it does not work out. Do you then go and place her somewhere else. All children need stability. If you think that this is best for her then it should be somewhat permanent. Not one year here and then you take her back. If you love her enough to give her to someone else to raise; then love her enough to do everything you can to make it permanent. She does not need to be moved here and there depending on your situation. Please give this allot of thought and follow your heart.
2006-12-07 13:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by leaving.florida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, I know it's hard. But maybe if you think that you are the best thing for her, than go to court and fight for that child. But as it sounds the family she is going to is going to care for her, and you can visit her I am sure. If you see things going badly for her, then step in and do what you can for her. I am sure she knows that you love her more than anything and that you are not leaving her in any way. Be there for her, you still can be even if it's not always all the time.
I hope everything works out.
2006-12-07 13:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 year old children forget pretty fast and after a few days she will be adjusted to a new life style. She also wont have any bad feelings against you. She is just way too young dont worry
2006-12-07 13:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by cajungirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can relate to this one,being a grandparent with a bipolar daughter,she took off to arkansas in august just after we bonded so well with our new grandaughter.heartache plain and simple.
youre granddaughter will surely miss you but i dont think she will
think you abandoned her at all.
call her often and let her here youre voice,it will be soothing to her and you will remain close.
2006-12-07 13:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by allthrottlenobottle2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your granddaughter will be in good hands. I commend you for taking care of her for as long as you have, but you have raised your children and you need the time to be alone.
2006-12-07 14:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go,time will heal these issues!!
2006-12-07 13:15:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋