I've only been in love once. We had the most amazing, and stellar relationship. It was magical. We went out over summer, but once we went back to high school for a couple months. School was getting the best of us i feel, and somehow our relationship changed. It just wasn't the honest and loving relationship it was over summer, it felt instead like a high school fling. But none the less, we felt a really amazing connection over summer, and ever since i've wanted her again. We havn't really hung out a whole lot over the past few years, she had claimed that i make her feel awkard. She calls me once in a blue moon. i swear it's the happiest moments of my life. She moved away. And I have just recently moved to a college that is where she lives. She lives with her boyfriend. I don't want to intrude. But at the same time, I miss her so bad. nobody has ever made me feel as good. she came over here only when our old friends from outa town vistited.so maybe she feels uncomfortable w/ me
2006-12-07 12:39:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
didnt feel like reading that...just go wit ur guts man
2006-12-07 12:40:22 · answer #1 · answered by aznwangstaaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is unfair!Things like really happen.**** happens.
Don't close your door! Maybe she outgrew you,or wasn't focused on your relationship. Maybe she wasn't serious that time. Maybe she is now w/ somebody but feels the same way you do. Maybe she misses the time magical times you were together.
Distance plays a big part in a relationship. You were apart,growing apart. Now environment is factored in the situation.
You now have a chance,don't make her feel awkward this time. You were friends,special friends,shared amazing times together. bUt don't dream that she feels the same way.
Act naturally! Be friends with her,be firends w/ the BF,and her group. Don't even mention the times you shared. LET IT FLOW!
One of these days she will get that sinking feeling and remeber the magic you shared.
Then you attack LOL
2006-12-07 20:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by wolfass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wouldn't come over at all if she didn't want to see ya...hrmmm....what to think? I think she is sending some mixed messages and unfortunately you are the one getting kinda messed up in the mix.
Honestly dude, I think she is playing w/ you a bit, doesn't want to completely lose you but doesn't want to commit either, sounds like you got it together more than she does. Shut the door on her, see what happens...if she stops coming around, there is your answer, if she calls more etc....then there is your answer, sometimes love is a game, it really is, next time she comes over or calls you on the blue moon, either ignore her if she shows up or tell her you are busy if she calls, that sounds harsh but you need to resolve this and and get your answer so you can go on. she won't be the only love in your life, trust me, it only feels that way. You sound like a great guy, there are alot of chicks out there who would love to be with you and love you as well. Hang in...
2006-12-07 20:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the song that is being populared by Rascal Flatts - What Hurts the Most?
There you go.
U're a nice n sweet guy that loves this girl dearly.
So tell her how u feel. Thats the only thing you can do. The rest is up to her.
All the best in your happiness. God bless.
Best regards,
Lela.
2006-12-07 20:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by Ms B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sad to say, but she has obviously moved on. you will fall in love again...if you can find a way to open up to people once again. if she lives with her boyfriend and you make her feel awkward, than find a way to get over her...you can do better (just keep telling yourself that)...i really do wish you the best of luck!
2006-12-07 20:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by water_admiral 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First loves are always the hardest to get over. But take my advice and start dateing again. and know that you will never find another first love so quit looking for her. cause there is only one of her, that just to be fare to the other girls. You got to let her go. she has let you go. Go on with your life and enjoy yourself. and find you a truelove now.
Good Luck
2006-12-07 20:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by ms_swampy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really understand what you are going though. Best advice I can give is to let her go. It's going to hurt, real bad. But you'll live. She replaced you fast. Don't do the same. Give your self time for grief. Stay around family, stay active. Let your heart heal,( it will ).
2006-12-07 20:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by samak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somehow this sounds like the beginning of a stalker story... y'know like a horror movie when the guy stalks the girl cuz he loves her then kills the guy she's with then kills her because he can't stand to see her in pain... then kills himself because he just killed the love of his life. Yeah lotsa killing in that story. But seriously just go with what your heart tells you... But don't creep her out.
2006-12-07 20:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her how u feel dude! let her know u still like her. SAY EXACTLY WHAT U SAID HERE ABOUT YALLS RELATIONSHIP! dont expect her to break up with her bf just let her know and hope. i hope i helped!! :) good luck
2006-12-07 20:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by SkataBoi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her and talk about how you feel and why she is kind of afraid? of you. Maybe she'll want you back :)
2006-12-07 20:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋