I have a ex gf that i dated for 3 years. I lived with her for 2 and half. Our relationship started when were 17 we acted like we were married and had kids. We both had jealousy problems badly. I know that i did even though she has never givin me the reason to be. Its been 2 and half months now and she still contacts me i think she still loves me but she cant handle the jealousy and arguiing. Is it ok for her to go out to bars and hang out with friends guys/girls. I love her alot and want her to give me another chance she says to show her i changed. what you think the chances are she is serious?
2006-12-07 12:30:39 · 9 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jealosy is a sign of insecurity and lack of trust. If you both are willing to work on those 2 issues then give it another go ahead. Some relationships are better the second time around. =)
2006-12-07 12:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Cyrinos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is serious and she still do loves you.
Firstly.... u guys have been living together for some time and that can be a very deep memory for most women. And even after the separation...she is still in contact with you. That shows that she still loves you n supporting that fact further, she's giving u another chance.
Going out to bars with her friends is just a temporary cycle and she just needs a breather. U must try to understand that. Every normal individual needs their own space to do their reflections.
She's like a rubber band. She may be stretching now n may be testing her elasticity. Dont pull back or it will break. Just let time decide n have a lil more faith n trust. After all, thats what relationships is all about isnt it? Good luck bro.
Regards.
2006-12-07 20:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ms B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're heated that she's going out with other people to bars and whatnot and you guys aren't even together anymore. That's a RED FLAG telling you that you're jealous. Jealousy is not something you can help yourself with....not matter how many self-help books or how much advice people give you, you have to treat jealousy like any other psychological problem, you have to see a therapist. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, however, if you want her and she clearly told you to show her how you've changed, you can't right now because you're jealous just knowing she's out with other people at bars. You need to change to win her heart. Go see a therapist....it's not like you have to tell people that you're seeing someone. Just go. I bet you you'll feel a million pound lighter once you get all of this off your conscience.
Good luck!
2006-12-07 20:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by MissKate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both have a lot of issues in your relationship. i say you go out for a drink (maybe just coffee or something, alcohol is bad in this sort of case believe me) and have a serious heart to heart on your fears, jealousy, etc. then decide from there if it is worth hanging on to what you have. i hope you both find happiness whatever happens, as i know myself that jealousy is not a feeling you neccessarily want to possess, it just overcomes you!
2006-12-07 20:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by alabama w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not going to like me....but they are your children too?..do you pay any child support? do you see your children? OK that said
NO she should not be going out to bars and hanging out, SHE HAS children at home, and they are not old enough to take care of themselves, she NEEDS to be home with her children..period..not being a girl hanging out...yes she can go out, but ONCE in a while..she needs to GROW up and be a MOM..after all she is a mom, now she needs to become one, and that does not include being a bar fly or hanging out with friends....that said...you need to sweep her off her feet AGAIN, like you did when she fell in love with you...do those silly things, send her flowers, send her expensive chocolates, as her out on a date....take her out to a nice quiet restaurant and get her all soft and warm about the whole thing...( marriage ..you two together with kids is just like a marriage) takes tons of work....once things are back to normal..do not slack off...keep making her feel great..then ask her for you two to go to something like a marriage encounter, they are free given by most churches, it is a weekend deal and you two will end up more in love after that
good luck
2006-12-08 09:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its no longer about you.... be together for your kids. They need a dad. When you made that choice your forgoed all your privies as a teen. Man up and be there for the family
2006-12-07 20:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by darrel s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize you are not together anymore and she can do anything she wants to do.
2006-12-07 20:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably alot since she no will respect u give her another shot.
2006-12-07 20:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by question man 911 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she is serious you need to make sure that you are ready to do right and you need to prove it
2006-12-07 20:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by portia b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋