I hate kids, never want them, and never think I will want them. That's my choice, and nobody else's. So... I know most people think there's something wrong with couples who don't have kids and usually they like to tell you that. How can I handle those nosy rude people who constantly will pester me about it? I just want to live my life without everyone nagging me about when I'm going to have kids... This question is really aimed towards others in a similar situation.
2006-12-07 12:28:45 · 33 answers · asked by two_kee_kees 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
LMAO, some of you have great responses. And to that idiot who said something about how I don't want kids or grandkids to visit me.. you're exactly the type of person I want to avoid. No I don't want kids or grandkids. That's my choice. Nobody can force me to have kids. I have cats and want dogs.. that's fine by me!
2006-12-07 12:43:36 · update #1
"If you want a bag of sh*t that screams at the same pitch as a numatic drill, that's your problem. Not mine."
2006-12-07 12:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by erynnsilver 4 · 12⤊ 2⤋
Its generally part of natural progression to have children, but not required.
If the person who was nagging me about having children wasnt one I liked, I would tell them that I wasnt having children because they may turn out like the other kids in the neighborhood. That will get them thinking.
If its someone I liked, I would tell them the glories of not having children and how I can come and go as I please without a babysitter, paying for education and other things that drag you down.
Either way, its none of their business. Ask them WHY THEY HAD children and see what they say. Either they were an accident, unexpected or from a mistake they made earlier in life with someone they arent with anymore.
Challenge them on that and ask them if their children were planned and expected and see what kind of reaction YOU get from those questions.
2006-12-07 12:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by billydeer_2000 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't feel bad about stretching the truth, you could just say that you aren't able to have kids. Of course, then they would probably ask WHY you aren't able. At that point, you could just say you don't want to talk about it and leave it at that.
When you think about it, saying that really wouldn't be a lie. Since you don't want to have kids, I am assuming that you are on some kind of birth control, unless you have had your tubes tied. So...saying that you are unable is not really a lie. It's not the full truth, either. But hey, you do what you have to do.
2006-12-07 14:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by I'm Still Here 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for 6 years and are in our 30's so we get asked this all of the time. I just keep saying we are not ready and are enjoying life the way it now. I also say that I believe kids should be the parent's responsibility (not the rest of the family) and we are not ready for that yet. Maybe some day but not anytime soon.
2006-12-07 12:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I'm exactly the same - nobody has ever challenged me about it though - I think that it's because I don't doubt myself - you have to 'come over' as being confident and sure of yourself - there are lots of people out there that agree with you - and one chap that I spoke to who said that 'if you thought about having kids you wouldn't' - at least we're making a choice! Good on you and stick with it - there are more important things in our lives!
2006-12-09 01:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by ticket2ride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try this: even as they nook you, tell them, "i do not opt for to carry toddlers into this risky international". What loving determine is going to face there and argue that: a) the international isn't risky b) this is large! bypass ahead and convey an chance free toddler into chaos. try it! If someone tries to argue this common sense, strengthen and eyebrow. absolutely everyone that doesn't experience slightly to blame about shoving a toddler into this international isn't balanced. although we are designed to produce offspring, doesn't advise we ought to continuously. Humanity isn't precisely an endangered species. I have toddlers. yet each and every so often i ask your self what type of existence sentence I have given them. each and every so often I hate the potential to imagine outdoors the container. good luck to you!
2016-11-30 07:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love it when a person says that by not wanting to have children you are being selfish. My response to that is always "And how is having a child any less selfish?" It isn't - they are both selfish choices. No child every asks to be brought into the world. My feeling is that there are already way too many of us on this planet. Why pollute the earth with more mewling consumers?
2006-12-08 02:29:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, my husband and I have a child, but I'd like to answer this question.
When someone starts nagging you about when you are going to have children you can tell them that you're not. When they start telling you why you should have children you can tell them that you'd rather not discuss it. You've made up your mind and you would not be interested in having children. It is, afterall, none of their business. YOu can politely tell them that, too. It IS none of there business. Good luck!
2006-12-07 12:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
people tend to believe that everyone has to date someone of the opposite sex, and then marry the person, have one kid, and then another... but i believe slowly this is changing and people are realizing a person can be happy - especially a woman - and not have kids. Anyway we have to be patient with those who insist having kids is what nature intended for us, or god or whatever. And I guess having friends who are more open minded helps.
2006-12-07 13:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by Luisa H T 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am with you. I want nothing to do with them.
They nag you because it's out of that fantasy that this is how life should be. You meet, fall in love, have kids, and live everafter.
Bull. Without kids you have more time, more money to per sue
the things you and a person of your choosing want to do.
How to handle them. Tell them how much fun your having.
You can do what you want, when you want. Take a look
at the newlyweds with babies around you. It's like a ball and chain. I think society ostracizes people without kids like us.
It's just not fair. That is our choice. Don't get me wrong, I had a loving mom, thank god, but am just not cut out to be a parent.
email me if you want to chat some more about this one.
2006-12-07 12:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by rjm96 4 · 7⤊ 2⤋
I am 33 and in the same boat, even to the point I think my grandmother thinks I am gay, despite the fact that I have had the same boyfriend for 5 years and one for 10 years before that. I like my freedom and independence, it is not that I do not like children, I just don't have the patience. I have been told I am selfish, I will change my mind, I am disappointing everyone and I am not full filling my womanly duty. My response is, I would never tell you how to raise your children, so please don't tell me to have children. That is usually enough to keep them quiet.
2006-12-07 12:42:05 · answer #11 · answered by Cherry_Blossom 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋