there is a guy in my school and he is so hot! i don't know if i should ask him out even though my parents said i can't have a boyfried.
2006-12-07 12:15:52 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
??? how shold i know???
2006-12-07 12:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by C.J. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously if your parents have stated you are not allowed to have a boyfriend, they feel you are either not old enough, or not mature enough. If you feel their decision on the matter is unfair, sit down with them and ask them to explain why they feel the way they do. Be respectful, answer any and all questions they ask honestly, and above all else, if you do not like what they say, do not start pouting--that will only prove their point to them. (Perhaps you could suggest a compromise, group dates only, such as going to the movies, bowling, or to the skating rink with other "couples" your age--but do not say it will be chaperoned if you know it won't be, and don't say it will be "a bunch of us" when it will only be you and the guy in question.) If after talking with them, they agree to see how it would work, ask yourself if how much you value the friendship you have with this guy--keep in mind that at your age the chance of you guys breaking up after a month or so is greater than the chance of you guys staying together for a long time--and when the time comes that you and him do break up, will you and him be able to go back to being just friends? If you feel your friendship with him is strong enough to be able to return to just friends, or if you don't really care, then as long as your parents agree you are old enough to start dating, go ahead and ask him out.
2006-12-07 20:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you listen to your parents. Or do what I did, I told the boy that I wasn't allowed to have a boyfriend but would like to become friends and date until I'm allowed to have a serious relationship. Providing the guy isn't a jerk - he should be happy to be friends with you and date you (without being involved with someone else) If he really likes you, he will understand the situation you are in and he will deal with it. I was with my ex boyfriend for 91/2 yrs. We dated when I was in high school (even though my parents didn't want me to have a serious relationship) and established a relationship after I was able to have one - which lasted an additional 4 yrs. Take it slow. I know you probably disagree with your parents advice - but it's for your own good. Prove to them that you are mature and can respect their advice. Good Luck !
2006-12-07 20:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know how old you are! Middle school and up is good for boyfriends! ^_^ I haven't listened to my parents about boyfriends (they don't want me to have one either!) It takes a lot to hide it from your parents! Make sure you can tell your friends what you are doing and get advise from them...it's good. How much do you like this guy though? If you like him alot and think he'll go out with you...do it! Ask him out...as for dates though it could be hard! Parents usually want to know where you are 24/7...and hiding a BF can be hard! (my parents are over protective) And lastly---good luck!
2006-12-07 20:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Sissy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your parents aren't allowing you to hsve a bf, so you should really listen to your parents.
If you choose not to, well, ask him out. But how can you ask about asking out your best friend, and then in the letter, you're all, "there's a guy in my school and he is so hot." So is this a random guy or your best friend?
2006-12-07 20:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by LSD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well are you sure that he likes youand feels the same way. If you do start dating maybe you should tell your parents i dont know how strict they are..however...if you do ask him out the parents could get in the way of the relationship when u do get serious. If you dont see the relationship going anywhere maybe its not your time yet...Tell your parents how you feel...good luck
2006-12-07 20:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a friend then I dont think its a good idea because when you do get a boyfriend and you are going through tough times with him then you will have him to talk to but if get in a relationship with him and break up there goes a good frienship down the drain.
2006-12-07 20:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by youngbreezy_123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he given you any signs that he is interested in being more than friends. Plus are you willing to risk losing his friendship if things go bad. Friendship can lead to great relationships... if done correctly and with both people in the right place for it to happen. (be careful that it doesn't become a case of Friends with Benefits.) Good luck!!!!
2006-12-07 20:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by angel007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to start with your parents said you can't have a boy friend, that says it all. don't take it any futher because you can get him into trouble if your caught and then hell have nothing to do with you ever. si i would just talk with him at school and build a good friendship that could last a life time
2006-12-07 20:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by sexie1949 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents arnt the boss of you. If you dont start makin your own choices then you never will. And if they keep on holding you back its gonna have a seirou effect on you
2006-12-07 20:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by uphemie girl lovin it 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him then just do it ! Now still respect your parents in a way!
2006-12-07 20:19:23 · answer #11 · answered by happy spirt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋