Why would money make someone a good mom?

Question

I just don't get it. Why do some women think that because they are wealthy that it makes them a good mother? Does it really matter if you drive a mercedes or a pinto? Is it just that these people are superficial or is there something I'm missing?

Just thought I'd add this; Paris Hilton plans to have four kids. I heard it on the radio so I don't know if it's true or false. I'm sorry but could you imagine that? LOL.

Answer 1

Having money doesn't make one a good parent (or a bad one for that matter). However, a good parent DOES make sure all their child's needs are met (note I said "needs, such as food, medical and dental care, etc, not "wants")....and that can be hard to do if you have no money. You don't have to be rich to be a good parent, or even middle class, but I *do* think that a person isn't a good parent if you can't provide for basic needs and make sure your child doesn't suffer. Even a very poor person can [rpvode for most of their child's "basic" needs, however, by doing things like applying for assitance and getting your child medical care through programs like SCHIP or Medicaid, and food through food stamps or food shelves--so you don't have to be rich or middle class to be a "good parent". Honestly, when it comes to money related issues of parenting, there's only one type of "bad" parent that's directly realted to money. That's the parent who makes enough that they COULD care for their children's basic needs, but blows all the money and ends up in debt, so their children go without basic medical and dental needs (or other needs), yet can't qualify for assitence because the parent "makes too much" (all of which they never see because they got themselves too deep into debt being stupid).

Source: Having grown up in a family that was upper middle class but so deep in debt they couldn't even take me to the doctor or dentist.

Answer 2

I think that some people measure success as a parent based solely on what they can buy for their kids. I would not say that all rich people are lousy parents, but I will say that a good majority of people tend to measure their success by how much might be in their bank account. That is true for people who are well off and for people who are less fortunate. I am not rich and I am barely above poor, I do, however think that I am a pretty good parent. I try to instill values such as integrity and compassion and honesty in my children. I am loving to them and am not afraid to make them angry at me if I decide to act in their best interest. With that being said...when I see a beautiful home or beautiful family...I never wish " I want that" because you never know what goes on inside a family or their home...just because its nice or fancy, or they are not struggling to pay their bills or feed their children does not mean that they are living a loving fulfilled life.
To answer your last question... I think it is both...they are superficial and they are missing something.....all you can do is pray that they do not screw up their kids too bad. All kids really need is strong guidance and lots of love and encouragement...they will take that with them forever!!!!

Answer 3

I don't think it necessarily makes them a better mother.

Women with more money can afford to buy their children a lot of the things that they ask for. This tends to make women feel like they are 'being' a good mother by 'doing' things that are making their children happier.

They may not necessarily be spending quality time with their children, teaching them appropriate behaviours, or participating in their lives to a major extent. These are the maternal behaviours that tend to make or break the 'good mother' image in a childs head.

Take heart in knowing that not all wealthy women are Money Moms who buy their children's affection and bribe their kids for good behaviours.
Alternatively, wealthy women often have more time to focus on their children because they don't spend so much time worrying about money.

It's a double-edged sword for all mothers. We all parent differently and sometimes we strongly disagree with other Mums and often feel like we are being judged as being worse than they are. It's very common and if you sat down with the wealthy women you are talking about, I'm sure that you'd find that they have similar feelings of not measuring up. Unfortunately that's the society we live in. Motherhood is undervalued and we are expected to do more and more in order to 'measure' up to each other; even though we're all too worried about measuring up to realise that we're only really judging ourselves and not each other.

Answer 4

I say no, I drive a Nissan Quest and my husband a Toyota FJ Cruiser, and my husband is in the NAVY and I work in human resources, we make between 100k-200k a year but most of the money goes towards the kids, food you know the neccesities, My parents raised me not to be materialistic, but my husband who grew up wealthy was given everything he wanted so we conflict on what is acceptable to give our children. I am happy not being judged on my wealth and happy having my kids udnerstand that money isn't everything. I mean when you die God doesn't say, " oh you were poor you can't go to heaven" he judges you on your character, what type of person you are, not on how much wealth you have.
♥ The Campbell Family: Blaine, Olivia, James, Emma and Madison

Answer 5

I understand where you are coming from that is for the mothers who have worked so much to the point of not spending time with there children to see what it actually feels like to love them that is what makes you a good mother, a mother who can be there regardless of what is going on at the same time I feel bad because I work to much and I am in college and i feel horrible when I am not with my children regardless of the money I may have

Answer 6

Having money doesn't make you a better parent. I have three and don't have a lot of money, but I still consider myself a good mom. I love them, protect them, and provide them with all their needs. I'm there for my kids whenever they need me and I try my best to raise my children to be caring , loving individuals who aren't selfish. As for Paris Hilton, if it's true she wants kids, what will they be like. They will be spoiled children who take what they have for granted like their mom. Not to mention she probably will have nannies raising them.

Answer 7

Having more money makes it easier to parent your kids because you arent as stressed over money.

Thats what they say anyway. But ive never known someone to have LESS problems with MORE money. They seem to come hand in hand.

We were pretty hard up for cash when i was growing up, and my mom was just 19 when I was born. But she has raised three wonderful children who are by far much better than any other results of wealthy parenting ive ever seen.

I dont think it makes a difference. Parenting is about selflessness. Selfish people can be poor and rich, and their children can end up just as crappy.

Answer 8

I used to work with a Mom who was rich she thought she was great because she could provide her children with all the wonderful things like vacation and shush. these children never really learned to work and always had there hand out.

What I learned from my mom who was poor she spent time with us she read to us she was there for us she did things with us . We learned to work and to be proud of our work I learned to sew look like a million bucks for pennies.
Clean and be creative be a great cook cheaply I know how to make great things out of nothing, Make a dollar stretch
She taught me to be a great Mom myself and have people complent my children and how well behaved and wonderful they are.
So which mom would you pick even though it may be nice now and again to have that mom with the bucks ussally she would not be there for the kid when it really counted.
Give me my mom in the beat up old white chev any time .

Answer 9

A lot of people seem to believe that having money makes them better people. It's a status thing.

I can tell you from personal experience that emotional support is far more valuable than financial support. Money will buy nice things for awhile, but it doesn't teach you how to cope with the world.

Answer 10

You're not missing a thing. They're superficial. Money does not make you a good mom. It's love, patience, and the ability to carry a toddler on one hip while holding the phone on your shoulder with your chin while cooking dinner with your free hand. Oh, and not to scream when the dog runs by wearing your swimsuit.....