what can i do to increase my baby's feelings for me and decrease his feelings for his ex,
what i mean is my bf isn't over his ex, it bothers me and i know if i say cut all contact with her it''s make him want her more, so what CAN i do? be friends with her? or give me creative suggestion i'm guessing if he loved me he'll get over her naturally right?
2006-12-07 11:54:37 · 7 answers · asked by L.K. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he says he loves me and doesn't want her and is willing to cut all contacts with her but his actions tell me something else!
2006-12-07 12:02:43 · update #1
patience, love, and time will solve everything, trust him
2006-12-07 12:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by M T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid that she is right. He holds the key to this relationship from this point, and the ball is in his court. All that you can do is be a good girlfriend, yet make it clear that it is him and only him that you are interested in. I understand your mind set- keep your friends close but your enemies even closer, with regards to his ex. Don't push it and don't force it upon yourself; if you have to compromise who you are for a guy that still doesn't know what or who he wants, then forget about him- know thyself and your value. Be with your hand on the pulse when it comes to him and her, but do not force yourself to be her friend, and it might just weird him out. Be patient with him, and let him know that you are there for him, and show him that you are the best thing that he has ever had, but do not lower yourself to certain that will make you regret what you did.
Good Luck.
2006-12-07 20:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by LaLaLand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is right my friend...no matter what you do you won't be able to make him get over her. I have to be honest, by being in this relationship while he's still in love with her, you are only hurting yourself. He probably thinks of her even when you guys are getting giggy-with-it. So think about it...you should give him time and just be a friend who is there WHEN EVER he needs to talk to someone. Don't push him and if he really likes you and if he EVER falls in love with you then you'll have him all to yourself. If he never develops those kinds of feelings for you then you'll know you were a good friend to him.
2006-12-07 19:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by bellarisel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain of knowing someone you care about has feelings for someone else is really hurtful, I know. Becoming friends with her is not a good thing, he might look at it as interference. The best thing to do, is to trust in his love for you, if it's not true you will know in time.( key word is TIME ). Don't let his ex destroy what you already have.
2006-12-07 20:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by samak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be the girls friend are you crazy then he's going to want a three some, oh wait a minute that would be cool, anyway you have to capture his attention in a way that she can't. Maybe if you give head better than her that will get em, it's either that or he wants her back
2006-12-07 20:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by Great one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him how u feel if he understands then give him a chance
if he doesn't and thinks ur just making stuff up then dump him
2006-12-07 19:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by yoselin n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant just increase feelings over night! and you cant get rid of them easily. its just something he has to do on his own. wish you the best.
2006-12-07 19:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋