my neighbors tell me everytime im gone and they say the cars are there late or there over night. It stressing me out and kinda worring me. How do i approch her or talk to her about it
2006-12-07 11:48:47 · 22 answers · asked by harry rav 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
IM 13!!! LAY OFF!! I GO TO MY DADS HOUSE ONCE A WEEK AND WHEN IM GONE THEY TELL ME THIS
2006-12-07 11:52:29 · update #1
Are you sure you are ready to find out whatever it is? It may just be the neighbours talking but i have to admit if it is more than just 1 neighbour and it continues you should confront her with your fear. Now dont go out there and say: " How dare you sleep with strangers" Talk more about you perspective and how you feel about it. aproach her with care and with concern not with anger and frustration: TRY THIS:
start the sentence with " Mom i really feel uneasy and id like to talk to you about it because i am very worried." Ask her to be honest and tell her that you love her and than tell her how the neighbours approach you and how you feel about that. Remain calm and dont yell or get upset.. if you really want to know you may get an answer you really dont like. SO think carefully of what you wish to know. If you realise that you do get upset tell your mom you need some time to think about it and go to your room get your anger under controll and approach her again when you are calm again. Remember thinks may not be like they seem and please do give her a chance to explain
2006-12-07 12:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by purple butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd leave and stay in the neighbourhood to check the facts, you don't want to accuse her if she's innocent...what if she just had friends over....
Then if it's true (sorry about that) I guess you'll just need to go ahead and talk about it. Try not to get too angry or she'll probably deny it. Is your father still around? If so do you think he knows? I'd approach my mother alone. She needs to deal with the "couple" issue as a couple. Good luck
-- I just noticed you added details. Then your father has nothing to do with this. Have they seperated recently? If she is with someone she may not want to tell you because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Try to understand that she's entitled to being happy again as a couple some day and this might evolve into something a bit deeper than a hidden relationship. If you show understanding and you don't resent her too much because of this, the "secrets" will probably end and I'll guess you'll meet a new stranger soon.
If she's with different people...no idea as to what advice I would give. I couldn't deal with it myself. ciao
2006-12-07 11:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by casp 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
At least your mom is doing it when you're not home so at least you're not forced to meet and be pleasant to people that you don't really want to know about. Be grateful she's trying to keep you out of it. And remember - she's your mom and she's an adult and she's entitled to have friends over to do with as she pleases. When she meets a guy that she feels ready for you to meet then she'll introduce you. If it doesn't bother you that she's got people over then you can casually mention to her that it's ok with you if she met somebody, and then she'd be more inclined to introduce you. She's just doing what she thinks is best and I would do the same.
2006-12-07 11:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by kyls 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just thanks to your neighbor and wait till your mum ready to come and talk to you. You should not involve with this until she starts to discuss with you. She is old enough to look after herself, and can decide what does she wants. Once she is more confident, you will be the one to know. You play as a daughter role.
2006-12-07 14:17:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mom and I were close like that when I was younger and I would have jusked asked her. Yeah, maybe is was none of my business but if it's something that is worrying you for any reason you should be able to talk to her about it. Don't go about it like she is wrong for doing whatever because she can do WHATEVER she wants. Go about it like I am worried and wondering what it going on...
2006-12-07 11:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by jonesin_am 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
it is her life but at the same time if you feel its harming the family then you gotta step in..you can't do anything w/o definite proof so yur just gonna have to see for yourself..it might be totally different from what you think...sometimes the grownups need the youngins to set em straight too.
2006-12-07 11:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by WC 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well she's a grown woman , she needs companionship too. At least she doesn't bring them home while your there like my mother use to do.
2006-12-07 13:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Umm, Why are you worried? Your only 13! Just move on with your life. Your moms living hers just fine! Go out there and have some fun!!!
2006-12-07 11:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Hey I don't know how old you are but one thing I do know is your mom will not appreciate your interference in her life and if she hasn't talked to you about it she feels its none of your business. Sorry but maybe you should be concentrating on why it is stessing you out and worrying you. Good luck.
2006-12-07 11:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by a.rose19 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You should have girls sleep over your house and when your mom confronts you and gives you a lecture just tell her its not fair that she gets to have people sleep over. LOL
2006-12-07 11:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by playboy10888 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋