I just started talking to this woman( yes, I only date women, before anyone asks). We're not even officially a couple, we are just taking it slow to see where it goes. So, Christmas is coming up, and her child's b-day is right before X-mas. I want to buy the child a gift, but would I be wrong not to get her a present for X-mas since we aren't really officially a couple? I have no idea if she will get me a gift, but I have no problem buying one for her child. Plus, I'm kind of low on money and have no idea what she would like anyway.
2006-12-07 11:43:39 · 13 answers · asked by indrep33 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it has nothing to with me being a girl and not being able to figure another girl out. It would be the same if I was dating a guy, I would still be wondering if I should get him a present. Just because we're both women doesn't mean we feel the exactly the same about everything or anything.
2006-12-10 08:37:42 · update #1
I think you should go ahead and get her child a present if you want to. And about the woman, you could talk to her about Christmas... ask her what her plans are and stuff, just be casual, and then casually mention that you aren't sure if you should get HER anything. She's probably wondering about it as well. it may be embarrassing and uncomfortable, but sometimes you just have to grit your teeth and do it.
PS. I think it's great that you aren't afraid to let us all know that you only date women - it's quite inspiring. I hope people don't discriminate against you here or anything.
2006-12-07 11:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong at all. In my family, no adults buy for other adults--we buy for the children only (nieces, nephews, sons and daughters, younger siblings, etc.). Most adults (unless you're practically homeless) don't NEED anything. For kids, Christmas is all about presents and fun; adults should know better and understand the real reason behind the holiday, and know that it's about giving.
2016-05-23 04:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask the mother if it's ok for you to buy her child a gift. If you're concerned about not having a gift for the mother, a bottle of wine with a big red Christmas bow is always nice- and not too pricey.
2006-12-07 11:46:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel that it is wrong then don't spend anything on anyone.
If you feel like you want to buy something then split the cash into
two and buy a little something for both of them. If you have $20
there's something out there for a reasonable price $10 for the kid
and buy roses for your girl and that's that. They will both be happy.
next time when you have more cash and you want to spend a little more then go for it. Remember it's your money.
2006-12-07 11:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its never wrong to buy a child a gift as long as its for the sake of giving. the message you will send to her if you get her nothing will be hurtful though. at least get her a card or take her to dinner. wow and I thought us guys had a hard time figuring out girls. you girls dont even know yourselves!
2006-12-07 11:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by sufferingnomad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to take them to dinner, so that it can be for both of them, or if you want to make it a gift for the child...go for it, I'm sure she will appreciate it.
2006-12-07 11:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-12-07 11:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by BILL 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you would get major brownie points for buying her kid a gift. I think that would be a gift to her too.
2006-12-07 11:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by jenny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children always deserve a present. Just keep it small - if they are not appreciative you will learn something about them.
2006-12-07 11:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by happy_southernlady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy a small present for the tot, it's a nice gesture, and make something for her like bath salts or even massage oil
2006-12-07 11:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by mike w 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋