me and my girlfriend have been going out for 7 months and its going great were both 17 but i can never seem to see y she cant just make up her mind, she will say that she can do something or go somewhere and then 5 mins b4 i go to pick her up she cant anymore. she does have strict pearents but theres no reason to say that you can do something when u know u cant or even think that u cant, im a pretty jelous guy and she sometimes lies about going places (i get to see her maybe 2 hours a week out of school) shes never cheated on her exes or me but she can lie alot and the worse thing is catching her shes gone to clubs w/o telling me and i really dont like her dancing with other guys, and saying shes going somewhere and then not, its really suspicious shes really naieve and dosnt know guys intentions ive completly stoped smoking for her and always get her stuff to make her happy She knows that i cant stand her telling me she can do something and then not doing it, it pisses me off plz help
2006-12-07 11:41:28 · 27 answers · asked by some guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
2 things:
The harsh way) Give her three more chances to stand you up, then break up with her, you can let her know ahead of time.
The nice way) Do it to her... Start standing her up at the last moment... Give her a dose of her own medicine...
Most importantly remember: All is fair in love and war
2006-12-07 11:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude - I've been through the same thing!!!!! What you just wrote I saw myself 20 years ago.
If you stay with her you are asking for trouble. You're only 17. You have alot of time!!! to find someone. When you turn 21 and hit the bars even college you will find the right girl. She's lies now, tells you she isn't cheating, but you don't know. I bet she can lie right to your face and you won't know. You catch her in lies and confront her. I surely bet she will say no you're wrong and try to talk her way out of it.. Trust me man. AS hard as it is. Break away from her. Don't even talk to her because she will sweet talk you. She knows you better then you know yourself. Get out while you can!
I can tell you what I went through and bet you're going through the same thing.
Good luck.. and talk to your parents or school counselor. This girl will con you and you need someone to help you over come her.
2006-12-07 11:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Studio A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say shes got pretty strict parents but at the same time she goes out to clubs? Umm. first off dont work your self up on the jelousy part, you only 17 and have a lot to learn about relationships, you will end up bald by the age of 25! i think you need to confront her and tell her every lil thing that she does to you thats considered messed up. relationships go 50/50. she cant be disrespecting you like that unless she would like that done to her! Go, confront her now!
2006-12-07 11:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by hondalos11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's not ready for a serious relationship and you may be. So why don't you give her a little time to grow up and realize if she want you or not in her life. Come on, I don't think she's having an inocent dance with some strange guys, you know how clubs are, don't blind yourself. You should look for someone else who appreciates you and give you your place. Is willing to spend time with you and who doesn't lie to you. Open you eyes my friend, you'll only hurt your self and your life will be misserable is you stay with her.
2006-12-07 11:48:25 · answer #4 · answered by bellarisel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..... Im 17 also and if I know any better i would say she like to go out and have fun... I mean at your guys ages yall like to party you shouldnt fret over this girl because to me like she likes you but shes not gonna let you hold her down... and the fact that your jealous its cute at first but girls dont like it after awhile thata probaly why she is lieing because she feels like your going to get on her case about something that she doesnt see as such a big deal but you do.... she not gonna change her ways I very much doubt it so you should except it or move on....
2006-12-07 11:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was just her standing you up that would be easy. Just do the same thing to her. But you have a much bigger problem. And you can not live with it. So it is time to ditch the liar. Sounds like you deserve someone better.
2006-12-07 11:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make it clear to her.. sit her down and tell her that it bothers you when she lies and that you would prefer the truth...as for the parents I think she's just trying to be nice to you by saying yes because she wants to be with you but once it comes up to parent's consent, she can't..don't blame her for that..just try to plan better and don't force things..like the lieing issue..you're old enough, ask yourself how many times have you lied to your parents cuz you thought they would yell at you for doing something or even stop you..this is the same..if you really like her, you gotta find out what she wants to do..if she likes to go out w/o you just let her know that you're not comfortable with it cuz you dont wanna lose her and you want her happiness..she'll let out her thoughts and feelings this way..you gotta make her comfortable to able to talk to you bout things..try it and gluck
2006-12-07 11:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by WC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is the only way she can find to be in control, of a relationship where her partner does not trust her / thinks he owns her and gets jealous if she talks to anyone. She is her own person. If you form a steady relationship and you want it to be long term then STOP BEING JEALOUS then she can relax and be normal....
2006-12-07 11:47:59 · answer #8 · answered by mark2zephyr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think she would intentionally say yes to do something when she knew she couldn't, it must be hard with her parents..i know a friend whos mum used to say yes and at the last minute changed her mind (she was a *****) u need2 b ther2 support ur g/f against her parents, if u do truly like her u will stand by her
2006-12-07 11:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by ami s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new girlfriend. Someone out there will appreciate the fact that you want to spend time with them. If she is lying to you and dancing with other guys, then you don't need her. Sometimes its better to be by yourself than with someone you weren't meant to be with.
2006-12-07 11:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by pruittwithkids 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋