I chat with them through ym, and we never talk about anything sexual, but they always want me 2 fly out of state to meet them. The funny thing is that most, if not all, are willing 2 pay for everything. There was this one guy who wanted me 2 stay with him for a couple of days, and the trip was going 2 be payed for. Keep in mind, I am 19 and most of the men I have chatted with are in their late twenties to their early thirties. It just surprises me how people are willing to dish out cash just to see me. WHat do u guys think about this. BTw.. i have seem them on web cam and I have seen pic of them and they have seen me as well. They never say anything lewd to me, they treat me like a young woman should be treated. Many have said that they want to spoil me, so i can enjoy the finer things in life. I am not a gold digger but i would enjoy living a life of financial security where I dont have to work, and I cant imagine a woman who wouldn't want to live thier life this way.
2006-12-07 11:29:38 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They always say that u would enjoy being with an older man who can take care of u. Is this bad? BTW.. i dont believe in sex out of marriage..that is totally out of the question.
2006-12-07 11:31:34 · update #1
Im guessing that these guys are desperate and pretty much big losers, dont you agree????
I would never act that way
2006-12-07 11:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the internet has created another social outlet for some people, it's provided an additional way of being 'bold'. Especially, where the opposite sex is concerned, what you're speaking of doesn't just apply to guys, it's also some women who are on the net as well.
I think that there are many lonely people in the world and they're looking to 'hook up' with that 'right' person at any price.
Although, if I were you I'd be very wary of anyone wanting you to come and visit them who wanted to pay to fly you out there before you got to know them exceptionally well.
Be careful out there, er...in here!
2006-12-07 11:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by somewherein72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, these guys aren't your Prince Charming. They are either so desperate (for a reason) that they are willing to shell out loads of cash in the hope that you will feel "grateful" when you get there.
Or they intend to have a go at you whether you like it or not.
Prince Charming has plenty of princesses to choose from wherever he lives; he doesn't need to fly them in.
Now, if you've met a guy in person and know a little about him, the offer to pay for your trip out is not necessarily the red flag that I previously described, but please note the difference.
This no pre-marital sex thing is interesting; maybe church is where you're going to find the rare guy that doesn't think pre-marital sex is part of any healthy adult relationship. Note that I didn't tell you that your no sex value is wrong in any way; it's a personal choice we each have to make.
2006-12-07 11:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because they pay for a trip, romance your pants off and take advantage of your age doesn't mean they will marry you. now, if you really think about it how would you like to be stuck with some man that you are financially dependent on. you don't have financial security you have finacial dependency... big difference! You might not have to work outside your home, but your esteem will surely suffer and you are wasting your youth. get a good education, you are still able to. find a good job that can give you financial freedom! don't put yourself into dangerous situations with men outside of your state. what if you meet them in person and you don't like them, but they have something else in mind... think how many women get raped.
2006-12-07 11:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by lot2talkabt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It varies. My best friend went to 2 or 3 trips like that. The trips were always paid for, they never did anything to hurt her. They just spoiled her, bought her clothes just what ever. But another friend of my went on a trip like that she she came right back, he was weird. So, It just varies.
My sister and her fiance meet over the net. People need to remember that you can meet creeps in person as well as on the computer.
2006-12-07 11:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by Think _out_side_the_box 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all is not as it seems in the first place, long distance chat a look at each other on the web cam a few little white lies maybe ,and when you go their and find he does not have the good job he said and you dont have the money to come home what you going to do then .check it out first and see ,look before you leap
2006-12-07 11:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by leonard24seven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of these men are lonely, extremely lonely and they lack a lot of the social finesse that most of us learn in high school. These men may not know how to bring up the subject of sex or even know how to be sexy.
Don't be naive, they WANT to have sex with you and they want you to fly out so they can have sex with you, they just don't know how to ask for it.
2006-12-07 11:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah - um - what you're talking about is having men buy you thing and pay for you so they can spend time with you. That's being a call girl, or if it goes farther, a whore. downer. keep it simple and if you want to meet one of them, have them come to you so that if it doesnt go well you arent out on the street in a wierd city.
2006-12-07 11:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please tell me your kidding!!
I'm going to sound like a mother but....
Its dangerous as all hell staying with someone you dont know
Over the internet they can pretend to be ANYONE
They probably have no money at all
They probably sit on there computers all day, dreaming up fantasies with other naive girls.
Get off the internet and look around for someone you can see and interact with before making a judgment that you want to be with them.
2006-12-07 11:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be careful when doing this. Even though you have seen them on cam and do know their age, doesnt mean they are not sexual prediators. Just be careful is all I have to say.
2006-12-07 11:32:51 · answer #10 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know about that it may be true but the part about wanting to spoil u smell like bullshit to me..of course they will say all that to get u come there and to get in your pants.. take it from me a male we are somewhat of liars when we talk to or about females..what u really need to do is holla at me on yahoo mess bdbdub ...lol
2006-12-07 11:33:18 · answer #11 · answered by bdbdub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋