There is this girl that I like and today we talked and she said that I was the one that she liked the best out of all the guys at school. Were both 16 y/o. She has a boyfriend but he is in a higher grade. What I want to know is if I should make my move and ask her out or if I should wait to see if she breaks up with her boyfriend or if since she has a boyfriend and she is talking to someone behind his back if she is even worth the trouble.
2006-12-07 11:23:36 · 28 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if she is talking behind his back, she'll do it to you also. Just forget about her and love me!!!! ;)
2006-12-07 11:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
That's a pretty good hint she likes you more than a friend. But she has a boyfriend and you should respect that. Next steps depend on how you feel about her. If you like her, since you seem to have a pretty good friendship I'd keep it at that for now, but nothing prevents you from just hanging around and doing things as friends. You know it's awful to say but some relationships start that way too... she might be starting to realize she doesn't see a future with this other guy, and guess who's on the waiting list? Most relationships at 16 don't last forever anyway so I'd just hang around and keep on enjoying her company and getting to know her better.
The fact that she's telling you this is telling me she trustes you. If it bothers you that she's having second thoughts and is telling you about it, then perhaps it's better to stay friends.
Some things are just messed up in High School, it's hard to figure out what we want and how to express it. I wouldn't judge her too harshly..
If you feel uncomfortable about the issue, just break the ice and ask her (gently) what she meant by that and let her know that you're interested, but that you'd really like her to sort out her feelings. I'm putting emphasis on "there's no rush". It's already hard as it is for her right now to figure out what she wants, if you're putting more pressure for a choice she might resent it and you might lose her.
I'm thinking you have pretty good odds though.
2006-12-07 19:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by casp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would wait to see if she leaves her boyfriend...if she just lets it keep going and keeps you hanging, then ask her whats up and if nothing comes of that then let it go. Yes, it is worth the trouble because just cuz she's with someone doesn't mean she can't start liking someone else, and if she could see herself happier with you then she shouldn't stay with the other guy. I would let it play out for a bit but not too ridiculously long and if she keeps stringing you along, then its not worth the trouble. Theres alot of girls out there that will be straightup and honest with you and if shes not one of those girls then you wouldn't want a relationship wit her anyway. I hope you find the answer your looking for and good luck!!
2006-12-07 19:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by TheHottestChristinaYouKnow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sit back and wait and see what she does next. Maybe she is afraid to leave her boyfriend because she doesnt know how you feel about her and doesn;t want to be alone over Christmas. Maybe you took it all wrong and she just likes you as a friend? maybe she thinks she can have you both? Its impossible to know what is going on with her.
You should sit and talk to her. Ask her what her plans are, find out how she really feels. if you don;t like that approach just sit back and wait to see what she does. If she makes a move, stop her, tell her you respect her and relationships, and if she wants to pursue one with you she needs to tell her boyfriend goodbye.
Good Luck!
2006-12-07 19:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She said she liked you, she didn't ask you out, therefore she is not doing anything wrong behind anyone's back. If she asked you out, that would be another story. Wait until and if she breaks up w/ her b/f then go for it but if you are going to have an issue of trust then don't do it but again, she is not "talking" to you although she did talk to you, behind anyone's back.
2006-12-07 19:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by lovelife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now I don't think she is worth the trouble. I would wait, she'll break up with her b/f if she wants to, and that's when you should make your move.
2006-12-07 19:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by sapphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not the best idea to just ask her out right away, I am kinda thinking she isn't worth your time. But you never know. She might be seriously unhappy in her relationship and just doesn't know how to end it. Let her decide what she wants and who she wants, but make it clear you aren't waiting forever.
2006-12-07 19:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by Jodanna B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until this girl is free. And be careful, because if she has a man now and is talking to you like dis, what will it be like if you're her bf? would she talk to a guy behind your back? ( I shouldn't answer your question with a question. Lol)
2006-12-07 19:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out. Take a chance if you know its worth it. But first try to find out what she thinks about her boyfriend.
2006-12-07 19:27:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just be her friend and get to know each other. If she is dating someone else, respect their relationship; neither of you would be the type of person you are seeking if you would contribute to a "cheating" type of situation. Sounds like you already know the right thing to do, trust your instincts.
2006-12-07 19:27:09 · answer #10 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you stated what you desire first and the latter two is your common sense as your latter thoughts. You have good instincts. Don't go near someone like this. Imagine you dating her and knowing she said that to another guy.
2006-12-07 19:26:02 · answer #11 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋