What's the right age for sex?

Question

I'm 15 and have been wondering if it's time yet. I love my bf and he keeps telling me it's time. We're both virgin, so I'm not sure. What should I do???

Answer 1

18

Answer 2

Ok, because you are asking this question, it at least shows that you do have some insight and have some maturity (take it as a compliment). I would say that it really depends on the people and what stage of the relationship you are at. In your case, I would say wait until you have been together for at least 6 months and then make sure that you are on the birth control pill. Go and talk to your doctor about getting on it so that you don't have any surprises 9 months down the road. By the way, you need to wait at least a month after starting the pill before it has it's full effect. And since the pill isn't 100% effective, I would also recommend using condoms as well. Believe me, a guy will not say no to using a condom if it means not getting any.

Answer 3

Don't listen to your boyfriend, he's been ready for sex since he knew there was a word for what he was doing to himself.

Listen to your heart and your head. There isn't any right age. There is just the right person and the right time. You will know when this is because there won't be any doubt in your mind, you will want nothing more and at 15, the odds that you will even know this boy, let alone be his girlfriend, two years from now are astronomical. Don't be surprised when he goes on about his needs and says he has to get it somewhere or gives you some other kind of ultimatum, he would be normal.

You know the answer already, if he loves you he won't pressure you, he will wait, and be proud to be with someone who is so passionate about her value. Don't worry, he'll take care of himself, and he isn't dying, no matter what he says.

Your body, your choice. Life is full of them and, as a woman, this is just the first in a long line of decisions you will have to make that men never will think twice about.

Answer 4

First of all, at 15, I would be VERY surprised if you "love" your b/f, in the true sense of the word. At the risk of sounding like your parents, you are probably confusing "love" with "infatuation." Don't let your b/f - or ANYONE else - pressure you. You, and ONLY you, can decide when you are ready.

But here's a couple of good ways to tell:

(1) Are you - not your boyfriend, YOU - too embarrassed to go into a drug store - in the middle of the day, right up the street from where you live - and buy condoms and/or a pregnancy test? If so, you're not mature enough for sex.

(2) Can you support a baby - without your parents' help? Sex is an adult activity. If you're not capable of dealing with the potential consequences, you shouldn't be engaging in it. No birth control is 100%. NONE.

Answer 5

Well, I can tell you 15 is pretty young. Sex at 15 isn't anything special...it's a little akward and usually breaks young couples up. If your boyfriend loves you then he can wait until you are both emotionally and physically ready. If I were you I would wait until you are at least 18 and out of highschool.
No birth control is completely safe, even condoms have a chance of breaking or leaking. When used correctly they are only 98% effective and most people don't know how to use them correctly...sounds crazy but it's true.
Every 15 year old boy thinks they are ready to have sex, it's their hormones. In truth they are usually too immature to handle the pressures of sex...and what happens if you were to get pregnant, are you emotionally ready for that?
Just wait, there is not a perfect age to have sex but I can tell you 15 is way too young.

Answer 6

10

Answer 7

If you're not sure, you're not ready. Your bf might feel ready (he's a horny teenage boy, what do you expect?) but just because he is doesn't mean you are. Sex is a big decision, and you should wait until you feel comfortable with it. Whenever you decide to do it though, make sure to use protection. By the way, there's absolutely nothing wrong with waiting... no matter what your boyfriend tells you.

Answer 8

There is no right age for sex. Its what age is right for YOU. Don't listen to anyone telling you you're weird for not having sex yet or that everyone is having sex...if you feel it is right for you then go ahead, but it has to be your decision not anyone elses. If your boyfriend is pushing you and you aren't ready, then he doesn't love you...sorry. If he loves you he will respect your decision and wait until you feel in your heart you are ready

Answer 9

wait even longer...until you both feel its right...but i personally think after marriage is the time...I'd be like...25 by that time...or older...now is not good for someone like me...and think of the consequences...and can you talk about sex without giggling like 5th graders? If you take parenting class you'd know what I'm talking about. Sex is a serious issue. Do it when you're older but if you feel its the right time...do what you want...it won't be my baby...

Answer 10

Don't rush it. You shouldn't have sex until you're truly comfortable. Don't let your boyfriend rush you into anything or tell you if you want to stay with me, you will have to have sex with me. Make sure you use condoms and know the risk (physically and emotionally). Also, think about the aftermath, will he spread a rumor about you, leave you afterwards, or will this one time last you future decisions.