PLEASE I desperately NEED confidence help!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

i have very VERY low self confidence that is causing depression and other things. no suicidal thoughts or anything. i just cant seem to think of anything good about myself. i am not going to a therapist or talking to a parent about it. i talked to my school nurse and that didnt really help, my friends try to compliment me often but it doenst work. the last time i talked to my parents about something like this they freaked out and wouldnt even talk to me for days. i have bad experiences with therepists. any good tips for getting a higher self confidence? every little bit helps

Answer 1

first of all guys love the girl who trust herself
u should trust urself dont care what guys talks about u
try to improve from ur personality from the lower to the best
try to get out from ur mind all this thingsthat makes u hate urself
i am sure u r pretty and have many advantages that attract people to u but u dont feel it
why u think ur friends complement u they may say the truth

Answer 2

First you need to figure out why your self confidence is so low... Did something in particular happen, or have you always felt this way. I think the fact your parents stopped talking to you for days when you went to them with a problem doesn't really help matters.... Think of one thing you like about yourself, even if it seems dumb or insignificant, what you do in your daily life affects those around you. Check out It's a Wonderful Life... Very holdiay appropriate as well.... Start focusing on the good and not so much on the bad.

Answer 3

the best advice I have for you is that nothing I can really say or anyone else will help you until you are ready to know how important, valuable and love able you are. If those things make you feel uncomfortable when you say them in reference to yourself then you may need to repeat them in a mirror to yourself until you believe it.

As far as being confident you can't really gain confidence you can acquire it over years of practice and before you know it you will have it. Confidence comes in doing things with out worry. Just try doing something you have never done before and do it without worrying about anything. It will feel good. Most important thing of all is to remember that you were not created to be unhappy. Our creator wants us to be happy, especially you, don't forget that and maybe you'll take a chance and realize how much better you feel. However if you do have any more questions or want to know anything else feel free to email me.

Answer 4

find one thing you can do, I do not care if it is getting out of bed, the next step is simple if you can get out of bed you can get dressed, LOOK at every accomplishment as a step forward, be cause it is, yes I know these are baby steps, but you have to start small, and very soon you are going to be thinking I did, there for I can. It is only fear that holds you back, the way to rid your self of fear and insecurities is to do . As babies were trained in exactly the same way if I can crawl, I can walk, do you see where I am coming from, Keep this baby steps thinking in your mind and you will never need others to hold you up, or carry you, because you will be miles ahead of the others.

Answer 5

If I were you I'd get some money and go out and buy new clothes. Also, I would get a new hair cut and maybe buy some new makeup. When I'm down that always makes me feel better. And sometimes talking to other people doesn't work so get out with some friends and spend some girl time! Good luck! : )

Answer 6

You could try to volunteer somewhere and help other people out who are worse off than you. Helping others always makes me feel better. But keep your head up, try new things and hobbies to keep yourself busy, and talk to your friends about it. I'm sure youll find out that some if not all of your friends feel the same way a lot of the time!

Answer 7

This happens to me sometimes. Just try to get things done...put one foot in fron of the other each day and eventually, you will start feeling better. If you go to a therapist, demand that he/she speaks your language...you don't want some fool that just asks, "Well how does that make you feel...Well how does that make you feel?..." It's like, "I don't know jack-a$$...you're the therapist...you figure it out!!" Anyway...you can get through this.

If you are really depressed, you probably aren't getting much done. I don't...then I just feel worse. Just try to accomlish something each day. Hopefully, you will feel better soon.

Oh....and I log on the Yahoo! Answers and piss of all the people that are up tight with stupid questions. That ALWAYS makes me feel better...No seriously, it really does...

Answer 8

A good way to build self confidence is to realize everyone else is just as good or worse than you...they just dont openly talk about it. Once you realize that, you know that you are as good as anyone else, and either thats a good thing, or theres nothing you can do about it. Im not trying to sound sad...but thats the truth.

Answer 9

I know this is going to sound silly, but several times a day look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you are a beautiful, worthwhile person who can attain anything that you set your mind to. I have done this when I was really down and it's like breaking a bad habit, if you do it for 21 days, without fail, they say it can help and it did for me.

Answer 10

try to believe in yourself. i know it's hard and you probably think that there is nothing to believe in, but really there IS..each person has unique ideas. and also, you are your own best friend. use that to your advantage. There are many 'self help' books for teenage girls- go to your local bookstore (borders, etc) and there will be a whole shelf of them. or just search on amazon. they are real confidence boosters and will tell you a lot more than i can in an answer. here's the link: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=sr_nr_n_7/103-5231615-9283046?ie=UTF8&rh=n%3A1000%2Cn%3A28%2Cn%3A171181%2Cn%3A171187&page=1
good luck! these books are like having an awesome older sister- they know everything!