Over the summer i was talking to this other guy while i was still going out with my bf, well we were technically on a break, and i did something i really really regret. And now i feel guilty and i don't want to tell my bf what i did because i know he will get mad and im afraid he will leave me but still the thought about what i did has been bothering me. help?
2006-12-07 11:19:38 · 11 answers · asked by Heyo44 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guilt - wow, what can I say?
I CAN tell you not to use your guilt to feel you must tell your b/f everything. It WILL hurt him if he cares for you at all. Deal with what you did - get over it - and move on with your boyfriend.
I can't stand people who confess just to ease their own souls. Don't be like those low lifes. If he asks, tell him the truth - if not, leave it be.
2006-12-07 11:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by kc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do your little cost/benefit analysis..... Since it is important to be very trutful in a relationship on the one hand, on the other hand most sexuologists and psychologists would advise along the lines that if your 'summer action' does not mean a lot to you, and it was a one night stand and you are sure that it won't happen again..... then do not tell your b/f ...but rather use it as a personal lesson you have learned..because if you tell him then you are really putting your entire relationship on a risk....... so ask youreslf a question ..Is it worth it to tell him???
Then there are all those theories about how one or two "acts of unfaithfulness" if if well covered can strenghten the relationship..but unless you want to read boring and lengthy psychological reports and essays....then just forget it and do your little cost/ benefit analysis..and your own judgement....
2006-12-07 19:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its kinda late that you regret now,but like you said that you are technically on break.Whatever you do on your break can not be counted as cheating or what so ever.If you did something that you regretted,you should be honest with him,he will find out eventually.And that time,the relationship gonna end for sure.
But,if you tell him the truth now,he will forgive you if he is really want this relationship
2006-12-07 19:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To stop feeling all guilty cause thats the worse feeling ever you have to tell your boyfriend wut you did. Doing this will make him trust you more and say to him how you feel and how your really sorry and its the biggest regret in your life and the only guy in your life is your boyfriend. and if you can start crying so then your boyfriend will know how sorry you really are.
2006-12-07 19:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by Kayzizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would talk to him, or if that's too hard, right a note. Tell him you are sorry, and you feel bad about it. Make sure he knows that he is the most important. It will feel really nice to get it off your chest. Good luck! :)
2006-12-07 19:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by abigillygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him... obviously you are feeling guilty and that's no base for a relationship. Honesty is the best policy... omission of the truth is lying.
2006-12-07 19:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Princess♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him now...its better that the sooner it gets out the better because you know that it wont be quiet forever someday it'll be found out and what happens when you guys are engadged and you feel guilty so you tell him and he cant believe that you lied to him about it...you know you should tell him! think about the future!
2006-12-07 19:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by ugly truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day u n him was on a break so i wouldnt worry about it and it is not classed as cheating so stop worrying about it and there is no reason to tell him anything
2006-12-07 19:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by Katie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget ur past and live ur present and prepare for ur future by never do that again
2006-12-07 19:29:02 · answer #9 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him and then give him more attention that u usual give him soon he will forget all about
2006-12-07 19:23:22 · answer #10 · answered by dr.demonto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋