Boyfriend Dead?

Question

My boyfriend just died in a car wreck, I was driving the car. I feel so guilty. How do I move on to a new boyfriend.

Answer 1

i know very much how you feel not exactly but my boyfriend did commit suicide i still do feel responsible because i felt like i was the only one who could stop it

thats beside the point though

you're always gonna feel a little guilt for what happened there is truly no way around that and it getting over him can take anywhere from a week to a couple of years depending on how much you loved him and you will never bet completely over him some of your heart will always be with him, but my advice for you right now is not to worry about a new boyfriend not just yet first get some closure, pray, go to church/confession, maybe go talk to his family? and if youre not religious, write down everything you feel about all of this, dont hold back just write it all down then burn it, it will relieve some of your guilt, or simply just talk to him when you're alone just tell him everything and don't hold back w/ that either

i am so sorry , i feel your pain
i hope i helped

Answer 2

first, i like to say I'm sorry for what happen to your boyfriend... this is a very sad/tragic thing to happen... if i may ask... when did this happen?... or how long has he been de.....? (uhhmm you get the pic.) maybe a year or two!? or perhaps 3? right? if this just happen recently you'd be mourning right now.... you wouldn't be asking this questions right?! sooo.. you guys who haven't got nice things to say just back off! give her a slack... she's been through a lot of things already...

Well, it doesn't really need to take another year or two to move on/be with another boyfriend.... it really depends on the person.. it depends how he/she handles it... i know lots of people who handle this kind of situation differently... some cry their hearts... some hide... some cut their throats...(i dont want you to get the wrong picture.. dont do the last one! ^_^) it realy depends on how you handle it...my question is.... are you ready? are you ready to move on?

If you're ready.. then you can have another relationship.. forget about him and go on with your life... uhhmmm i didnt mean forget.. as in forget him for good.... just dont dwell on him to much.. i know that you're kinda guilty for what happen because you were behind the wheel when it happen... but don't be!! it wasn't your fault.. you/no one couldn't have possibly done anything from preventhing this to happen... it was an accident.. it was beyond your control...

what i really think you should do right now is... go on with your life and be thankfull that you're alive, that you're still walking & breathing... and he(ur bf) will forever live in your heart!

And soo.. Good Luck with your next relationship! Hope you have a nice day! ----- ------ ----- Drive Carefully next time (^_^) hehe ------ ----- ----

Answer 3

Well yeah I would feel pretty guilty did he get ejected from the car and he wasen't wearing a seat belt? In that case. he's partly to blame. But yes u have every right to feel guilty and i don't think you should move on just yet. Work through your feelings of guilt you might talk to a professional or your Pastor or other religious leader. He may be able to offer you some advice.

Answer 4

Don't worry about it - because you are probably just imagining it.

Uh - you have a question on this site about how to celebrate you're 12th birthday. No wonder your wrecked the car - you're only 11! But then you have a question about being 16 and not having started your period. Seems like you have a VERY ACTIVE imagination!!

Answer 5

Hopefully you called 911 and got that all taken care of. You need to get some professional help. You've been through a traumatizing experience. Nobody on yahoo answers is going to be able to give you the help, comfort, and support that you are going to need. Take care and I'm sorry to hear about this.

Answer 6

First, you must get (and I hate this word) closure. You have to finish mourning your boyfriend that you lost.

I can't imagine how you must feel. You may want to seek out a grief counselor to heal.

Best wishes to you.

I lost my boyfriend this time of year several years back - he was killed in a shooting.

It takes a long time to work through these feelings and move on sometimes. Other people I know in similar situations dated right away to help get through their feelings. Do what is best for your head and don't worry about what anyone else says.

Answer 7

Woe- slow down. You had an accident, your passenger died- and all you can think about is your next boyfriend? Your passenger/boyfriend died, no longer here. Don't you think you should have any remorse for your boyfriend? You need time to recover from the accident and his passing. That takes time, don't rush it. You will know when you can move on, and that won't be in the next day or two.

Answer 8

I so wish I could send you the material I have on grief and loss. You really need to understand the steps. It is important.
It is totally normal to feel guilty. You need to understand that you are normal. Have you passed the shock part yet. You should first go into shock. You should also feel angry. angry at everyone.
This may sound strange but it is normal and if you don't go threw all the steps you may take a lot longer to become normal again.
It took me 10 years to get over the loss of my son. I wish I could help everyone now. So they could get back to a normal life a lot sooner then I did.
It will take time. But understand it is totally normal. You need to be understanding of yourself.
Let the tears go. Beat up a punching bag. What ever it takes let it go, and know that someday you will be better. It will take a long time but you will get better, don't expect it to happen over night, and don't do anything stupid.

Answer 9

Maybe the best thing to do would be to take some time away from buys and heal; also if you are feeling guilty, talking to a counselor might be a good idea. Good Luck

Answer 10

Oh, I'm sorry! It was not your fault so don't put on yourself. I think the best way to move on to a new boyfriend is focus less on dating for a few weeks until your ready. It's best to date while your ready.
Hope it works out!