Why do you always love the people who are hard to get and not love the people who are easily available?

Question

I have met a whole lot of guys and find something wrong with them and all the guys I like have a girlfriend or wife

Answer 1

If there single and something is wrong with them ,than thats why they are single,and all the good ones usually get snagged up,pretty fast,Here's a hint find one that maybe you can work with,my and my honey have been together since we were 15yrs old and I was more mature and grown -up than he was and he is just now starting to act like a man(and we are 23yrs old)and take responsiblity for things ,point is I hung in there and worked with him and he thanks me for it everyday,sometimes men just need some help and guidance.Good luck in the future.

Answer 2

Maybe cuz you want what you cant have. And when you know you can get im or got im, you lose interest easily. The ones you find somethin wrong wit are probably the ones you have time to really see what they're like. The ones you like are spending time wit they're wives or girlfriends. Im not knocking ya. To each is own. Now, just cuz you cant have a label wit em, doesn't mean you cant have some type of friendship, homie lova friend, or relationship wit em. Im sure even the ones you really like have sumthin wrong wit em, you just aint found out yet.

Answer 3

I don't feel that people are necessarily in love with the people who are hard to get and don't love the people who are more readily available.

It is just that it is human nature to want something that you feel you can't have.

It is an attraction and a challenge, not love. You just cannot love someone if you really don't know them. And if you haven't spent time with that person, you cannot love them.

As far as not loving people who are available, people just much prefer a challenge instead of going for a person who you can immediately have.

Make sense?

Good luck!

Answer 4

There is a very simple explanation. No one wants to share. Your life is your life and you haven' t matured enough to want to let someone else have a piece of it regardless of whether they are willing to reciprocate. If you crush on someone who is unavailable, it gives you the perfect mental excuse not to crush on someone who might actually be available. That would open a whole new can of worms. It's about maturity, nothing else. No thrill of the chase, no grass is greener on the other side, nothing else, just maturity. Once you reach a certain level of mental and physical maturity you will find yourself able to handle someone who is actually available to occupy a place in your life and who might actually demand a certain amount of you be committed to them and vice versa..

Answer 5

because the ones that are hard to get are mostly the sexiest or the ones with the best personalities and the ones that are attracted to you are sometimes weak and deaperate..so they ask evvrone out....most of the good ones are taken,but its not beacause the women made the move..it was probly because the guys found them attractive...

Answer 6

The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence and most people want what they cannot have. Humans in general always want more no matter what it is most will always look for the bigger and better deal.

Answer 7

Because you are not confident enough in your self. You are attracted to a guy because another woman as put value on him so you are following her lead. You must figure out what it is you want and not rely on other women to pre-screen your men.

Answer 8

Because life sucks and thats that!! Its just not your turn for love yet.. Be patient it'll come!! Love comes when your not sitting around waiting for it! Have fun being single while it lasts...

Answer 9

haha maybe it's the thrill of the chase. i'm sort of that way. i'm bi, and i'll want girls that are straight or guys who are taken. i don't even know, but that's what it turns out to be.

Answer 10

it's all about the chase.

it's the challenge, that's why we tend to get bored with video games that are too easy.