well this guy that im goin out wit likes me but im still in love wit my ex
2006-12-07 11:07:28 · 27 answers · asked by nicole o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this happend to but i was the bf and she broke up with me for him...i havnt talked to her sence
2006-12-07 11:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by LazY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, why did you commit to be someone's gf when you still like your ex? You may need to evaluate why you both are no longer together. If you broke up was it for good reason? If he cut it off there is probably nothing you can do but pine away for someone who apparently has gone on with his life. Now, don't you think your current bf deserves the respect of honesty. Keeping secret feelings for someone else is not right. Either tell him about it and give him the option of having patience with you getting over your ex, or let him go on. Maybe you should just date at this point.
2006-12-07 11:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is your ex for a reason. If you are willing to sacrifice the relationship that your are in now, I say dont hide your feelings from the guy you are currently with. Tell him so in the case you actually are able to hook back up with your ex, the new guy would have had plenty of time to move on to someone who wants to be with him and only him.
It is not uncommon to have feelings for your ex, but if you really like the guy you are with now I say leave the other guy alone. let him be altogether.
2006-12-07 11:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there's no hope of getting back with your ex, then try to move on as best you can and give your current bf everything you can. If you have a chance of being happy with your ex you're better of ending it with the crrent guy. It's fair for both of you.
2006-12-07 11:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by Alana B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To literally and directly answer your question: you can either continue to like your ex in secrecy, and remain loyal to your current boyfriend; or take a risk and pursue a relationship with both. With the latter, you won't necessarily hurt your boyfriend, but there is more risk. Assuming your boyfriend would be hurt by pursuing a relationship with your ex, those are the only two correct answers I can conceive of.
2006-12-07 11:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell ya what I would do; I wouldn't see either of them until I have all my ducks in a row; if your seeing one and claim your still in love with the other. then you need to realize that you are confused and you need to work on getting your head on straight first. Then you will be able to make a right decision. Believe me this way you will avoid hurting someone and neither guy deserves to be put through that kind of hurt; you know that. Be wise. You won't regret it. good luck to you.
2006-12-07 11:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by Vicki A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends. to an extent, most of us "secretly like our ex's" but it's because when someone touches your heart, it's hard to just forget it and pretend it didn't happen. Are you going to get back with your ex? if this is the intention then definantly tell your bf now. If not, if it's just your not over him and still love and feel for him then i don't think it is necessary to tell him. Do you like this guy back? Most of my break ups I got over by dating someone else, sometimes it turned out to be another loving relationship and sometimes it didnt' work out. I think if your intent is not to go back to your ex then no need to tell but don't be going behind your bf's back being sneeky just keep your feelings for your ex to yourself
2006-12-07 11:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by curious_and_hopeful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you weigh out the pros and cons...there is a reason why you guys couldnt make it work the first time. If you guys spilt up more than one time..it's probably for the same reason. What do you like about your ex....looks...the sex...what? Does the new one treat you like your supposed to be treated..If it's the sex...you can learn that...if it's the looks tell him how he can improve his looks..if he likes you he'll do what it takes to change for you. Don't feel guilty I was in your same shoes..train your new man..to be the man your into..People say don't change your man, but c'mon if he is good to you..and all he needs a a little tweek than do it! Be open to his suggestions also!
2006-12-07 11:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a possibility you could get back with your ex? If so, I think you owe it to your bf to break things off now... because, although I'm sure you have feelings for your bf, if you are in love with your ex, then that's where your heart is, and ultimately where you belong.
2006-12-07 11:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by Princesa Morenita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to allow sleeping dogs where they are resting. And leave them alone. Your x is an x for a reason. So, if you want more of what you had, then leave the new boyfriend and go back to the x and get more of what you had. Otherwise, keep doing what you are doing. And just keep in mind, good guys don't come along everyday. God Bless****
2006-12-07 11:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop stringing the guy you're going out with along. It's not fair to him if you're dating him but you're in love with another guy. How would you feel if he did the same thing to you? I say you tell your boyfriend the truth and maybe try to get back together with your ex.
2006-12-07 11:09:59 · answer #11 · answered by dancerkatarzyna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋