I have being dating this girl for about a month now. She broke up with her ex whom she dated for a year. She claims that she realized that they weren't meant for each other. I like her immensely. She stated that she cares alot about me and didn't want to hurt me when I confronted her about the possiblilty that I could be the rebound guy. We've had sex at least 6x. My question is what do I need to doi? should I be careful so as not to be rebounf guy. Should I trust her? Does she cares about me or does she want to just have sex with me and dump me? I am having all kinds of thoughts creeping thru my mind. I know I am the one who'll make the ultimately make the decision. But I need input as to what you guys would do if placed in my plight. Thanks for reading and responding..
2006-12-07 11:06:20 · 14 answers · asked by hey101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go slow and don't get too attached .
2006-12-07 11:08:44 · answer #1 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say she could be doing that but if she is saying that she doesn't want to hurt you that can mean a little of good or bad so I would say be very careful and learn to not give as much and have a decent talk with her and read her body and the way she responds. But at least she is being honest which is a good sign to say the least. And listen to her every word then you can truly know. But I wouldn't want to be a rebound guy and I know most guys wouldn't want to be a rebound guy either so be very careful. Good Luck.
2006-12-07 19:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by high_metamorph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly this uestion would be a lil easier to answer if there was a lil more background on the girl. Does she seem genuine? how was she in the other relationship..did she really care about the guy or was it rather just eh hes mine so i can have a boyfriend?
Youre right the choice will be all up to you in the end so be careful. Does she seem to care about you or are there more than a couple signs that might make you think like you are just being used? ask yourself this too...is she the type of girl you would consider marrying when that time came...
2006-12-07 19:12:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, you go to her again and try not to upset her (cuz, some chicks are a little too defensive) and be like "I'm still wondering about that rebound thing, I just want to make sure because I care for you a lot and I don't want to lose you" or something along those lines. (where am I getting all this wisdom? O.o)
2006-12-07 19:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope I don't hurt your feelings by saying this, but she's probably not completely over her ex. You may be a rebound and that's really not fair to you. I'm sorry. I think you should back away and see where her head is. Give her and yourself some time.
2006-12-07 19:09:38 · answer #5 · answered by Princesa Morenita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could say that we start having sex early in our relationship, but I want to slow down and get to know you. Sex is great, but a relationship has to have more than just sex, or else it won't last. Take your time, spend time with her, talk.
2006-12-07 19:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, what i'd do is take it easy don't get attached right yet although she may really love you have as much sex as you guys fell comfortable having and if she truly loves you she won't break-up with you within 2 months but hopefully that doesn't happen buddy but until about 2 months play it safe, thats what i always do
2006-12-07 19:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mike H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex for a week and see if she still wants to go out at night.
2006-12-07 19:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are still fresh in your relationship then go with it. some people don't have rebound problems. what i mean is that when they get out of a relationship they are out and there is no rebound. good luck in your decision.
2006-12-07 19:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by kathy froggylady40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If yew love her, ask her like yew mean it 'do you truly love me or are yew using me for sex, i'm just concerned because we barely even got to know each other and we did it over times n.' But then again, If yew love sex, date her for sex.
2006-12-07 19:11:15 · answer #10 · answered by Dorianna Helena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe shes still hurt because she broke up with her ex just give her some time shell get over it
2006-12-07 19:10:18 · answer #11 · answered by phuongtran12345 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋