Ive been dating a close family friend for the past month. He is eight years older. He is going through some serious issues of a father dying within a couple weeks/months and a mother who has passed within the recent years. I feel so badly for him at times to be going through so much as such a young age. My issue is that I am leaving the area and I have such strong feelings for him. We hang out at least once a week but he lacks calling me during the week. He'll send an email to say hello. He makes me feel so amazing and beautiful in every way possible. he actually listens to everything I have to say and values my opinion! I haven't even slept with him which makes me feel its not a physical attraction, its much more than that. I need some serious advice as to whether I should move back here and rearranage my future plans and come back here to try and make it work. I dont want to tell him he's the reason I would come back. I feel like that would jinx everything.Should i leave it to fate?
2006-12-07 11:04:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-07 11:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, I wouldn't rearrange my whole life for this guy just yet. first you need to know how he really feels about you, and how you really feel about him. do you love him? does he love you? and do the two of you talk about or want to spend the rest of your lives together? I'm very happy that he makes you feel so wonderful, that's great. but it sounds like he see's you like one day, probably on the weekend, and then he doesn't even call you during the week. that's the part that I don't understand. and it's also the part that worries me most. when my husband and I were dating, we were on the phone as much as possible. it seemed like we couldn't talk to each other enough! and when we weren't on the phone together, he was at my house! and we were talking there! just be absolutely sure of what his feelings are for you before you make changes in the plans you already have okay? it's up to you and him to decide how things turn out. but both of you have to want the same thing in order for it to work. and that's the part that I think you're unsure of too. so talk to him, ask him to tell you exactly how, and what he feels for you. and you ask yourself exactly what you feel for him. you've been there for him through some terrible losses in his life, so make sure that you're not basing your relationship mainly on sympathetic feelings for him. I'm not trying to give you a hard time, and I don't want to make you feel bad, I just want the two of you to communicate, and be honest and open about everything before you make any major decisions.
I sincerely wish you the best.
2006-12-07 19:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fate is a mythm.
Risk it and take the chance. Make it happen. the greater the risk the bigger the reward.
If I had a dollar for every time I waited on fate......I'd own Yahoo.
2006-12-07 19:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why leave your life up in the air and wait for fate? Make your own fate. Sit him down and tell him how you feel.
Just one thing, be perpared just in case you do not get the answer you are expecting. he may not feel the same way.
2006-12-07 19:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by sawftandtender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it to fate. if you change your plans for him, you may grow to resent him. if it's meant to be, the communication will probably grow stronger as will the relationship. then you can both make a decision. if it's not meant to be, you'll both move on to find the "right" person.
2006-12-07 19:10:08 · answer #5 · answered by mama dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like there is really any romantic intent on his part so maybe you left something out of your post
2006-12-07 19:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a chance im a risk taker and have never had a problem
2006-12-07 19:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask yourself that question, the answer is always: take the chance :)
2006-12-07 19:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by will l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't leave it to chance. take the risk. use your intuition
2006-12-07 19:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋