I have a friend who is always on her cell phone. We're in college, and it drives her roomie nuts. But we'll be hanging out in a group with other people, or going down for a cigarette, and she'll just start chit-chatting on the phone literally right in front of us. It's not even important stuff, she's just on it talking about whats happening at the present time. I think if she wants to talk on her cell for a long time she needs to remove herself from the group while she's doing it. Is this right?
2006-12-07 10:56:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It's a crap habit and I would not put up with it. I have told people in the past if they want to get on the cell then don't be with me. It works.
2006-12-07 11:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is rude. My friend Lauri (who ended up being the maid of honor in my wedding in September) always used to have the same problem. People would approach her in an aggressive way, and that didn't work.
Finally, one day, her sorority gave out 'paper plate awards,' and her award mentioned something about her cell phone being her best friend...and that made her upset, because I'm her best friend! Although it wasn't the best way for the subject to come up, it opened the lines of communication. She confessed that she really missed her friends from home and that all through college she'd had a really hard time adjusting. If the phone rang, she answered it--she was a slave to that thing!
Anyway, we were able to overcome it in our friendship. A calm heart to heart would work best. Use words like "I feel..." instead of "You annoy the crap out of everyone!"
Good luck!
2006-12-07 19:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely correct...it is the height of rudeness to talk on the phone for extended periods of time while with other friends...maybe the novelty of having a phone is something to consider, maybe she just thinks it's cool to be able to talk on her cell and walk around, maybe she's just not aware of the etiquette regarding cell phone usage...
Be a good friend and help her get in the know so she doesn't make a fool of herself...
2006-12-07 19:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by nackawicbean 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
When you are with company in person, you should really keep conversations on the phone to less than 5 minutes, but as short as possible is considerate. "I'm sorry, could we discuss this later? I'm with company," is very easy to say. If she has to take the call for an extended period, she should excuse herself so her phone call limits the interruption of the others' current conversation or relative peace of the situation. And people with loud walkie-talkie phones should be shot.
2006-12-07 19:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by volleyjacket 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This friend may just have grown up with parents who did not teach proper manners. You may want to say to her that not everyone wishes to hear her conversations and it would be appreciated if she would remove herself from a situation to talk. As for the talking in her room and bothering her roommates, there really isn't anything you can do about that. Technically, she is in her own room and can do as she pleases while there.
2006-12-07 20:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by squeekmnstr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Very rude. I have a friend that will talk for 30 mins on her phone whenever I go to her apartment. She does the same thing when she's at my place. It drives me nuts! She could at least tell the caller she has company or she is visiting.
2006-12-07 19:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jenifer 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋
You said it perfectly!
Why would anyone sit idly on the phone and use up minutes to gab about nonsense, when live friends are right there to talk to right now?
Save you minutes for emergencies or when you are alone and bored. Group time is best shared in person, hang up and join in...your phone isn't going to run away.
2006-12-07 19:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
NO ! that's so rude and I hate when people do that. My friend does it all the time. We'll be watching TV and shes clearly bored or whatever and so she picks up her phone and dials and talks SO loudly. It's the most obnoxious thing in the world.
2006-12-07 19:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by friendsfan2 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
This is incredibly tacky and rude. You would be doing this friend a grave diservice by not advicing her of the proper etiquette. Maybe she was not brought up correctly and does not know any better.
2006-12-07 19:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Yes ,you are right, and like your friend are lots of people out there doing the same thing.
2006-12-08 08:04:57 · answer #10 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋