my mom is unresonable but i dont hate her?

Question

i posted this before but dont think i had enough details
my mom said no!!
i like this guy and ive liked him since september i finaly got the guts to ask him out and he said yes my dad said he didnt care but i would have 2 ask my mom because if my dad said OK with out asking here shed flipout. so i asked and she said no not this guy or any other im 2 young (im 16)2 have a boy freind(she thinks that if you go out with some one once that your boy friend and girlfriend)that there wont be proper shaperoneseven though its mostly adults that are going to be there its a work party i even oferd 2 take my grama or my older brother(18) with us. what do i do to get here to be more resonable?
my parents know him and think hes a good guy. my mom just wont let me go out with anyone.

hes the same age that i am so its not like hes way older or any thing

when i try to discus it with her calmly and like a adult she dos 1 of 3 things
1 ignores me
2 yells at me
3 sends me to my room

Answer 1

my aunt sounds like ur mom and her are made up from the same mold. The biggest thing is to me and i know it's the fact with my aunt. when they were ur age they did stuff that they weren't to do. so there holding u accountable for what they did. 16 is not to young to date. I also think ur mom is having problems with u growing up. If ur father said it was OK for u to date him then that should be fine. He is ur father and he has a say also on what u can and cant do. go with what ur father says since u ask him first and let ur father handle that part. Have u ever gave her a reason not to trust u? I'm glad i never had that problem but i have been there through thick in thin with my cuz when she went through it. shes now 20 yrs old and her mom still treats her like a 12 year old. does ur mom have any sisters that's shes close to? if so or her mom talk to them about it and along with ur father. let him make calls and stick to that. see if any other family member will help also. Ask ur brother to talk to her and this and that. most of the time older brothers will say this and that like yes im going there with them and he goes else where. but in the long run ur brother has ur back. I have 2 older brothers and they did that stuff to me it was great because i had there backs to.

Answer 2

Your mom knows you very well, and it's possible that she senses that you're not ready to start dating. Even if you are ready, she apparently is not. As you know, your parents are COMPLETELY responsible for you, and therefore their opinions really matter.

See if you can use indirect methods to make the idea of dating more comfortable for your mom. It would be nice if you could invite this boy over for dinner, and your mom would have a chance to get to know him. Maybe she would allow you to invite some friends including this boy to watch a movie at your house. I personally would not have felt comfortable having my daughters go out on one on one dates unless they had already had many group experiences with the boy first. So ease into this. There is no reason to rush into dating. You've got LOTS of time for dating, and before you know it you'll be an adult and your mom's opinion won't be governing your behavior so much.

Answer 3

This is tough. Im so sorry your dealing with one of these kind of moms. You are absolutly old enough. But im afraid there is no dealing with her. What you could do is hold a family meeting. Try this. Then let your family hear you out. Dont be mean or anything but i would try writing down all that you have to say. and practice then hold a family meeting.

Answer 4

well youv'e got a problem my friend with your mom. Tell her she is stupid for not letting you go because your a kid and your going to do what you want. Then go do what you want unless it's have sex... nothing sexual. I dont see the problem if the place is going to be crawling w adults

Answer 5

She might be scared of losing you or jealous. Have you had your boyfriend at your house to meet your parents? That might be the way to go. Unfortunately most mums like to protect their daughters.she may not want to see your feelings get hurt either.You are just going to have to be patient and try and talk to her when she is in a good mood.

Answer 6

Moms are like that. Just try to get her when she is like watching tv and is all relaxed and tell her that i need to talk to you pull her in a quiet pplace and tlalk to her

Answer 7

WRITE HER A LETTER. TELL HER JUST LIKE YOU SAID IT TO US ABOUT HOW SHE TREATS YOU WHEN YOU TRY TO TALK TO HER. JUST SAY: MOM I AM NOT TRYING TO BE DISRESPECTFUL I JUST WANT YOU TO CONSIDER HOW I FEEL.
THEN ASK HER IF SHE WON'T ALLOW YOU TO GO OUT ANY WHERE WITH HIM WOULD SHE ATLEAST LET HIM COME TO YOUR HOUSE WITH YOUR PARENTS AT HOME AND MAYBE WATCH A MOVIE........IF SHE ALLOWS YOU TO DO THIS, DON'T EVER MAKE THE MISTAKE AND GO TO YOUR ROOM BECAUSE THEN YOU WILL BE BACK TO SQUARE ONE.
IF THAT DON'T WORK MAYBE YOU CAN ASK YOUR DAD OR YOUR GRAM TO TALK TO HER.
I FEEL FOR YOU BUT I ALSO UNDERSTAND YOUR MOM'S CONCERN. SHE LOVES YOU AND JUST WANT'S TO PROTECT YOU. IF SHE DOES LET YOU GO OUT OR HIM COME OVER, DON'T LET HER DOWN. WITH MOM'S IT'S ONE STRIKE AND YOUR OUT! GOOD LUCK...............HC

Answer 8

I think that is great that you dont hate her, because I think she is looking out for your well being!

Answer 9

My father is the same with my brother at the moment, he's doing his finals yet he has fallen for someone, there's probably the same conflict with your mum, she probably has plans for you and this doesn't quite fit...of course, its up to you honey, what do u want for life?

lol

Answer 10

just ignore her and do whatever you want :)