I have a question/need advice about a guy. So theres this guy and me and him have been talking since the beginning of the year and ive pretty much liked him since then and so about 3 weeksa go i told him i like him and he told me he liked me too and we started getting close and stuff, so I thought things were going pretty well even though he said he didnt know if he wanted to get into a relationship because hes meeting new people..but then he started getting distant this week and now hes going out with another girl. I was --scratch that-- AM soo depressed. I liked him so much and we were perfect for eachother..many people have said that. so i dont know what to do. to make things 20x worse for me, he told me that he liked this girl who said she liked him too and she then went out with someone else and he was pissed. so that means he did the SAME THING TO ME!!! and i dont know if he even notices! i dont even know if were even gonna be close anymore. What should i do, wait or 4get him?
2006-12-07 10:23:31 · 22 answers · asked by metrostation. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One detail- him and i were closer than i have ever been with a guy. we told eachother almost everything ...i thought we were going so good... =[
2006-12-07 10:25:41 · update #1
It sounds like this guy gets around. I would forget about him, if he really liked you, he would've been willing to commit to a relationship and he wouldn't have run off and met other girls. That's men for you. *Sigh* Fortunately, most grow up eventually.
2006-12-07 10:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Desiree 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not wait for him. There is really no need. He seems to be intersted in someone else which he has every right to because he was being totally honest with you. So as far as that you have to give the man credit. He could have lied and just cheated on you but he said he was meeting other people and he wasn't sure if he wanted a relationship. So he did everything right. So thats why you shouldn't wait on him. You have a life to live too.
But now back to you. You actaully may have made the mistake on this one. You know what...mistake is such a harsh word. Lets just say you should have went at it another way.
Have you ever heard the saying "dont put all your eggs in 1 basket"? Well thats exactly what he did. He didn't put all his eggs in 1 basket like you did. He gave his eggs to a few people to see which 1 was the best for him. Thats exactly what you should have and need to do. When just dating or whatever, dont put your eggs in just 1 basket because you have no idea if that person is REALLY the right person for you. IF you spread your eggs out a little you have options and you can then decide who will be the best person for you.
Also if you dont put your eggs in just 1 basket, it doesn't hurt you or hurt you that much if someone you get regected because you have others on your list.
Hope this helps...
2006-12-07 10:32:44 · answer #2 · answered by Latavish G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,
Honestly, as much as it will hurt, I would leave him be. By the sounds of it, he is not sure what he wants. As a matter of fact, I have a friend right now who is in the VERY same boat as you, he is a guy giving the same treatment. I told him that he needs to settle down. He said he didn't want to because he wanted to see all other possible options before making a decision, he is also affraid of commitment. Now he found a nice girl and practically ditched the other girl he had known longer. I have had the same treatment by girls too, its not fun and it hurts a lot. A good way to look at it is, if you keep trying with him, it will hurt for a long time, or call it off and be hurt three times as much for about a week because you would eventually get over it. Hope this helps.
Sincerely,
Wee Man.
2006-12-07 10:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by boychuka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off the Cross, we need the wood. Seriously, the guy said he didn't want a relationship at the time, and like ain't love, and love don't pay the rent. He went on, so should you. Waiting? for what to be a fall back, or a rebounder, not smart. You have more to offer to the right person, and that person is out there, just keep looking. Nothing gained easily is worth keeping and doesn't last.
2006-12-07 10:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by thugtwin1@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like Babedizzle's advise. Men do get over it and grow. He may be a bit immature right now.
Dont be too excited about it and if he comes back just take him.
How do you know that he went with another girl and that she ditched him? Do u know that girl or were u following them?
Anyways even in relationship it is good to give yourself some space and not get too emotional with everything. Life itself is like that. The human mind is like that. At some point in time you may also falter.
So keep options open would be my advise.
Good Luck!
2006-12-07 10:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 00:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by vishvanath 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have two options, and waiting is neither of those options. you can:
1. confront him. tell him [calmly] that you are a little upset becayse he did the same thing to you, and that your hurt by him going out with someone else, and would still like things to work out things between you both.
2. forget him. if hes just being a player, then you deserve beter. go find a guy that respects you and is loyal. there are guys better then him. find one.
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2006-12-07 10:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another guy. He is basically keeping you on the side, I am sure when things don't work out with this girl of his, he will come running back to you. You don't want a guy like that do you? You need to move on and find yourself someone better and that will treat you right.
2006-12-07 10:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by Justlookin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a player, he might be one of those guys that just love the female attention cause it makes him feel good, feel wanted, hes just using girls, forget him, he's bound to be one of those guys that plays with your feelings, and if you did go out thats exactly what he'd do, just mess with you to make him feel better, find someone else, good luck honey!
2006-12-07 10:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by Blurred V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if i was in your situation (i have been), tell him how you really feel again, and if he says the same thing, then leave him alone. stay friends with him, but move on and find somebody else who is really into you. also, if you do end up doing what i said, if the guy that u like comes around and tries to be with you all of a sudden, dont fall for it please!!!!
2006-12-07 10:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by Aniyahsmommy2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋