I feel sad and alone tonight.?

Question

Sometimes I feel really alone in this world. Although I have friends, and a boyfriend, I still feel like nobody really wants to hear how I feel. I feel like my life is fake and that I have to pretend everythings ok even though its not. I'm so used to pretending everything is ok that I cant express how I feel anymore. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend told me to go see a counsellor, because he is tired of listening to me. He is generally positive about life and who he is, so I feel like I weigh him down. If anyone has ever felt simillarily please let me know.

Answer 1

You say your feeling like nobody wants to hear how you feel, that's not true, I'll bet you will be surprised by the amount of people who will reply to this question. sometimes it's hard to be positive especially when you don't know what your feeling from one minute to the next, try this at random times in the day stop and ask yourself "what am I feeling? am I feeling happy, sad angry, why? and try to keep a journal on what your feeling what, and happened to make you feel that way. this will help you start identifying feelings, because we all have them its just that some of us can go through life without having to identify what we are feeling. from the sound of it you are on the journey called self- discovery, this is where you will find out all about yourself and really start to love you. As for a counsellor go and see one if you want, but your best bet is to go to your local bookstore and start buying books on self discovery. enjoy the trip

Answer 2

Hey, you're not the only one. Boyfriend and friends however is a good start. The q I'd like to ask you though is when was the last time you cried? It's not good to keep your emotions bottled up and sometimes an evening in on your own with some sad music, a sad romantic film which has happy bits but preferebly doesn't have a perfect ending (I'd suggest something like Garden State) that happens to push your buttons (but then again, I'm an old romantic) and a box of kleenex will do wonders.

Leaning on him and them incessantly will just cause you to worry a lot about their mental wellbeing, but everybody needs to let go sometimes. Just remember too (although not on the same evening as above) that some people are worse off and look at some of the happy things in the world. If you can make a positive effort to do the above once a month and also try to see something positive whenever you feel down as a quick boost, you'll soon find a sunnier outlook coming naturally. People do care, and having a partner who must care is a sure example. You're not alone.

Answer 3

go and see ur gp,
see if he thinks he should put u on some
anti-depressants. it sounds like u have a problem with it. much better to get it out in the open than bottle it all up inside of u and u carry on just being miserable.
u also sound as if u r suffering from low self esteem.
this could be partly to do with ur b/f. do u feel like he takes u for granted or even wonder whether he actually wants u at all?
u must try to make time for ur self and rediscover who u r as a person. I wonder if he gives u the attention u deserve.

The chap who went on about topping urself is quite wrong. u can always rebuild ur life and change for the better with the right kind of love and assistance. Many people come through periods of quite severe depression and go on to live happy fulfilling lives. once ur gone, ur gone and what could have been simply won't. Try to be as relaxed as possible and keep talking to people. Mix and let ur hair down occasionally if u can.

may u find peace when u need it most and encouragement if u ever feel despair. we are always here for u !!!!

Answer 4

You really need to get to the root of the problem. Have a look at your lifestyle:

maybe you are mixing with too many negative people
you might not be eating healthily
perhaps you are not getting enough exercise

Although I am not a counsellor I do think you are on low self esteem. Going to see a counsellor may or may not be the best solution. Your best bet is to sit down and have a talk with your boyfriend. If he is even half the person you say he is then he will only be to happy to listen and offer advice.

When I was much younger, I too felt low on self esteem and could not see a way out. Sometimes we can't see the wood from the trees and need someone else to point things out to us even if it is so obvious.

Give it a go. Talk to him!

Answer 5

that's an interesting question,
i have felt alone my entire life I'm 45 never have or will think like others every now and then i do run into similar mind sets so I've learned i 'm not alone
spent a lot of time finding exactly what i believe and the hard part wasn't the feeling of alone when you learn to communicate what you think and feel to others you will find you are not alone
it's not that there is no one like you (big world)
but if you cant express your thoughts and views then you will feel as an outsider,.
so keep your head up and let the world know who you are you will be heard at least by those around you
good luck honey

Answer 6

Hi Eimie
It doesn't sound like you are really alone, you have friends and a boyfriend. Do you perhaps feel that your boyfriend doesn't really love you?
You haven't mentioned them, - could this problem be due to your family?
You need to resolve this to enable you to enjoy your life as you should.
Maybe you need a husband and a family of your own?
Don't let this go on for too long. You must sort this out now before it becomes a way of life. Start tomorrow.

Answer 7

YOU'RE NOT ALONE!!!!

You asked - and look how many have answered!!!

And what brilliant answers you got - so many people understand, have been there and want you to get through this.

Ahh pet, dry your eyes and try a small smile....the big black owl of gloom and despair has decided to sit on your shoulder but you can stand tall and shake it off. Decide to be who you really are, no matter what they say. Pretending is such hard work.....if you are unhappy or bored say so and change things...you can if want to. And truly, you are not alone...and you proved it by connecting with me and everyone else who answered. Am sending you all hope and strength and a big well done for being brave enough to admit how you feel!!

Answer 8

first i would like to say your boyfriend may be feeling unable to help if you have been talking to him about this for any length of time and may feel useless
sometimes the simplest answer is what to go with
do you feel you need to talk to an independent person who will be none judgemental and simply listen - then go see a councillor
if however you want someone to tell you how to be happy - this may not be the right thing for you - try doing something that you like as a couple and talk about it when you get home to show him you can talk about other things than your insecurity.
good luck

Answer 9

If your boyfriend is tired of listening, then you need a new boyfriend.

Life is what you make it. If you're always negative, you will have a negative life, and vice versa.

It's normal (I hope) to feel sad and alone, especially if you live in the north (I live in Alaska). Seasonal Affective Disorder is common when the days get short and dark. If you can afford it, take a vacation in the tropics. If you can't, go to a tanning salon. The UV rays will make your system think it's getting more sunlight.

Answer 10

Huh. I suppose depression like that is not uncommon, but I don't feel like that even though I don't feel like I have a lot of friends right now and I'm not dating anyone. I'm more avoidant though. I really could do ok without people more often. I don't mind living by myself. There are times I felt alone, but really you have less to feel lonely and abandoned about than I do. Maybe seeing a counselor would be a good idea.