I used to hang round with the wrong of people and got into so much trouble. I used to treat women mean because they were "2 a penny". Then I grew up a bit and started behaving and being really caring and responsible.Gues what...not a girl in sight!! they always chose my "badboy" friends. Now I'm talking about a whole range of ladies, some really respectable.I really persevered thinking I would attract the right one eventually..never happened...Now I'm back to Mr. mean I cant move for women!! so why do you all make out you want this Mr. nice guy sh1t?
2006-12-07 10:07:38 · 22 answers · asked by returnofkarlos 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Speaking only for myself, I find that anyone who refers to "all women" is not someone I want to spend time around.
People are individuals. Nobody likes to be lumped in with everyone else. I have no doubt that you like for people to see you as an individual, to acknowledge your individuality, and to accept that you don't have to be like everyone else. Why can't you feel the same way about women? Instead of feeling like it's you against the whole feminine world, why not try to see people, including women, as individuals, and not radiate bitterness and anger against all women, including those you've never even met?
Your comment: "...I used to treat women mean because they were "2 a penny". Then I grew up a bit and started behaving and being really caring and responsible. Gues what...not a girl in sight!!..." reminds me of what happened when I took a friend's 6-year-old son fishing. He spent an angry and frustrated hour plunking his lure in and out of the lake, changing places on the shore, running to where he saw someone landing a fish and trying that spot, and so on. He was in tears, he was so angry and frustrated.
I explained to him that fishing took time and patience, and he had to be patient. He listened, heard me out, found a spot and settled down to patiently watch his lure.
This lasted for twenty minutes. Then he just sort of disintegrated. "I've been patient!" he howled. "So where is my fish?!?"
And there you are...howling "I've been good! Where's my girl?"
I think that like my friend's son, you may still have some growing up to do...
2006-12-07 10:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by Karin C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of girls are you talking to? Girls at parties and clubs? And how old are you? Age does make a difference. I'm 19, and a lot of girls my age aren't looking for serious relationships. They're looking to have a little fun, just like most of the guys are. Let's face it - bad boys are better if fun's all you're looking for. Girls looking for a real relationship aren't going to go for the bad boys. They're going to want someone who's real and genuine. It's going to take some time to find someone you click with on a deeper level. You can't expect it to happen right away.
I should also point out that girls don't like guys who are too nice. I hate it when guys agree with every single thing I say and don't seem to have any opinions of their own. Girls are looking for a guys who are kind, loyal and supportive, but they're also looking for someone who can hold their own. If you're being so polite that you won't even lean in for a kiss after the first couple of dates, or if you're so nice that you say "yes, dear" to everything that she says, you're not going to have much luck.
2006-12-07 10:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by Ella Minnow Pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What every person wants is a person that excites them enough to captivate them, doesn't give them too much so it becomes laid on a plate, a little bit of mystery, a bit of fiery passion, some sensual loving, cuddles, honesty, laughs, being a gentleman, a shoulder for support, a guy that listens and doesn't try to fix things when we just want a rant and good old communication, because when we get old and grey what else is left but talk!!
I think if you can master being a little bit of everything, then you my friend would become a winner! And I would marry you!
2006-12-07 10:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by Girl of Spirit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you ever considered the fact that maybe the females attracted to your bad boy friends and your asshole image were immature and don't really know what they want or need. it may seem like flocks of ladies run to the tough guy but think about the reasons why. maybe those chicks are dealing with emotional issues and fail to realize that they deserve to be with someone that will treat them like a lady not a whore. who knows. my advice is if you want someone that has things going for her, someone who is independent, and worth your time then keep being a good man and you'll end up with the right woman not a flaky girl.
2006-12-07 10:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that you are jaded at all :o)
I think it depends on age, like you grew up women do the same. I always used to go for bad uns when I was younger, and the last guy before my husband really let me down badlly and hurt me and that was it for me, no more bad uns even if I really liked them, I just wanted a nice ordinary guy that would care for me.
If you want a meaningful relationship you'll have to work at it, in a phrase bad guys are fun but they never last!!!
2006-12-07 10:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol you must have just met some of the odd women, because I know I stay away from "bad" boys. Sure, they may seem a little more exciting at first, but they're more likely to leave you, especially if you're not putting out the way they want. I know I'd choose a sweet, respectable guy over a bad boy any day.
2006-12-07 10:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should find a new crowd to hang out with... I used to be attracted to as you say "Mr. Mean"... my ex mr. mean is currently serving 9 years in arizona prison... now I prefer somebody who is respectful and treats me good, how I like to be treated, I found him and have been with him for a few years now. Give it some time and you'll find somebody who is perfect for you. You'll never find her as mr. mean though. In the mean time feel free to continue with the 2 a penny hoes... no shame in getting some while they're handing it out:)
2006-12-07 10:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight...You will be a good boy if you can get a good woman, or you will revert to being a bad boy if you can't?
Hmmmm....I suspect that you are profoundly shallow with an agenda for probably everything in your life.
More importantly...You kept the same company when you became good....so your bad boy friends were hanging with bad girls and you were hanging with all of them. So I suspect any good girl was miles away from your good self trapped among the bad boys and girls.
2006-12-07 12:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by JadeNicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure maybe the mean bloke act is attracting the wrong type of girl for you. When you were Mr nice you were waiting for that special kind of girl, one meant for you. They say if anything is worth it, it's worth waiting for.
2006-12-07 10:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by itgirl23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women want bad boys for short term flings. My boyfriend is stupidly 'hard' but never puts that on with me (unless it's defending my honour). He's so nice to me. That's why I love him.
Bad = short term and sex
nice = potential marriage material
2006-12-07 10:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by Natalie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋