I specifically instructed the school that only myself and the kids grandparents are permitted to do so - the man is not known to the school. I am fuming!
2006-12-07 09:57:45 · 47 answers · asked by Kris B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am in the UK. The school is Robin Hood School, Leeds, and only known people are supposed to collect infant children. The kid hardly recognised the bloke (I was in my car - the school does not have access for my wheelchair, but can see the kid coming out of his classroom). This is not the first time this has happened!
2006-12-07 10:07:32 · update #1
He does not have joint custody - just access (when he can be bothered)
2006-12-07 10:09:11 · update #2
No thats not okay. The school is in violation of law.
You need to report it to the police and the state department of education.
2006-12-07 10:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yes you are right to be mad and especially as the school has specific instructions on who is to collect your children. See the Head first thing in the morning and if you get no joy, do as someone else suggested go to the LEA they govern the schools in your area and will and can take the school to task over this. The very fact that he is not even known to the school and they let your child go with him sends out alarm bells about the security in that school. He could have been anyone!
2006-12-07 11:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be pissed off too. That could have been any old freak from the streets....why would they do that... I would defiantly try doing the following steps
first write a letter to the school...tell them that you are not please with what they have done,and if it happens again further actions will take place. Put in there once again that the only ppl to pick of your children are yourself and the grandparents, there father is not permitted any contact with them with out your written consent first.
Secondly I would send someone in that the school doesn't know but your kids do and see if they send your k8ds with them, if they do go to the school board about it, that's ridiculous they just put your kids in danger!!!! I would definatly;y be doing something(but I'm not the most calm person so ya)... anyways best of luck to you, and hope my advice helps...by the way if you do write a letter to the school make sure of make a number of copies and keep at least one for yourself. Tell them also that only people with a written note are to pick up your children and it must be signed by you.
2006-12-07 10:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be mad, very mad! Speak to school tomorrow before leaving the children, to ask why and to ensure they understand the rules clearly and have a promise it will never be broken again.
If you are not happy with the answers you receive, then take it further. I would suggest the LEA.
You cannot turn back the clocks and not have the dad pick them up today and on previous occasions, so look forward, so you can keep your kids safe and within the boundaries you have set.
Remember above all , these are your children and school HAVE to respect your wishes.
2006-12-07 10:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by twinkletoes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be as mad as you want. I find it unacceptable for the school to allow anyone else collecting your kid regardless your instruction. I would definitely report it and also book an appointment with whoever is responsible from the school and make it very clear to them one more time that only you and the kids grands can collect him.
Moreover I advice you to instruct your boy to not follow anyone else out of school (if that is possible, since I don't know his age).
Good luck with your troubles
2006-12-11 06:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by al 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you listed him as his father and he showed proper ID then the school has to BY LAW release the child to him unless they have a court order that says the father can not do this. If he is not listed as the father than you need to talk to the principal and or see a lawyer which ever way you choose to go about it. I know this because I tried to have the school not let my daughters father pick her up but since I had listed him as her father they couldn't legally deny him access to her without a court order.
All these people saying he shouldn't have been allowed are wrong (providing he was listed as his father)!!! Talk to the Principal and figure this out she can tell you the laws they have to follow.
I'm sorry honey, I assumed you were in the US - how arrogant of me. I would talk to the head of the school and if they really shouldn't be allowing his father to pick him up, I would get this resolved immediately!
2006-12-07 10:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be angrey as only specified people are allowed to collect very young children. I thought there was a password system in place? or is that only at nurserys.
Approach the head and inform them that if it happens again you will inform the authorities.
Also they should have access for your wheelchair that is very bad as well
2006-12-07 22:34:14 · answer #7 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong they are. My ex has visitation to our kids and they are set at certain times and at no time are they during school hours as he picks them up at 5pm, however he walked into the school one day and signed all three of them out and no one even bothered to notify me, I showed up at 3:15 to pick them up and my heart sank when they never showed up and the school informed me that they left early with their father. It wasn't time for visitation he was mad over something and got revenge, we had to call the law in and report it as a parental kidnapping. The school was humilated on TV when it came out that he wasn't allowed to pick them up in the first place and terrified when my attorney called and threatened with a lawsuit. thankfully my kids were home safe and sound within 48 hours but that is one mistake their school will never make again now even I have to show ID before I can pick them up. I would go to the school board and tell them flat out that if it ever happens again they will hear from my attorney.
2006-12-07 10:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biological father obviously wishes contact with the children he helped to create. If your differences with him are too big to reconcile with then come to some arrangement with him, yourself, the school and the children. I do agree the school was way off line letting the child leave with, what to them was a complkete stranger. SPEAK TO THE MAN and also ask the child if they want to see their father. You never know you might just find that babysitter you were looking for. Good luck
2006-12-07 10:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mad Eng 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the school should be reported,if i send someone else to pick up my children i have to phone the school beforehand and explain who is picking them up and describe them,otherwise my child will not be allowed out of school unless i collect them myself.i can understand how you are feeling.your child more or less went off with a stranger,father or not,he hasnt been there for your kid,so i'd definately demand answers from the school.
2006-12-07 11:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by stokies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be furious!
I am assuming that you have custody? If so...
Contact the principle and the school board and make the situation plain. If they do not make sure it cannot happen again contact a lawyer. You also should contact the police and file a complaint.
2006-12-07 10:07:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋