2006-12-07 09:55:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends how they cheated if you ask me. If it was a drunken one night thing that they were so far out of it they didn't know what they were doing and they just totally regretted it ever since then a second chance maybe worth it.
But if it was an ongoing thing that they did consciously knowing full well it would hurt you and didn't care then no I wouldn't forgive.
It also depends if you ever can forgive them, I mean really forgive, not just say you do, because without trust a relationship is nothing.
2006-12-07 10:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself why he was cheating? If you have been together a long time is it because something is missing? If you have not been together a long time then what the hell is wrong with the guy because he ain't into you. Guys and Gals cheat mainly because something is lacking, because they are seeking something, half the time when they think the grass is greener actually what they are looking for is what they find elsewhere but they want that in you.... If you have hard evidence, for whatever reason for your own dignity and I know it is hard when you love someone, but can you really honestly say to me that the next time you have an intimate moment you won't be thinking about who he was with? was it better? does she look better than me? feel better than me? Is it worth all the pain? Honestly I would take every bit of anger you feel and hold onto that every time you feel weak.....
2006-12-07 10:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by Girl of Spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most cheaters are men and most men are cheaters.
Most times it is just sex. It is not important, go to the pub have a beer ... feel better. Get your leg over ... feel better. Go to a sporting event ... have fun. get your leg over have fun. It's just sex, and not worth making a fuss about.
Of course you should forgive cheaters, if your relationship is so weak that you fall apart because your partner sleeps with someone else, lookat your relationship.
Cheater do it for two main reasons.
1 Stuck in a relationship that they haven'y got the courage to get out of.
2 Love the relationship but don't get enough sex.
I have a good marriage and a good sex life but only because my partner doesn't get stroppy when go for a leg over with my girlfriend. Its only sex, just a bit of fun and pleasure. Like a pint and a game of pool down the pub. It ain't worth breaking up a good relationship.
2006-12-07 11:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This guilt it extremely is eating you alive, is it from some thing you probably did on your previous? And do you proceed doing an identical action/s that has brought about you to sense this kind interior the first position? If no longer, then you opt to get over it (sorry for sounding cliche). if you're waiting to forgive your self, then the following is what I advise: get a chunk of paper and write down the wrongdoing(s) that are causing you this guilt. study it. . . some cases, once you may want to. Now that's on your EYES in common words!! NOONE needs to work out what you've written! Now, take your paper outdoors, AND BURN IT! Watch it burn. Watch how the hearth makes your little piece of 'evidence' slowly turn to ash and blow away. lengthy previous. And the in common words way it may come decrease back to you is in case you do it back. this can all sound so corny, yet imagine about it. once you want someone's' forgiveness, you bypass to that individual so that you need to do/say even with is on your coronary heart. yet once you want your own forgiveness, there is no longer a actual action for us to do, so we do no longer some thing. by doing this - for me - it turned right into a thanks to ask MYSELF for forgiveness. i wish that's smart to you, and that i wish it facilitates. only attempt it.
2016-11-24 21:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave my ex so many chances and every time she always cheated on me. This went on for about a year before I finally got so sick of her lying to me and cheating on me I severed all contact from her. Honestly if someone cheats on you then they WILL do it again.
2006-12-07 10:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by Steveo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually i did. it was dumb. and no it didnt because a month later i found out that before we broke up, he cheating on me before that. i gave up on him. i was like "ya kno what, hes not worth it" and he wasnt
2006-12-07 09:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by DanceForJoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋