2006-12-07 09:49:12 · 13 answers · asked by snowboy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
this is what happened to my older brother dylan:
one day he came home from school on the bus. this is when he was 10. he got off and walked halfway toward our house. then he stopped because he saw a 15 year old boy named derek and one of his gang friends beating up my best friend. he wanted to help my friend, jake, but derek is known to beat up people who get in his way. so dylan tried to walk home without thinking about it. when he got home, he went upstairs to his computer and searched for what can happen to someone who's been beat up and how bad the injury has to be in order to sue/ press charges. he found injuries like broken noses to broken hips. that night he had nightmares about himself being beaten up by derek. one was that he actually was killed from being beaten up. a week later, dylan found a 'solution' to being beaten up. he would have to prove himself as someone who you wouldnt want to mess with, AKA a bully. next month, he was wearing really baggy jeans and inappropriate shirts to school. he had messy, long hair for a long time until my mom had him cut it. he had become a bully. he had beaten up more than ten kids in the last two months, and his best friend became derek. derek's parents eventually sent him to a military camp after he almost broke a guy's neck. dylan hid his bully-thing from our parents, but they found out just months ago.
IN SHORT: they become mean when they see other people being mean. they feel they have to bully or be bullied, and they like the 1st one more. they think they cant tell anyone except themselves that they're being bullied.
2006-12-07 11:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all pre-teens are like that and it is not just "these days". There were the same kind of kids in the 70's and 80's. Pre-teens are also not in HS or college. Middle school or Junior High school is tough but I found it got better in High School.
2016-05-23 04:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because parents make a huge mistake in treating them like TEENs, which they aren't. They want to be teens but they are still children. Parents give them to much freedom, and let them do things only teenagers would be aloud to do. Parents also think their children are now to old for such productive consequences as spankings. We have a 10 year old daughter who is the first to try to convince us she is to old for spankings, but we know better. Our favorite saying is "show us in your behavior".
So to answer the question, bad parenting is the reason for pre-teens being so mean.
2006-12-07 19:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids,pre-teens have been mean for many generations it's just that now a days it is more intensifying and scary what another child will do to the other all in the name of respect.Hopefully when they grow to be older they'll realize the error of their ways.And that no one do to their children what they are doing to someone now.
2006-12-07 09:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They always have been, I think. They were very cruel when I was that age. I also always think of those girls who accused other people of being witches in Salem, Mass. They got 19 people hanged and they were in their early teens, so probably the equivalent of today's pre-teens.
2006-12-07 09:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by braennvin2 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think pre-teens are pre exsposed to the actions of how they treat others threw media, shows, music and how they see there parents treat other adults. It goes on and on all around us and so they pick it up and think its alright.
2006-12-07 10:01:33 · answer #6 · answered by jessicaandrachealsmommy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's "these days". I'm 27 and it was pretty awful when I was in late elementary school and middle school. The thing that's weird to me is that by the time I was in high school that was pretty much done, and now it seems like highschoolers are doing it, too.
2006-12-07 13:15:15 · answer #7 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a preeteen and I think we are so mean now because
adults dont give us the respect we deserve. They think we are kids when we are not we are young adults we dont.We like to be giving respect and space we love our privacy.Hoped I helped.
2006-12-07 10:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by chica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Becasue parents are too busy with their own life to spend much time teaching and disciplining their kids and if somebody else (teachers, neighbors, etc.) tries to step in and do it for them the parents might sue them.
2006-12-07 10:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by plebes02 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are being pressured with school,dating, and etc.Especially with kids you parents who just got divorced.Divorced kids are sad or going through a rough time.
2006-12-07 11:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mixed-Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋