this couple has been taking my daughter on the weekends since she was born. Now that she is two they are having a problem with my husband and I on our parenting ability. Should we let this continue or should we cut the relationship now.
2006-12-07 09:46:08 · 11 answers · asked by shawna 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well if this couple has been taking your daughter on the weekends since birth you may want to take into consideration there opinion. they know your daughter just as well as you do. if you don't want them to judge you then stop letting them take your daughter but also think about how that will affect your daughter. she has been with them on the weekends it will make her very confused not being with them anymore. you really need to way your options right now, have a talk with your husband and talk about your concerns and then talk to the other couple about their limitation on the actually raising of this little girl
2006-12-07 09:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by maggie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with these people and have a talk. If you take these people out of your child's life, it will hurt her tremendously. I have a similar situation. A couple that my husband and I named God-parents, just as a way to bring someone into our family, were caught last week coaching our daughter to call his wife 'mama Joyce.' I can't even begin to tell you how ticked I am. You don't want a similar situation. Resolve this issue now. If you end up having to end the relationship than that's what you have to do. Stand up for yourself and your family. As long as you are not doing anything wrong nobody should be in your business. I am a little worried that you've let these people take her on the weekends for the last 2 years. That's not really good.
2006-12-07 12:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from a spiritual standpoint it's NOT okay for anyone to judge the actions of another. Something about seeing a mote in another's eye while missing the beam in yours...yeah.
You don't give many details as to WHY these people have been taking your daughter on the weekend, so no one can really say if there's any credence to their claims or not.
Sit down w/ this couple and talk about what's going on in their minds, then try to come up w/ some sort of compromise or resolution. Perhaps this couple is tired of covering for you and thinks you need to be 24/7 parents like most of us?
Frankly, I think you're leaving out these important details b/c you're afraid they won't make you look very good, hence people will sympathize w/ this couple.
2006-12-07 09:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by luvablelds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you allow your newborn daughter to out of your care?
Beside that point - you are the parent of this child. You should not have to ask the people here on Yahoo Answers how you should raise your child.
However, it sounds like your daughter is better off with the other couple.
2006-12-07 09:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by commonsince76 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's important is how your daughter is doing. If she enjoys the weekends with this couple then don't take that away from her. Instead tell this couple that they're hurting your feelings and that you'd like them to stop. And you might consider thoughtfully thinking about why they say these things... is there a problem?
2006-12-07 09:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 04:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they feel that since they have been helping raise her they should have a say. If you don't want other people parenting your daughter then you and your husband shouldn't send her to someone else's house every weekend. Good luck.
2006-12-07 09:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know....is their concerns valid?...Obviously they are someone who you thought would be a benefit of being in her life or you wouldn't have let them have her on the week-ends in the first place (this all sounds weird....don't understand why someone else would be having your child on the week-ends in the first place)...but that is not the question...you must have thought they were a positive thing in her life....so....having said that....maybe there is something you need to be looking at...maybe there is something about you that you need to change...Maybe this is the very reason they have been placed in her life....I guess I wouldn't just get my pride tied in a knot...and take on that selfish attitude "NO ONES GOING TO TELL ME WHAT TO DO WITH MY CHILD"...but really evaluate...is it a positive thing they are in our childs life...or is it a negative thing....Can you be all your child needs?...or are they people that adds to her life....I think it would be sad to rip two people, that you have allowed your daughter to develop a relationship with, that I am sure she must have feelings for, out of her life...Please consider what is best for your child...not what is best for you.
2006-12-07 09:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been dumping your child on another couple who are not related for 2 years ?
I think they are right, you are not good parents. Why don't you look after your own daughter ?
2006-12-07 09:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by Philip W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say, 'I appreciate your concern for *name*, but she is my daughter and I must do what I think is best for her'.
Ask yourself if their is any validity to their complaints (I know it's tough) And remedy if appropriate.
Since I don't know the whole story, I can't judge....But I must say it sounds odd to leave your baby with others every weekend.
2006-12-07 10:02:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋