my ex ended our relationship a couple of weeks ago due to "his doubts". i however did not believe him because to me that was a ridculous reason. i believed that it was because he wanted to explore his other options in college. while my mind is telling me he is wrong for me, my heart still longs for him, more than he will ever know. i confronted him with this theory and he denied it to a t. i also told him i thought he ended it because he wanted to control me and to have control in our relationship. he was less than enthused. i also told him that if he really loved me, he would tell me everything. he responded but not in the way i wanted him to. i want him to tell me the truth but i feel that he's convinced himself that doubt is what really ended it. it's funny. he wasn't the guy i thought he was. he's controling and manipulative and he just can't see it. advice?
2006-12-07 09:45:39 · 4 answers · asked by thebodyelectric! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to add to his controlling nature, one of the last things he said to me before he ended it was if i get with any guy anytime soon, he'll know that my feelings weren't true. huh?
2006-12-07 09:46:39 · update #1
but it's hard to let go when you don't know why he really did it.
2006-12-07 09:55:41 · update #2
i'm starting to realize that i'm in love with guy i thought he was. and all his friends think he's this amazing guy but really, it's all a facade because he knows that's what girls want.
2006-12-07 09:57:04 · update #3
Two words:
Let go.
He's ended it, you've had your say about that, if you pursue him any further you risk looking pathetic or crossing the line and becoming a stalker.
Turn the page, mourn the relationship (preferably privately), and move on. Be strong and see yourself as a whole person, not as half of a relationship. Do things that you enjoy for their own sake, give yourself time to feel good, enjoy what life has to offer.
Good luck.
2006-12-07 09:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is stop caring about what he thinks. However, that is easier said than done. You have to understand that if the relationship is over the feelings have to end for you to move on and ultimately be happy. So, what does he care if you meet someone else right away? Don't let him affect your future actions. He broke up with you and you now you're left to deal with that. He is not your man so he should have no say And why do you care if he cares
you know your feelings and that they are genuine right? despite the fact he's not the one for you.
Furthermore, listen to your instincts if you know in you're heart he's not right , then trust yourself. I know break ups are so painful, but little by little you'll get over him and will meet someone who will make you smile again.
Forget him and don't worry about the real reason, but be happy that a guy you know isn't right for you just let you off the hook. Start looking for the right guy. This one was just practice.
2006-12-07 09:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by jay-z8900 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an immature loser. Don't dwell on it. It's probable he will never tell you the truth. And, perhaps, even if he does, it's not the truth that you have convinced yourself of, so you won't believe him. It's an endless cycle at that point.
Hard as it may be, move on. Don't look back. Chalk it up to experience, learn the lesson you need to learn, hold your head up and go forward.
2006-12-07 09:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by kwill1229 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy sounds like a pcs of trash.
tell us again why you love him??
2006-12-07 09:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋