the Father of the children lives 2000 miles away and has only seen the children twice in the last 4 years??? He doesnt give birthday presents but calls... He sometimes gives Christmas presents and calls. For the most part he only calls once every month or two. He hasnt called them since Thanksgiving and even then we werent here and he left a message stating he would call later.... He never called back. This occurs when he has a girlfriend. He spent 300.00 on her for christmas but only got my kids a toy gun and a book. I am not materialistic but he doesnt see them and u would think he would put a lil thought and effort into a gift. I didnt make a big deal out of it. Just an example. My husband wants to adopt them because he thinks their father isnt active in his life which he isnt. He says he can keep the child support he pays. Alot of men think that because they pay child support they can come and go as they please in their childrens life.... not all men but some including my ex.
2006-12-07 09:42:17 · 8 answers · asked by texaslady78 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Should I not go any further with court proceedings to terminate his rights to my children???? Or just leave it alone and hope and pray he gets his act together???
2006-12-07 09:44:06 · update #1
I forgot this big problem I have been having with the biological father for 10 years....... I donot trust him alone with my kids unless I am around or his own mother is around. I left my ex husband because he chose his drugs over paying for diapers and food for his children numerous of times. I got tired of our safe haven being a drug drive in. I think I have a shot..... I have to protect my children at all costs.
2006-12-07 09:58:56 · update #2
I wish you the best of luck. In my experience unless dad is a active bad influence or a danger to the children the Courts won't pull his rights for just being a idiot.
I think your new husbands love and want to adopt the children is great. Just let that be enough that the kids have the blessing of a good father figure in thier lives at home with you. One day they will grow to hold the biological father accountable for his lack of attention .... let him pay that bill when the time comes.
I wish you all the best.
2006-12-07 09:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Termination of parental rights is a judicial matter of exceptional gravity and sensitivity. Anonymous v. Norton, 168 Conn. 421, 430 362 A.2d 532 (1975). Termination of parental rights is the ultimate interference by the state in the parent-child relationship and, although such judicial action may be required under certain circumstances, the natural rights of the parents in their children ‘undeniably warrants deference and, absent a powerful countervailing interest, protection. I do not think you have any chance to terminate his rights. You may ask him to relinquish them voluntarily though and based on this agreement court will terminate it. Of course the child support will be moot in such case.
2006-12-07 17:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband wants to adopt the children, then simply run it by their father and ask him if he'd be willing to sign his rights away. If he refuses, I doubt that you have much of a case. He sounds like a loser, but he does pay child support, and he is in their lives, however minimal it may be.
2006-12-07 17:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by Taffi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him if he would sign the adoption papers or would you have to go around him?
I think if he is paying you child support then he has not abanded them per the courts description so I don't think you can go over his head (so to speak).
Good luck
2006-12-07 17:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by Just curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is paying child support and ocassionally calls the kids, that is no reason to have him terminate his parental rights. Besides he has to agree in writing to this.
2006-12-07 17:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lets put the child support aside. from what your telling us he really does not even know his kids and they don't know him.i have no idea how old your kids are. but i think if i were you i would ask their dad if he would be willing to do this, and if he agrees tell him that you will be asking the kids what they want.and you will need to ask the kids how they feel about all of this.but don't ask them until you have spoken to their dad about it. but it sounds like the right thing for this family to do.i hope the so called dad goes for it.
2006-12-07 17:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on if you want him around, if not, get a lawyer and file papers, see if he is paying enough child support, it he terminates his rights you wont get any $$$ help at all, is that what you want?? do you never want your kids to see thier father???
2006-12-07 17:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A CHILD NEEDS STABILITY THAT IS ALL I CAN SAY!
2006-12-07 17:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋