4. She said, "It'll look better with 5 bridesmaids." Should I spike her coffee with rat poison?
2006-12-07 09:41:58 · 39 answers · asked by stormy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
well she is puting in a significant amount of money in this wedding.
2006-12-07 09:50:48 · update #1
Is she paying for your wedding?
That should be the test...say, "Adding one bridesmaid will cost you...ummm...$5000." See what she says. If she is paying for it, fine...if not. Kick her in then shins and run away calling her a "dirty, dirty, troll."
Just my take...
Yeah, YEAH!!! listen to Her Temptress...get your fiance to back you up...if he doesn't, you will be able to tell he is spineless and should be beaten with a stick and left on the altar. Don't get into a relationship with a guy that follows what is mother says. He should listen to her, but should still be able to make his own decisions. This is a test to see how much he will honor you...
You should still kick your soon-to-be mother-in-law in the shins...
2006-12-07 09:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by xxx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There were a lot of things my mother in law wanted at my wedding. A different bride for starters. That doesn't mean she got them. If she's putting money into it, though, that may be a slightly different story. It was pulling teeth with my mother in law to get my father in law in a tux! (he's very easy-going, but she was hard to convince) She got the grooms dinner where she wanted it, but she paid for that (the food made me physically ill, as did the food at my sister in law's wedding a year later)
Does she have someone in mind for the 5th bridesmaid? Do you? Can you come up with a fifth guy? I don't know your family and friend situation, but we had a hec of a time coming up with enough guys to both stand up and usher, and we still had one more girl!
2006-12-07 15:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if she is paying for the wedding. She should respect your decision to have 4 bridesmaids who cares if it will look better with five. Sorry im so hostile. My mother in law was the same way she has become an even bigger pain in the *** ever since we got married. Good luck! Remember stick up for yourself don't let her take control
2006-12-07 09:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it.. you don't need any more bridesmaids than you want.
Remember its YOUR wedding.. not your soon to be mother-in-law's. If she is worried about 4 on one side and 5 on the other - this is rubbish.. My buddy got married last year and he had 6 Groomsmen and there were only 3 Bridesmaids.
Don't do it!
2006-12-07 09:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding find a way to tell her that you have made up your mind.
Try saying "I appreciate your opinion but I am going to stick with four." Or however many you have.
Remember to be as civil as possible because she is going to be a part of your life now. She may actually have good advice for you in the future and you may not get it because of something bitterly said.
Oh and I'd avoid the rat poison it's too suspicious.
2006-12-07 09:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by anjelfun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha you should, it'll make you happier in the long run. KIDDING!!
You should do what you want with YOUR wedding. Remember that, it's your wedding, not hers. She had her time, now it's your turn.
When I got married, my mother-in-law paid for it, so she just assumed that since she was paying, then she should have everything the way she wanted. Oh no! I didn't let her! I made it known, that it was my wedding, and I was gonna have it MY way! Just like you should have YOUR wedding YOUR way!
Good luck, because believe me, mother in laws are good for a whole lot of BEING NOSEY!!!
2006-12-07 09:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by Yeah. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat the small stuff my dear...you will not lose anything but instead will gain more if you accede to her request. I don't think she is asking too much. Remember, she will be your mother-in-law as long as u remain married with your soon to be husband and if you expect that to be forever, then she will be your mother-in-law forever so it would be best for you and your married life to have a good relationship with her. Believe me, one day you will need her help. Besides, it doesn't hurt to add just one more bridesmaid.
2006-12-07 13:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by mae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, no you should not spike her coffee, she must really be over bearing and getting on your nerves. Just politely and sternly tell her this is your final, and you are not going to change. Sorry if she is displeased. And leave it at that, after all it is your wedding. Geez, I hope this is not the beginning of a happy mother-in-law, daughter-in-law relationship. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-07 09:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm on your nook - i'm 'ew' about plastic table cloths on the tables. fabric, or no longer some thing can be a lot nicer. Do you've an decision to the plastic ones? if so, tell her (in a polite way) that you want to apply another table coverings that you're procuring your self. i don't believe of you may tell her no and then anticipate her to pay for what you want. yet, really you may paintings some thing out. better of luck and many needs on your destiny happiness
2016-11-24 21:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you and your fiance have decided to have only four bridesmaids. If she persist with having another person in the wedding then politely tell her that it is your wedding and you are satisfied with four. Congratulations and Good Luck!
2006-12-07 09:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋