I have liked this guy since september and now my best friend likes him, she is soo much prettier then me and soo much nicer, so i told her she could have him and that i did not like him anymore. I still do and when she asked me to tell him that she did,..I couldn't...Was this selfish of me? I should of been able to tell him right? i mean she is my friend i should care more about her happiest and his happines right? Both of them are my best friends and i have no idea what to do about this? Should i just step out completely, will i ever get over him?
2006-12-07 09:40:33 · 11 answers · asked by mcrmy~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no this is not selfish, u still care about him, even though u want to be over him there is no magic switch u can flip and stop liking someone ( i wish there was sometimes) and telling him for her doesn't really help her any, getting in the middle of other's relationships is not good for anyone involved, and telling him for her would be getting in the middle of it, if she really likes him she will tell him when she feels it is right
and with the whole should u step back thing, so what u both like the same guy, there is nothing wrong with a little competition so long as u put ur friendship first
2006-12-08 14:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by coolpotatoeslive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You maybe should have been a bit more honest about your feelings with your best friend.
Anyway, regardless..(as things are all said and done), I don't think you should be hard on yourself because you couldn't tell him. Tell her it'll be too awkard as you used to like him and you are trying to forget/get over it or keep it that way. She should understand. You should care about their happiness but don't put yourself in the line of fire like that where your poor big heart will break.
You will get over him. If you want to.
You must listen to this: doesn't matter if she's prettier or nicer than you. You are you! I have a friend that is a model and pretty damn nice as well... but I know I am a different woman. We can't be compared! Jackasses can compare us all they want, but we all can't be compared, alright?
You may want to bow out for a bit if possible. Try to convince your friend that her letting him know she likes him herself (by doing kind things for him or telling him straight out) would actually merit a better reaction from him than by word of mouth from a friend.
Take care and God bless you-----
2006-12-07 09:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should know how you really feel. At some point it's going to come up that you didn't tell him, and she needs to know the truth. You liking this guy shouldn't be something to hide, and don't think for a second that you don't have a chance. As important as it is to think about the feelings of your friends, you can't always put your heart on hold. Go with your first impulse. If the thing you want more than ever is to let this guy know how you feel, then do it!
2006-12-07 09:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by Brit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is more important than any of this and should always be the first priority for the BOTH of you. If either of you make this guy more important that each other, than you are not respecting yourself or each other, which is so very sad. You should both blow him off, go get some coffee, and rent a great chickflick this weekend. They'll be more men along the way, but good friends are hard to find.
2006-12-07 09:43:10 · answer #4 · answered by fedupwithu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to your friends honestly. It does not matter if they are prettier than you. You may have a better personalilty than they do. Honestly, I dont think is good for you to keep your feelings inside. You should just let them out. Tell them how you really feel, an if they are really your close friends they will understand. I think that neither of you should be with him just because all of you have feelings for that guy.
I hope this works
Good luck
2006-12-07 09:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by marcela r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to do whats best for your, and no its not being selfish. you really need to tell both friends how you feel because youll feel so much better. and if the guy you like likes your friend, just stay out of it and let them do their thing. and it is a good idea to care about how your friend feels, but if its hurting you or bothering you really need to do whats best for you. just tell both friends how you feel and just go with the flow.
2006-12-07 09:47:53 · answer #6 · answered by sarah_gotdance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell your friend you still like him as lying to her will only make it worse. the guy you like may like you better than her you never know, just don,t let him come between you both.
2006-12-07 09:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by designed for life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be more honest with your own feelings. You may lose someone you truly belong with if you continue this sort of behaviour.
2006-12-07 09:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by Laris 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u have a right to be sad. ur friend should know better. she should know it will hurt u even if u are over it. so talk to her. tell her ur not ok iwth it.
2006-12-07 09:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by punk girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah...if your buddi knows that you liked him and then she asked you to tell him for her, then shes the one thats out of line. ask him out b4 she does. i hope you guyz are happy
2006-12-07 09:43:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋