For guys---are you ever truly too busy to call a girl you care about?

Question

The guy I am asking about is a friend and we've kind of gone back and forth on whether we have more than a friendship.

I know the guy who does this is truly busy with work and is under alot of pressure. He will call after a month or six weeks or so and say he is so sorry that he has been so busy he just hasn't had a spare minute. He will point out he remembers things I may have e-mailed him about in the last month and he'll let me know I am just about the only one he makes time for to call at all.

Then he will tell me he really does want to keep in touch with me but he's so busy it's hard for him. He always tells me he will talk to me soon and he does want to stay in touch and then it's another month or six weeks.

Guys - could he be too busy really? If he's not why does he keep in touch at all? Is it a game? Help me understand why he would do this please.

Answer 1

I dont think that he is that busy to call even for a second......evebn before he goes to sleep, or in the call, or een in the damn shower!!

Answer 2

Well, the way I see it, you should never be too busy to contact somebody you really have feelings for. I am single now, but when I was with my last girlfriend, no matter how busy I was I made time to call her at least once a day from work. Then we would also talk when I got home from work. You have to have priorities in this life! I would never put work in front of a personal relationship.... That's just how I am.

Answer 3

Unfortunately I think he is just making excuses. You MAKE time for the people who are important to you. It doesn't take much to call someone more than once a month. He is either dedicated to his work and that's all he cares about right now, or he isn't interested in you that way. He likes being your friend and keeping in touch, but there isn't that something special that makes him miss you and desire the sound of your voice. There could also be someone else that is filling his time that he doesn't want to tell you about, because he doesn't want to hurt you. Whatever it is, if he had any special feelings for you, regardless of how full his schedule is, he would make the time to call you way more than he is. It sounds like it is time for you to let go of anything but a friendship for him, and accept the occasional phone call from a friend.

Answer 4

I work in a job that is sometimes very busy. So busy, in fact, that I don't always call people when I think I should. But calling a month or six weeks later? It sounds as if this dude is just using his job to keep you at somewhat of a distance.

Find someone who'll call or come see you because they want to. Even if they're really busy, they'll make time if they care for you.

Answer 5

if that is truly the case with this guy, then it sounds like even if he has real feelings for you he doesn't have enough time to pursue a romantic relationship. you would always feel frustrated about the amount of time he has available. i think if he was in love he could make time b/c its all he'd be thinking about. maybe he is not that serious about you and he's trying to let you down easy by spending great lengths of time away from you so you don't develop intense feelings for him and/or start a new relationship with someone else. then he could go back to being your bud instead of the main guy in your life.

Answer 6

I know I'm not a guy, but the answers is no.

Would you ever be too busy to call the guy you really liked?

There is a book called 'He's Just Not That Into You', you should read it, it gives you really helpful and honest advice.

Good luck!

Answer 7

To me, a guy should never be too busy to call a girl/woman he cares about. To me, my girlfriend is my top priority Period. Idk the so i can;t really give you an honest answer. It all depends on his personality and his character and his background information. If he is the romantic type, than yes he prolly is busy, and tries to find the best time to talk to you. But if he's the casual 'I dont give a ****' type, than no hes prolly not busy, he just forgets to call you, and does it every so often.

Best of luck.

Answer 8

Well...I dont know your situation so ...Can I really say..Bwt, I am gurl...Guys are never too busy to call you I know that bec if he really loves he will call you 10 times in one day to see how you are doing...

Do you have online relationship with this guy or are you guys same city ? ? ? If you are in same city then this is not interested in you simply bec he is making up the excuses...

If he is different country then still he is making up the excuses bec he can also email you regular chat/IMs etc.

I know this bec my BF is in USA and I am in Canada...he has long distance from Vonage bec he call me every day - sometimes 4-5 times in a day I am not sayin he is on phone for hrs I mean only 5 mins to say...": I miss you" or ": I love you"

Find out more about him Good LUCK!

Answer 9

I'll put it as nicely as possible; you were just next on his list and called you up real quick. If a guy is crazy about a chick he will call here probably as soon as he gets to a phone or the very next day. If it takes him awhile it means you just aren't that important to you.
Do something for yourself and forget about him and find a new guy, one that calls you within at least a few days.

Answer 10

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