Lack of self confidence?

Question

Hi I am 15 years old and very depressed because I have no self confidence some times I look in the mirror and think I am so ugly, however sometimes I look in the mirror and think I am o.k. My mum says I am beautiful but I don't believe her because that is what all mums say. It is really getting me down because sometimes I don't want to go to school because I don't feel as good as the other girls and sometimes I cry (I know that is stupid but I can't help it). I have now decided the right hairstyle and colouring will fix my problems. So I was wondering whether if I was to send you a picyure of myself you could give me some makeup advice and hairstyle and colour advice to suit me. I am going to the hairdressers on saturday. Thankyou for the help. P.s If you would like to help me please email me and I will send a picture (not sure quite how to though but if you could help me I will be able to send a pic) please be nice

Thankyou everyone for being so nice.

Answer 1

I am 24, and you sound exactly like me.
I was much worse when I was your age though. I always used to cry and feel very depressed about my looks. I too tried to make myself feel better with external things like clothes, a new hair do and stuff like that, but believe me, none of it helps what so ever!
Maybe for a short period of time but that's it.
Honestly....you need to love yourself, you need to accept that you are a unique individual with special qualities.
Trust me, what you are going through does get easier as you get older, but I TOTALLY understand what you are going through.
Don't look for external things to make you feel better. Just love yourself for you. I'm sure you're a really beautiful person.
Good luck.

Answer 2

No need to send your photo to strangers sweet-heart for us all to know that you ARE beautiful.

Confidence comes from experience and the more you experience, the more your confidence in yourself will grow!

Think on this as well, all the girls I knew when I was 15 that were 'hot', were also burned up by 18, is that the way you wanna go?

It has NOTHING to do with whether you look like a clone of everyone else, or whether you meet anyone else's definition of exterior beauty, this is really shallow, do you want to fit in to dance to 'someone else's tune'!

You will become more sure of yourself, you WILL come to see how beautiful you are and the more LIFE you live, the more confident you will become. Stop stressing gorgeous and start smiling, 15 is great and with a positive attitude, the only way is UP!

Answer 3

I hate so sound like a jerk, but I don't think a new hairstyle and color will fix your problems. There's nothing wrong with changing your hair to give yourself a bit of a lift, but low self esteem is a hard problem to beat. There are no easy fixes for it. You just kind of have to tell yourself every day that you are a beautiful person, inside and outside. You could also keep a journal and write down only positive things about yourself. Have fun with your new hair, but remember, self confidence comes from within!

Answer 4

it's true... ur looks are a Start, but there is a deeper problem going on with you.. and really all people, whether young or old. sometimes it's SO HARD to feel confident and happy and positive. i think u are starting on the right path though... here is my advice to you:

the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.

so having said that, work on:

1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.

2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.

3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.

:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.

Answer 5

I suffered from depression and low self esteem in the past and I can recommend using relaxation techniques (buy a CD) and excercise. Also a healthy balanced diet helps, and although I have never taken Antidepressants, try St Johns Wort, after a couple of weeks youll find that your thoughts are more focussed, rather than wandering around all over the place. Listen when people say positive things about you, and focus on them, rather than worrying about negative things.

Answer 6

Please dont send anyone your photo or any other personal details as it could prove to be dangerous to you. It is a normal thing for most teenagers to feel the way you do at some time or another. You say you are going to get your hair done on Saturday. well that will make you feel better for starters. Ask a good friend to help you with make-up or go to a Debenhams store's make-up department and they will give you plenty of tips and advice on make-up and skin care. Learn to like yourself and your confidence will grow!

Answer 7

firstly not all mums say that, my mum says that I'm an ugly c*** ( no joke)! I wouldn't advise changing yourself, if you think this will solve your problems then you are wrong. Self confidence comes slowly, but here's a trick for a bit of a short term boost. If you believe in this it will work, I promise. Go somewhere where no one will be able to hear you, stand up straight and say the following in a very bold voice. 'I'm beutiful, I'm stunning and I'm amazing!' . Repeat this 5 times, then take a look in the mirror.

Good luck and believe in yourself, you are amazing just to be brave enough to come on here and ask about this.

Answer 8

they don't seem continually a similar! i'm sick of folk making that assumption. Shyness in certain situations effects from the brains want to guage a situation for safe practices and unstated regulations. Shyness is likewise led to through no longer having adequate social reviews on your life. if you're actually not used to chatting with human beings, for sure it is going to likely be more durable. that's like a lack of social skills. definite, shyness should be led to through lack of self assurance, yet that ought to no longer be the idea properly of the bat. Assuming that that's what it really is at the same time as there are countless different causes for shyness basically makes you look ignorant. to reply to the unique question, it basically relies upon on the fellow. diverse human beings are shy for diverse causes.

Answer 9

It truly IS what's on the inside and not just on the outside that counts. It's fine to look your best, but if there's nothing to back it up it's pointless and the impression of beauty will fall flat in a heartbeat. The makeup and hair style is not going to "fix" you. You need to find things to do that you will enjoy. You need to get out in the world. Staying in your room and drowning in self-pity is not the way to go. You absolutely ARE as good-looking as anyone else and all you need to do is go out and share yourself with the world!

Answer 10

I understand how looking good, can make your confidence boost.
im 14, ive got some gd lking mates and ive got some not so gd lkin mates..but..ALL MY MATES ARE AMAZING!
To be honest, i would rather prefer to be with 1 or 2 REALLY nice ppeople who have some spots here and there or dont look so 'amazing' as everyone else. Than to be with 20 really good lucking stuck up people.
Tomorrow go to school, and when you feel ugly say in your head "I am Cool, everyone thinks im cool, everyone is my friend and i am sexy, and I CAN DO THIS!"
go for it :)